And for the love of God do NOT misconstrue this as “I posted about how I worried about (name), they’re saying I’m virtue signaling for expressing my concern!!”

I am explicitly talking about people who are stalking and breaching my privacy just to make themselves look good.

And if you see this and get defensive, and it’s clearly not about you, please reevaluate your actions with others and come to terms why you feel so defensive.

This is a reminder of what happens when you let abusers run free and get opportunities to grow big.

This is a reminder of how allowing abusers to grow in these creative collaborative spaces constantly trigger and silence victims to the point they cannot feel safe speaking to ANYONE.

Goodbye.

It’s not the victim’s responsibility to try to hold an abuser accountable if the abuser has concerning public behavior, especially if the victim has stated multiple times they cannot come forward.

By breaching my privacy and going around telling people this is your “confirmation”, you’ve just made it completely unsafe for me to be on this account.

I have reasons why I did not speak to anyone who reached out.

Stop speaking for me.

I suspect there is an ex-mutual who already offed themselves because of this abuser because they’re nowhere to be found online either and the abuser has wiped any mention of them on their accounts too.

How many times do I have to say I will be doxxed and they and their associates have threatened to hurt me? And people STILL bully me and pressure me?

Don’t even think of screenshotting or sharing this because clearly my abuser knows things going on in the community. They absolutely will target me.

I can’t believe I have to deal with people saying I’m unattractive for venting about my experience, or shaming me for not exposing these people, or pressuring me to say who it is.

How many times do I have to say, I’ll be in danger if I come forward?

You want to support victims who are in danger if they come out? It’s simple. Don’t even force them to come out.

If the abuser’s concerning behavior is so public, why expose a victim’s experience (which they want to keep private) instead of… addressing what the abuser has done and said publicly?

I thought I was safe by pivoting to a hobby and was welcomed by the community, just to see my abuser follow me into it and I get overshadowed because now their works have thousands of views and even more followers.

Every day the numbers go up for them, the more I have to get triggered because at that point I can no longer block and mute.

It’s already been long past that and I had to grin and bear it and pretend nothing is wrong. It’s not my place to dictate what others post, so I stay quiet.

Do not take away my agency by speaking for me and saying I am OK when I am not.

I have stressed that I am not safe as long as the people who hurt me are still in these spaces.

So many people want to do good because they worry and this is understandable. Thank you for your concern.

But some people are virtue signaling with my trauma.

Please do NOT breach my privacy.

Do NOT chase down people I MIGHT know and bother them about me.

My experience with this abuser has completely broken my trust in people.

And when I thought I could finally trust others again, people tried to get in my business and speak for me and share with strangers my experiences. And then these strangers get mad at me for not defending myself back then.

I cannot be your sacrificial lamb and make my personal experience public just to “prove” these people are hurting others.

My experience, which I do not have tangible proof of, because it was done in a way that it’s untracable online, cannot and SHOULD NOT be your information to share to others.

But no, all that fandom does is platform abusers, throw away their morals, and overshadow victims if it means they can get views.

In a perfect world I would have liked someone to take action without putting me in danger, because clearly these abusers have public behavior that should be called out.