On a whim, I searched their names.
And up came Sweet Adeline by Elliott Smith.
The obscure, late-90s sad indie song she was named for.
She sang “sweet meeeee” at the top of her lungs through the whole thing. #japan #elliottsmith #travellingwithkids

#ADHD #AuDHD #neurodivergentparenting #neurodivergentcouple #dedaultparent

And I need to get out of the house so I’ll take the kids out. And I’ll text another parent just to have a conversation about something else. So I’ve become the doer of all the parenting things cos my brain spirals in all directions and I can’t stay still.

Organise a play date. One of them needs new cheerleading shoes. I’ve gotta check when the next paed appointment is. Get a Vyvanse script filled. On and on.4/

Strangely enough, this is part of how I became the Default Parent. Because I can’t stay fixated on just one topic, I remember: I need to fill out the hospital admission form for our daughter’s dental surgery. Pay for next term’s drumming lessons. 3/

I hyperfixate too, sure. But then I suddenly get so bored by it I feel almost ill… I start spinning off into side quests, other concerns, other worries. And he’s still stuck on that one issue. 2/