I wonder what cats think clothes are

Not sure whether there’s something to this or not but the general fuck uppery of the platform has me no longer thinking of it as software that behaves as intended or expected

😧☹️

Oh hell yeah, now I’m not “avoiding hard inner truths”, I’m “leaving some for other people to find”

It only occurred to me just now

It must mean something different up there

Yeah if I catch any sort of dangerous vibe then it’s clearly expressed boundary time, and I’ll report, block, show a friend, whatever feels right.

I’ve only had it happen a couple times. It doesn’t bother me all that much but I think it helps that I try to check with myself how much I care for them to be wrong about me. Like whatever image they’ve created that’s part me and not me might not have to be my concern

Whereas the actual people needing help need a little bit of this at one point and a bit of that at another, but instead they become the target market for a modality trying to convince them all they need is more EMDR, bodywork, breathwork, psychedelics, meditation, CBT, somatic experiencing, etc.

Another thought… a frustrating shadow around all the trauma + healing + therapy + spiritual stuff is that our capitalistic system distorts such that most modalities achieve spread and growth by pretending to be the end-all-be-all of “the answer” rather than just one way at the same thing.

But all that said, I straight up got a degree in this stuff 10 years before I started realizing how it actually applied to me, so I definitely know ways that sitting next to the material without engaging it directly can be part of a process.

And being able to sense and discern when that’s happening, rather than avoidance or overwhelm or externalizing, is just another part of the capacity that grows over time.

It doesn’t matter too much which specific tools help any given person stay present in and compassionate/curious toward their experience enough to actually experience it, just that they do whatever supports them in doing that.

The thing about the tools is that there’s not a single healthy practice in the world that can’t be used for really good-looking avoidance.

So I think people need to get a really solid feel for the energy of avoidance and notice it no matter how trauma-healing-adjacent the practice is