why start with the suffragists? way before that, enslaved ppl used quilt patterns as code to assist those seeking freedom. I'm positive the us native resistance to genocide was/is also rich with this type of innovative resistance via craft but much of that history is so buried it takes digging.

there may have been a kinder more encouraging way to phrase this.

I imagine the family heads would discuss with that person's parents/guardians said individual's strengths, and then try to pair those tendencies with open niches that need filling, then see what they end up being good at while catching up on backlogged work. Needed areas get filled first.

did you ever have an honest talk with him about this? what did he say?

hands are like eyebrows. sisters not twins