kathleen
@kathleencoultes.bsky.social
wishing to escape Samsara
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Recovery supporting self talk is not stupidly "positive." Recovery supporting self-talk is realistically supportive, & emphasizes accountability as much as it does self compassion.
Trauma survivors, myself included, do not respond well to bullsh*t "positivity." Give us realism.
Trauma survivors, myself included, do not respond well to bullsh*t "positivity." Give us realism.
December 30, 2025 at 3:03 PM
Recovery supporting self talk is not stupidly "positive." Recovery supporting self-talk is realistically supportive, & emphasizes accountability as much as it does self compassion.
Trauma survivors, myself included, do not respond well to bullsh*t "positivity." Give us realism.
Trauma survivors, myself included, do not respond well to bullsh*t "positivity." Give us realism.
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As kids, we needed support in solving problems, not to be punished for having them. As adults working our trauma recovery, we need to break ourselves of that conditioned habit of shaming ourselves for struggling.
We didn't deserve that shame then, & we don't deserve it now.
We didn't deserve that shame then, & we don't deserve it now.
December 30, 2025 at 3:06 PM
As kids, we needed support in solving problems, not to be punished for having them. As adults working our trauma recovery, we need to break ourselves of that conditioned habit of shaming ourselves for struggling.
We didn't deserve that shame then, & we don't deserve it now.
We didn't deserve that shame then, & we don't deserve it now.
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Maybe your trauma conditioning is getting you to tell yourself a story about what's happening now that doesn't serve you all that well. Notice that happening; breathe; refuse to get or stay attached to that old story; & choose what you're going to say to yourself & do next.
December 29, 2025 at 3:03 PM
Maybe your trauma conditioning is getting you to tell yourself a story about what's happening now that doesn't serve you all that well. Notice that happening; breathe; refuse to get or stay attached to that old story; & choose what you're going to say to yourself & do next.
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Buddha advised the Kālāmas not to rely on tradition, scriptures, hearsay, or even the words of a revered teacher. Instead, they should judge for themselves based on their own experience, observing whether a teaching leads to well-being and happiness or to suffering.
😴 Goodnight
😴 Goodnight
December 28, 2025 at 10:32 PM
Buddha advised the Kālāmas not to rely on tradition, scriptures, hearsay, or even the words of a revered teacher. Instead, they should judge for themselves based on their own experience, observing whether a teaching leads to well-being and happiness or to suffering.
😴 Goodnight
😴 Goodnight
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Somehow Time Passed
Steve Driscoll
2021
Steve Driscoll
2021
December 28, 2025 at 3:30 PM
Somehow Time Passed
Steve Driscoll
2021
Steve Driscoll
2021
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Generational cycle breaking doesn't just happen in big, dramatic gestures. Breaking generational cycles of trauma also occurs in little, private moments of, "I refuse to talk to myself like my bullies & abusers talked to me. I won't do their dirty work for them in my own head."
December 28, 2025 at 1:57 PM
Generational cycle breaking doesn't just happen in big, dramatic gestures. Breaking generational cycles of trauma also occurs in little, private moments of, "I refuse to talk to myself like my bullies & abusers talked to me. I won't do their dirty work for them in my own head."
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Remember today that it is not on you to be a source of energy or emotional regulation for others who refuse to do their own recovery work-- including (especially!) your parents.
December 28, 2025 at 1:58 PM
Remember today that it is not on you to be a source of energy or emotional regulation for others who refuse to do their own recovery work-- including (especially!) your parents.
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I U N H E L D I
Nothing stays. Nothing is fully held.
An abstract meditation on vulnerability and impermanence—where form fades, surfaces breathe, and meaning exists only for a moment.
— The Asylum Art —
Art and words by Yves
#abstract #art #impermanence #complexptsd #cptsd #blueskyart
Nothing stays. Nothing is fully held.
An abstract meditation on vulnerability and impermanence—where form fades, surfaces breathe, and meaning exists only for a moment.
— The Asylum Art —
Art and words by Yves
#abstract #art #impermanence #complexptsd #cptsd #blueskyart
December 28, 2025 at 2:25 PM
I U N H E L D I
Nothing stays. Nothing is fully held.
An abstract meditation on vulnerability and impermanence—where form fades, surfaces breathe, and meaning exists only for a moment.
— The Asylum Art —
Art and words by Yves
#abstract #art #impermanence #complexptsd #cptsd #blueskyart
Nothing stays. Nothing is fully held.
