Adekola
@kola2.bsky.social
A lot of things broke my heart but fixed my vision.
Sometimes hookups are the only place queer individuals feel chosen.
Not because we don’t want love, but because rejection, bias, and silence make us believe sex is the only “yes” we’ll get.
The danger is when that momentary validation starts to feel like the only kind of intimacy we deserve.
Not because we don’t want love, but because rejection, bias, and silence make us believe sex is the only “yes” we’ll get.
The danger is when that momentary validation starts to feel like the only kind of intimacy we deserve.
August 22, 2025 at 4:03 PM
Sometimes hookups are the only place queer individuals feel chosen.
Not because we don’t want love, but because rejection, bias, and silence make us believe sex is the only “yes” we’ll get.
The danger is when that momentary validation starts to feel like the only kind of intimacy we deserve.
Not because we don’t want love, but because rejection, bias, and silence make us believe sex is the only “yes” we’ll get.
The danger is when that momentary validation starts to feel like the only kind of intimacy we deserve.
Reposted by Adekola
In gay dating spaces, there’s often an unspoken hierarchy of desirability.
It’s not just about attraction, it’s tied to cultural biases. The “masc for masc” mentality pushes men to present a certain way: muscular, straight-passing, emotionally detached.
feeling like a performance for approval.
It’s not just about attraction, it’s tied to cultural biases. The “masc for masc” mentality pushes men to present a certain way: muscular, straight-passing, emotionally detached.
feeling like a performance for approval.
August 22, 2025 at 3:53 PM
In gay dating spaces, there’s often an unspoken hierarchy of desirability.
It’s not just about attraction, it’s tied to cultural biases. The “masc for masc” mentality pushes men to present a certain way: muscular, straight-passing, emotionally detached.
feeling like a performance for approval.
It’s not just about attraction, it’s tied to cultural biases. The “masc for masc” mentality pushes men to present a certain way: muscular, straight-passing, emotionally detached.
feeling like a performance for approval.
In gay dating spaces, there’s often an unspoken hierarchy of desirability.
It’s not just about attraction, it’s tied to cultural biases. The “masc for masc” mentality pushes men to present a certain way: muscular, straight-passing, emotionally detached.
feeling like a performance for approval.
It’s not just about attraction, it’s tied to cultural biases. The “masc for masc” mentality pushes men to present a certain way: muscular, straight-passing, emotionally detached.
feeling like a performance for approval.
August 22, 2025 at 3:53 PM
In gay dating spaces, there’s often an unspoken hierarchy of desirability.
It’s not just about attraction, it’s tied to cultural biases. The “masc for masc” mentality pushes men to present a certain way: muscular, straight-passing, emotionally detached.
feeling like a performance for approval.
It’s not just about attraction, it’s tied to cultural biases. The “masc for masc” mentality pushes men to present a certain way: muscular, straight-passing, emotionally detached.
feeling like a performance for approval.
Reposted by Adekola
Trans celeb Bobrisky appeals 6-month prison sentence for tossing money at party
76crimes.com/2024/04/25/b...
#LGBT #LGBTQ #LGBTrights #humanrights #LGBTQrights #Africa #Nigeria #Bobrisky @bobrisky222_ #trans
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#LGBT #LGBTQ #LGBTrights #humanrights #LGBTQrights #Africa #Nigeria #Bobrisky @bobrisky222_ #trans
Bobrisky: Trans celeb appeals 'naira abuse' prison sentence for money-tossing
Internet celebrity Bobrisky was convicted of 'naira abuse' after Nigerian money celebration
76crimes.com
April 25, 2024 at 8:29 PM
Trans celeb Bobrisky appeals 6-month prison sentence for tossing money at party
76crimes.com/2024/04/25/b...
#LGBT #LGBTQ #LGBTrights #humanrights #LGBTQrights #Africa #Nigeria #Bobrisky @bobrisky222_ #trans
76crimes.com/2024/04/25/b...
#LGBT #LGBTQ #LGBTrights #humanrights #LGBTQrights #Africa #Nigeria #Bobrisky @bobrisky222_ #trans
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#Nigéria #Nigeria #Нигерия #ナイジェリア #नाइजीरिया #نيجيريا #尼日利亚 #Nijeriya #Naíjíríyà #Nàìjíríà .
LGBTQ+ Nigerians battle dating app traps
#LGBTQ+ PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE
JUSTICE FOR THESE PEOPLE
#LGBT+
LGBTQ+ Nigerians battle dating app traps
#LGBTQ+ PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE
JUSTICE FOR THESE PEOPLE
#LGBT+
LGBTQ+ Nigerians using apps like Grindr caught in dating traps | Context
LGBTQ+ Nigerians are fighting back against online dating attacks, exposing and even entrapping the criminals behind the assaults
www.context.news
May 2, 2024 at 4:48 AM
If things go well, we believe our control led to that outcome.
If things go poorly, we assume forces outside of our control conspired against us.
Neither assessment is true. And yet, both are true
If things go poorly, we assume forces outside of our control conspired against us.
Neither assessment is true. And yet, both are true
December 13, 2023 at 1:52 PM
If things go well, we believe our control led to that outcome.
If things go poorly, we assume forces outside of our control conspired against us.
Neither assessment is true. And yet, both are true
If things go poorly, we assume forces outside of our control conspired against us.
Neither assessment is true. And yet, both are true
I like to have control.
Of my time, my work, and my future.
But control is an illusion — and so is our lack of it.
Control is an illusion we create to justify what happens to us.
December 13, 2023 at 1:52 PM
I like to have control.
Of my time, my work, and my future.
But control is an illusion — and so is our lack of it.
Control is an illusion we create to justify what happens to us.
Control Is An Illusion
We always have it and we never have it.
December 13, 2023 at 1:51 PM
Control Is An Illusion
We always have it and we never have it.
Control is an illusion. Sometimes, two opposite things can be true. We are both never in control and always in control of our lives.
December 13, 2023 at 1:45 PM
Control is an illusion. Sometimes, two opposite things can be true. We are both never in control and always in control of our lives.
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Surround yourself with those who fit your future, not your past.
It’s impossible to fail when your network is constantly discussing building wealth, entrepreneurship, investing and personal growth.
Your circle can make or break you, so choose wisely.
It’s impossible to fail when your network is constantly discussing building wealth, entrepreneurship, investing and personal growth.
Your circle can make or break you, so choose wisely.
December 3, 2023 at 3:43 PM
Surround yourself with those who fit your future, not your past.
It’s impossible to fail when your network is constantly discussing building wealth, entrepreneurship, investing and personal growth.
Your circle can make or break you, so choose wisely.
It’s impossible to fail when your network is constantly discussing building wealth, entrepreneurship, investing and personal growth.
Your circle can make or break you, so choose wisely.
You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him find it within himself.
November 30, 2023 at 12:54 PM
You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him find it within himself.
You can't start a new chapter if you keep re-reading the last one
November 18, 2023 at 9:58 AM
You can't start a new chapter if you keep re-reading the last one