Charmagne K Der
@lawwithcharm.bsky.social
Family Lawyer | UK
🫦Skilled negotiator; in court & with my cats.🐾
💜 Advocate for victims of DV.
⚖️ Champion of justice.
☕️ Tea NOT coffee
🌾 Occasional catnip hustler.
Views are my own...
🫦Skilled negotiator; in court & with my cats.🐾
💜 Advocate for victims of DV.
⚖️ Champion of justice.
☕️ Tea NOT coffee
🌾 Occasional catnip hustler.
Views are my own...
Grandparents don’t have automatic rights to contact with grandchildren in the UK, but they CAN apply to court if contact breaks down. Courts often see the value of children maintaining wider family relationships where safe and appropriate
December 12, 2025 at 6:15 PM
Grandparents don’t have automatic rights to contact with grandchildren in the UK, but they CAN apply to court if contact breaks down. Courts often see the value of children maintaining wider family relationships where safe and appropriate
Going to court doesn’t always mean a dramatic courtroom scene. Many hearings are paperwork-based, done remotely, or focused on negotiation between solicitors. The goal is resolution, not conflict or “winning.”
December 12, 2025 at 10:23 AM
Going to court doesn’t always mean a dramatic courtroom scene. Many hearings are paperwork-based, done remotely, or focused on negotiation between solicitors. The goal is resolution, not conflict or “winning.”
Domestic abuse isn’t only physical. UK law recognises controlling and coercive behaviour, financial abuse and emotional harm. Support and protective orders are available, and you don’t need to wait for an emergency to seek advice.
December 11, 2025 at 7:01 PM
Domestic abuse isn’t only physical. UK law recognises controlling and coercive behaviour, financial abuse and emotional harm. Support and protective orders are available, and you don’t need to wait for an emergency to seek advice.
Parental responsibility means being involved in decisions about education, health and religion. Mothers automatically have it; fathers usually get it if married to the mother or named on the birth certificate after 2003 in England & Wales.
December 11, 2025 at 11:00 AM
Parental responsibility means being involved in decisions about education, health and religion. Mothers automatically have it; fathers usually get it if married to the mother or named on the birth certificate after 2003 in England & Wales.
If you live together without marrying, you are NOT “common-law spouses” in the UK. That’s a myth. Cohabiting partners don’t have the same legal rights as married couples, especially around property. Planning ahead can protect both of you. Cohabitation Agreements are just one way.
December 10, 2025 at 6:03 PM
If you live together without marrying, you are NOT “common-law spouses” in the UK. That’s a myth. Cohabiting partners don’t have the same legal rights as married couples, especially around property. Planning ahead can protect both of you. Cohabitation Agreements are just one way.
Mediation isn’t about “giving in”, it’s a structured way to reach agreement without long court battles. UK family courts expect most separating couples to consider mediation before applying to court, unless there are safety concerns.
December 10, 2025 at 10:15 AM
Mediation isn’t about “giving in”, it’s a structured way to reach agreement without long court battles. UK family courts expect most separating couples to consider mediation before applying to court, unless there are safety concerns.
Financial settlements in divorce aren’t automatically 50/50. Courts look at needs, earning capacity, childcare responsibilities and housing security. Every situation is unique, and negotiation or mediation can often avoid court altogether.
December 9, 2025 at 6:45 PM
Financial settlements in divorce aren’t automatically 50/50. Courts look at needs, earning capacity, childcare responsibilities and housing security. Every situation is unique, and negotiation or mediation can often avoid court altogether.
Did you know a Child Arrangements Order doesn’t “award custody”? The terms “custody” and “access” aren’t used in UK law anymore. Courts talk about where the child lives and when they spend time with each parent. Language matters a lot in family cases.
December 9, 2025 at 10:30 AM
Did you know a Child Arrangements Order doesn’t “award custody”? The terms “custody” and “access” aren’t used in UK law anymore. Courts talk about where the child lives and when they spend time with each parent. Language matters a lot in family cases.
In the UK, you can divorce without blaming your partner. “No-fault divorce” means you only need to show the relationship has broken down irretrievably, removing conflict and hostility from the legal process.
December 8, 2025 at 6:02 PM
In the UK, you can divorce without blaming your partner. “No-fault divorce” means you only need to show the relationship has broken down irretrievably, removing conflict and hostility from the legal process.