An abstract meditation on vulnerability and impermanence—where form fades, surfaces breathe, and meaning exists only for a moment.
— The Asylum Art —
Art and words by Yves
#abstract #art #impermanence #complexptsd #cptsd #blueskyart
December 27, 2025 at 1:07 PM
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I Q U I E T B L O O M , E N D U R I N G
B L U E I
Some things don’t need to shout to survive.
Soft petals, scarred ground, quiet persistence.
Quiet Bloom, Enduring Blue
— The Asylum Art -
Art and words by Yves
#AbstractArt #bloom #Resilience #ContemporaryArt #flower #flowers #cptsd #art
B L U E I
Some things don’t need to shout to survive.
Soft petals, scarred ground, quiet persistence.
Quiet Bloom, Enduring Blue
— The Asylum Art -
Art and words by Yves
#AbstractArt #bloom #Resilience #ContemporaryArt #flower #flowers #cptsd #art
December 26, 2025 at 1:06 PM
I Q U I E T B L O O M , E N D U R I N G
B L U E I
Some things don’t need to shout to survive.
Soft petals, scarred ground, quiet persistence.
Quiet Bloom, Enduring Blue
— The Asylum Art -
Art and words by Yves
#AbstractArt #bloom #Resilience #ContemporaryArt #flower #flowers #cptsd #art
B L U E I
Some things don’t need to shout to survive.
Soft petals, scarred ground, quiet persistence.
Quiet Bloom, Enduring Blue
— The Asylum Art -
Art and words by Yves
#AbstractArt #bloom #Resilience #ContemporaryArt #flower #flowers #cptsd #art
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This is a reminder that changing how you habitually talk to yourself & feel isn't hard because you suck; it's hard because those patterns are conditioned, literally wired, into your nervous system.
Give yourself grace-- and also, keep chipping away, .01% by .01%.
Give yourself grace-- and also, keep chipping away, .01% by .01%.
December 26, 2025 at 6:09 AM
This is a reminder that changing how you habitually talk to yourself & feel isn't hard because you suck; it's hard because those patterns are conditioned, literally wired, into your nervous system.
Give yourself grace-- and also, keep chipping away, .01% by .01%.
Give yourself grace-- and also, keep chipping away, .01% by .01%.
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Understanding why we thought (whatever) once upon a time, why we did (whatever), why we believed (whoever), why we stayed w/ (whomever), is all part of trauma recovery-- that we have to approach w/ compassion & grace, not judgment.
We can't undo the past w/ self-punishment now.
We can't undo the past w/ self-punishment now.
December 26, 2025 at 6:12 AM
Understanding why we thought (whatever) once upon a time, why we did (whatever), why we believed (whoever), why we stayed w/ (whomever), is all part of trauma recovery-- that we have to approach w/ compassion & grace, not judgment.
We can't undo the past w/ self-punishment now.
We can't undo the past w/ self-punishment now.
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Illustration by Moomins author, Finnish artist Tove Jansson.
#December25th #ArtAdvent 🎄 ❄️ #ChristmasDay 🤍
#December25th #ArtAdvent 🎄 ❄️ #ChristmasDay 🤍
December 25, 2025 at 7:02 AM
Illustration by Moomins author, Finnish artist Tove Jansson.
#December25th #ArtAdvent 🎄 ❄️ #ChristmasDay 🤍
#December25th #ArtAdvent 🎄 ❄️ #ChristmasDay 🤍
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Collaborative artwork, 2019 by the senior Indigenous women artists of Amata in the APY Lands of Australia #WomensArt
December 25, 2025 at 7:49 AM
Collaborative artwork, 2019 by the senior Indigenous women artists of Amata in the APY Lands of Australia #WomensArt
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I E N C R O A C H I N G S I L E N C E I
Encroaching Silence — an abstract meditation on confinement and anxiety. Dark forms press inward as fragile light struggles to breathe. A space where safety and suffocation become indistinguishable.
— The Asylum Art —
Art and words by Yves
#art #cptsd
Encroaching Silence — an abstract meditation on confinement and anxiety. Dark forms press inward as fragile light struggles to breathe. A space where safety and suffocation become indistinguishable.
— The Asylum Art —
Art and words by Yves
#art #cptsd
December 24, 2025 at 2:31 PM
#BlueSkyArtShow #OpenHouse #Acrylic #Painting
A mini painting of a horse in darkness I did a few years back.
