Guys that expect that their partner will take care of their needs— without explicitly advocating and asking for those needs— treat their partner more as a mom than a person. These guys use covert asks (crying) rather than overt asks (communicating) and exhaust everyone

Is there a context where this behavior that is “bad” or making you feel “bad” actually makes sense? If so, see if you can invite that context into your life. If you can’t, remember the values behind why you can’t, and accept that maybe this behavior isn’t actually serving you…

Felt responsibility vs actual desire is the setup for neurotic behavior. Desire your responsibility and be responsible for your desire.

Difference between adventure and chaos— adventure we create ourselves, chaos we pity ourselves

We don’t have to feel anxious about feeling a little sad sometimes.
It’s normal.

Everyone who has ever given you a compliment wants something from you: not for the faint of heart.