Co-parenting after separation isn’t just about schedules it’s about supporting your child’s routine, emotional wellbeing and relationships. UK courts prioritise a child’s best interests in any arrangement, not parental “rights.” #seperation
December 8, 2025 at 10:00 AM
Co-parenting after separation isn’t just about schedules it’s about supporting your child’s routine, emotional wellbeing and relationships. UK courts prioritise a child’s best interests in any arrangement, not parental “rights.” #seperation
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Winter can be especially dangerous for anyone sleeping rough outdoors.
If you spot someone who needs support on London's streets, you can notify StreetLink via this link to connect them with vital local services.
thestreetlink.org.uk
If you spot someone who needs support on London's streets, you can notify StreetLink via this link to connect them with vital local services.
thestreetlink.org.uk
December 7, 2025 at 8:02 AM
Winter can be especially dangerous for anyone sleeping rough outdoors.
If you spot someone who needs support on London's streets, you can notify StreetLink via this link to connect them with vital local services.
thestreetlink.org.uk
If you spot someone who needs support on London's streets, you can notify StreetLink via this link to connect them with vital local services.
thestreetlink.org.uk
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Over 82,000 children in care in England are waiting to be fostered or adopted.
Not every child has a safe beginning. Help us create a new start and loving home by donating to our Christmas appeal: coram.org.uk/christmas
Home is where the start is ❤️
#WeAreCoram #Charity
Not every child has a safe beginning. Help us create a new start and loving home by donating to our Christmas appeal: coram.org.uk/christmas
Home is where the start is ❤️
#WeAreCoram #Charity
December 5, 2025 at 3:51 PM
Over 82,000 children in care in England are waiting to be fostered or adopted.
Not every child has a safe beginning. Help us create a new start and loving home by donating to our Christmas appeal: coram.org.uk/christmas
Home is where the start is ❤️
#WeAreCoram #Charity
Not every child has a safe beginning. Help us create a new start and loving home by donating to our Christmas appeal: coram.org.uk/christmas
Home is where the start is ❤️
#WeAreCoram #Charity
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We love donations, but here’s another way to support ATLEU - instruct our sister private law firm Saltworks, specialising in #employment and #immigration law. All profits go to ATLEU, helping you make a difference as an #EthicalConsumer. www.saltworkslaw.co.uk
December 5, 2025 at 4:15 PM
We love donations, but here’s another way to support ATLEU - instruct our sister private law firm Saltworks, specialising in #employment and #immigration law. All profits go to ATLEU, helping you make a difference as an #EthicalConsumer. www.saltworkslaw.co.uk
Happy Caturday from Head of Naps &
Senior Vice President, Sleep Acquisition
Management have clearly decided today is for deep rest-based productivity.
#Caturday #WeekendVibes #PetLife
Senior Vice President, Sleep Acquisition
Management have clearly decided today is for deep rest-based productivity.
#Caturday #WeekendVibes #PetLife
December 6, 2025 at 1:20 PM
Happy Caturday from Head of Naps &
Senior Vice President, Sleep Acquisition
Management have clearly decided today is for deep rest-based productivity.
#Caturday #WeekendVibes #PetLife
Senior Vice President, Sleep Acquisition
Management have clearly decided today is for deep rest-based productivity.
#Caturday #WeekendVibes #PetLife
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Pets are increasingly viewed as members of the family, but the law doesn’t always see them the same way.
Does California Have Pet Custody Laws?
Pet custody is an evolving legal area. A few states have legislation to distinguish pets from other assets and to protect their rights.
www.goldbergjones-sandiego.com
December 2, 2025 at 6:11 PM
Pets are increasingly viewed as members of the family, but the law doesn’t always see them the same way.
The court won’t ask children to ‘pick a parent.’ Their wishes matter, but only as one part of a bigger picture: safety, stability, schooling, routines, and emotional well-being
November 20, 2025 at 3:35 PM
The court won’t ask children to ‘pick a parent.’ Their wishes matter, but only as one part of a bigger picture: safety, stability, schooling, routines, and emotional well-being
Once had a client who thought mediation was ‘weak.’ They left the process with a better agreement than they ever could have got in court.
November 19, 2025 at 2:31 PM
Once had a client who thought mediation was ‘weak.’ They left the process with a better agreement than they ever could have got in court.