A mini painting of a horse in darkness I did a few years back.
December 20, 2025 at 12:12 PM
#BlueSkyArtShow #OpenHouse #Acrylic #Painting
A mini painting of a horse in darkness I did a few years back.
A mini painting of a horse in darkness I did a few years back.
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Focus today on the tiniest decisions, hour by hour, minute by minute, that can support your trauma recovery. Focus on little things that can help you feel .1% more stable & clear. Decluttering a corner. Deleting five emails. Drinking one glass of water.
Make recovery realistic.
Make recovery realistic.
December 19, 2025 at 3:48 PM
Focus today on the tiniest decisions, hour by hour, minute by minute, that can support your trauma recovery. Focus on little things that can help you feel .1% more stable & clear. Decluttering a corner. Deleting five emails. Drinking one glass of water.
Make recovery realistic.
Make recovery realistic.
I absolutely do love my transgender daughter. I am blessed to have her in my life.
December 18, 2025 at 9:50 PM
I absolutely do love my transgender daughter. I am blessed to have her in my life.
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The significance of the Buddhist teaching lies in the fact that it isn’t doctrinal. It’s not an attempt to tell us how things should be, it’s more a way of bringing our attention to the way things are.
Ajahn Sumedho
Goodnight everyone.
Ajahn Sumedho
Goodnight everyone.
December 17, 2025 at 10:54 PM
The significance of the Buddhist teaching lies in the fact that it isn’t doctrinal. It’s not an attempt to tell us how things should be, it’s more a way of bringing our attention to the way things are.
Ajahn Sumedho
Goodnight everyone.
Ajahn Sumedho
Goodnight everyone.
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At some point in our trauma recovery, we are absolutely going to be faced w/ the choice of losing someone else, or losing ourselves. It sucks-- but if the only way we can keep someone in our life is by betraying ourselves, that price is too high.
No more self abandonment.
No more self abandonment.
December 16, 2025 at 5:52 AM
At some point in our trauma recovery, we are absolutely going to be faced w/ the choice of losing someone else, or losing ourselves. It sucks-- but if the only way we can keep someone in our life is by betraying ourselves, that price is too high.
No more self abandonment.
No more self abandonment.
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Every time your brain tries to frame trauma recovery as "sh*t I have to do," challenge it w/ the reframe, "tools that keep me from having to do sh*t I don't ever want to want to do again."
Recovery is a roadmap to our authenticity, not a list of rules & obligations.
Recovery is a roadmap to our authenticity, not a list of rules & obligations.
December 16, 2025 at 5:55 AM
Every time your brain tries to frame trauma recovery as "sh*t I have to do," challenge it w/ the reframe, "tools that keep me from having to do sh*t I don't ever want to want to do again."
Recovery is a roadmap to our authenticity, not a list of rules & obligations.
Recovery is a roadmap to our authenticity, not a list of rules & obligations.
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I C H R O M A T I C B L O O M I
A flower split by temperature and emotion.
Warmth meets cold, softness meets tension.
Chromatic Bloom — where light reshapes feeling into color.
— The Asylum Art —
Art and words by Yves
#peony #flower #flowers #emotion #bloom #complexptsd #cptsd #blueskyart
A flower split by temperature and emotion.
Warmth meets cold, softness meets tension.
Chromatic Bloom — where light reshapes feeling into color.
— The Asylum Art —
Art and words by Yves
#peony #flower #flowers #emotion #bloom #complexptsd #cptsd #blueskyart
December 15, 2025 at 1:38 PM
I C H R O M A T I C B L O O M I
A flower split by temperature and emotion.
Warmth meets cold, softness meets tension.
Chromatic Bloom — where light reshapes feeling into color.
— The Asylum Art —
Art and words by Yves
#peony #flower #flowers #emotion #bloom #complexptsd #cptsd #blueskyart
A flower split by temperature and emotion.
Warmth meets cold, softness meets tension.
Chromatic Bloom — where light reshapes feeling into color.
— The Asylum Art —
Art and words by Yves
#peony #flower #flowers #emotion #bloom #complexptsd #cptsd #blueskyart
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Pines, Algonquin Park
J.E.H. MacDonald
1914
J.E.H. MacDonald
1914
December 14, 2025 at 3:30 PM
Pines, Algonquin Park
J.E.H. MacDonald
1914
J.E.H. MacDonald
1914