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Nerdy little soul. Usually to be found with nose stuck in book, occasionally emerges from lair to fangirl. Warning: opinionated. Aspires to be, as Mhairi McFarlane once put it, "a menace in polka dots."
I think a lot of folk are conditioned to see the dumper as The Bad Guy™️ unless some obvious provocation like cheating occurs. So you get them thinking they need proof of wrongdoing and no, you’re not a court, you don’t require guilt beyond reasonable doubt.’ You get to do whatever’s best for you
November 30, 2025 at 12:06 PM
I think a lot of folk are conditioned to see the dumper as The Bad Guy™️ unless some obvious provocation like cheating occurs. So you get them thinking they need proof of wrongdoing and no, you’re not a court, you don’t require guilt beyond reasonable doubt.’ You get to do whatever’s best for you
This is my take too. If you’re at the stage you feel desperately in need of a loyalty test, then the test result is already redundant
November 30, 2025 at 11:53 AM
This is my take too. If you’re at the stage you feel desperately in need of a loyalty test, then the test result is already redundant
Maybe I’m just weird, but I can’t say I’d find “I would backstab my sibling and blow up my entire family in order to fuck you, their partner” a particularly flattering proposition. Mainly that would make me think you’re a selfish child, and if fool enough to accept I’d lose you the way I found you
November 29, 2025 at 5:02 PM
Maybe I’m just weird, but I can’t say I’d find “I would backstab my sibling and blow up my entire family in order to fuck you, their partner” a particularly flattering proposition. Mainly that would make me think you’re a selfish child, and if fool enough to accept I’d lose you the way I found you
I got Lucanis and then like I hadn’t already spent enough money got Rook too
November 29, 2025 at 4:55 PM
I got Lucanis and then like I hadn’t already spent enough money got Rook too
I once had two separate deliveries on the same van (I knew because they send you the driver’s name and time slot), one was delivered and the other was marked as “couldn’t find property.” Apparently he got hopelessly lost on my front doorstep
November 29, 2025 at 4:52 PM
I once had two separate deliveries on the same van (I knew because they send you the driver’s name and time slot), one was delivered and the other was marked as “couldn’t find property.” Apparently he got hopelessly lost on my front doorstep
Josie will have exquisitely catered the Main Hall so I can deal with a few stuffy nobles.
November 27, 2025 at 7:12 PM
Josie will have exquisitely catered the Main Hall so I can deal with a few stuffy nobles.
Apparently these folk have never considered the idea that children are more likely to voluntarily hug you when you’re not a person who forces them to hug you while they physically recoil
November 26, 2025 at 3:19 PM
Apparently these folk have never considered the idea that children are more likely to voluntarily hug you when you’re not a person who forces them to hug you while they physically recoil
Let me guess, that group is full of a lot of estranged grandparents and missing missing reasons
November 26, 2025 at 3:14 PM
Let me guess, that group is full of a lot of estranged grandparents and missing missing reasons
Yes! See also ‘it is what it is’ (I know a lot of people loathe that one, but for me it’s just easier and more PG than saying “well it’s a clusterfuck but we can’t do shit about it so let’s not kill my mood wanging on about it shall we”)
November 26, 2025 at 3:13 PM
Yes! See also ‘it is what it is’ (I know a lot of people loathe that one, but for me it’s just easier and more PG than saying “well it’s a clusterfuck but we can’t do shit about it so let’s not kill my mood wanging on about it shall we”)
We absolutely can and more to the point *should* control our emotions as adults. There is a limit - we can’t magic them away, or pick which one we have at which time - but we absolutely decide whether to regulate them or not and how to behave as a result of them. This asshole is his own problem
November 25, 2025 at 2:32 PM
We absolutely can and more to the point *should* control our emotions as adults. There is a limit - we can’t magic them away, or pick which one we have at which time - but we absolutely decide whether to regulate them or not and how to behave as a result of them. This asshole is his own problem
It is unbelievable how many idiots on LinkedIn post like this, having forgotten the purpose of that site and that it is not X or Facebook.
November 24, 2025 at 10:43 AM
It is unbelievable how many idiots on LinkedIn post like this, having forgotten the purpose of that site and that it is not X or Facebook.
Of course he's a 'coach.' This type of social media asshole is frequently schilling some course on how to be the douchiest alpha bro you can be, or otherwise purporting to teach other men. When in reality, this is spectacularly poor professional judgment from an alleged executive coach
November 24, 2025 at 10:38 AM
Of course he's a 'coach.' This type of social media asshole is frequently schilling some course on how to be the douchiest alpha bro you can be, or otherwise purporting to teach other men. When in reality, this is spectacularly poor professional judgment from an alleged executive coach
Male. Unusual for me but my playthroughs just did not click until I switched gender and there he was
November 22, 2025 at 7:27 PM
Male. Unusual for me but my playthroughs just did not click until I switched gender and there he was
Forgetting that for her it’s just a craving - what idiot expects a 19y old to be financially stable? That’s college age. Living on grilled cheese and ramen and whatever’s cheap is an entirely normal financial position for them to be in at that age. That’s part of why grown adults shouldn’t date kids
November 22, 2025 at 12:29 PM
Forgetting that for her it’s just a craving - what idiot expects a 19y old to be financially stable? That’s college age. Living on grilled cheese and ramen and whatever’s cheap is an entirely normal financial position for them to be in at that age. That’s part of why grown adults shouldn’t date kids
Hate, no. Intensely dislike yes lol
November 21, 2025 at 11:28 PM
Hate, no. Intensely dislike yes lol
One of the most valuable classes I've had was as an adult - was about difficult negotiations, but based very heavily in typical conflict handling behaviours and what's functional vs not. Also did a little exercise to identify what our personal tendencies were. So helpful! Wish kid me had had it!
November 21, 2025 at 2:59 PM
One of the most valuable classes I've had was as an adult - was about difficult negotiations, but based very heavily in typical conflict handling behaviours and what's functional vs not. Also did a little exercise to identify what our personal tendencies were. So helpful! Wish kid me had had it!
How I wish that we'd had seminars on functional coping techniques for shit like dealing with conflict, failure, disappointment etc etc. Adult me still has to wrestle with kid me's avoidance instinct, I think because kid me lacked the tools that dial shit down from 'scary' to 'unpleasant but doable'
November 21, 2025 at 2:53 PM
How I wish that we'd had seminars on functional coping techniques for shit like dealing with conflict, failure, disappointment etc etc. Adult me still has to wrestle with kid me's avoidance instinct, I think because kid me lacked the tools that dial shit down from 'scary' to 'unpleasant but doable'
The pre-teen understood it was mean. He’s a grown man. Enough said.
November 20, 2025 at 10:46 PM
The pre-teen understood it was mean. He’s a grown man. Enough said.
The pink tax is their discount. Getting paid more than women for doing the same job is their discount. Which they get 365 days a year
November 20, 2025 at 9:03 PM
The pink tax is their discount. Getting paid more than women for doing the same job is their discount. Which they get 365 days a year
Tomorrow is Friday. Friday makes things shinier. Hold on!
November 20, 2025 at 12:34 PM
Tomorrow is Friday. Friday makes things shinier. Hold on!