Most people don’t realise how normal it is to feel overwhelmed during a divorce. You’re not failing: the system is complex and emotional. The best thing you can do is take decisions one step at a time
November 18, 2025 at 7:02 PM
Most people don’t realise how normal it is to feel overwhelmed during a divorce. You’re not failing: the system is complex and emotional. The best thing you can do is take decisions one step at a time
The email I write 10x a week but never want to: ‘Per my last email…’”
November 18, 2025 at 3:28 PM
The email I write 10x a week but never want to: ‘Per my last email…’”
A common UK family law myth: ‘Mothers always get custody.’
This isn’t true.
Courts start from the child’s best interests, not parental gender.
Shared care is increasingly common, where safe and appropriate
This isn’t true.
Courts start from the child’s best interests, not parental gender.
Shared care is increasingly common, where safe and appropriate
November 17, 2025 at 6:03 PM
A common UK family law myth: ‘Mothers always get custody.’
This isn’t true.
Courts start from the child’s best interests, not parental gender.
Shared care is increasingly common, where safe and appropriate
This isn’t true.
Courts start from the child’s best interests, not parental gender.
Shared care is increasingly common, where safe and appropriate
When a mother fleeing violence faces criminal charges for trying to keep her children safe, something is deeply wrong. Laws must protect the vulnerable
November 16, 2025 at 8:46 AM
When a mother fleeing violence faces criminal charges for trying to keep her children safe, something is deeply wrong. Laws must protect the vulnerable
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The profit motive should have no place in any provision of care, healthcare or social care.
When it does, it is often the most vulnerable who pay the price for #privatisation.
Important work from @neweconomics.bsky.social
neweconomics.org/2025/11/endi...
When it does, it is often the most vulnerable who pay the price for #privatisation.
Important work from @neweconomics.bsky.social
neweconomics.org/2025/11/endi...
Ending extraction in the UK care system
How our care system facilitates the extraction of value and wealth from places and local public service budgets
neweconomics.org
November 14, 2025 at 1:35 PM
The profit motive should have no place in any provision of care, healthcare or social care.
When it does, it is often the most vulnerable who pay the price for #privatisation.
Important work from @neweconomics.bsky.social
neweconomics.org/2025/11/endi...
When it does, it is often the most vulnerable who pay the price for #privatisation.
Important work from @neweconomics.bsky.social
neweconomics.org/2025/11/endi...
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‘Inventions used by women – like cradles and bras – are rarely seen as technologies, and when women invent things men have tended to get the credit.’
Tess Little on how the ‘rape kit’ changed the prosecution of sexual assault.
www.lrb.co.uk/the-paper/v4...
Tess Little on how the ‘rape kit’ changed the prosecution of sexual assault.
www.lrb.co.uk/the-paper/v4...
Tess Little · Nutshell Crime Scenes: The Rape Kit
The rape kit is a cardboard box containing ordinary items anyone might own: envelopes, combs, swabs, nail clippers....
www.lrb.co.uk
November 14, 2025 at 12:10 PM
‘Inventions used by women – like cradles and bras – are rarely seen as technologies, and when women invent things men have tended to get the credit.’
Tess Little on how the ‘rape kit’ changed the prosecution of sexual assault.
www.lrb.co.uk/the-paper/v4...
Tess Little on how the ‘rape kit’ changed the prosecution of sexual assault.
www.lrb.co.uk/the-paper/v4...
My cat has the energy of someone who knows all my secrets
November 15, 2025 at 12:00 PM
My cat has the energy of someone who knows all my secrets
"Roughly two months before Harshita was killed, on 3 September, she had filed a case of domestic abuse against her husband. He was arrested and later released on bail on condition that he did not harass, pester or intimidate Harshita"
#Domesticviolence #Abuse
www.bbc.co.uk/news/article...
#Domesticviolence #Abuse
www.bbc.co.uk/news/article...
Harshita Brella: Family ask why killer has not been caught 12 months on - BBC News
Police have charged Harshita Brella's husband with murder - but, despite sightings, he remains on the run.
www.bbc.co.uk
November 14, 2025 at 6:03 PM
"Roughly two months before Harshita was killed, on 3 September, she had filed a case of domestic abuse against her husband. He was arrested and later released on bail on condition that he did not harass, pester or intimidate Harshita"
#Domesticviolence #Abuse
www.bbc.co.uk/news/article...
#Domesticviolence #Abuse
www.bbc.co.uk/news/article...