And this extends to ending relationships too. And no, of course I’m not talking about toxic relationships. It is uncomfortable to end a relationship, but it is harmful to both parties to end it with no closure, even if it does feel terrible to do. If you care for that person, communicate with them.

Sometimes you may feel alone, but sometimes your loved ones may feel the same. This is because we’ve been taught as a society that we are all on our own. The thing is, we’re not. It’s worth it to sacrifice a little discomfort, only for the people who are truly worth it.

(These things can mean everything to the people close to you). The best thing to do is just ASK if your friend/partner needs anything sometimes. It is uncomfortable, yes, but that is part of stepping outside of your comfort zone, and you will learn more about both of you in the process.

Of thinking that is harmful. No, no one is ever forcing you to do anything, but your friends will notice that there is a lack of the dynamic of that push and pull, and they will worry. Help your friends move. Bring them soup when they’re sick. Drive them to the dentist.

And although it is true that if you simply do not have the energy to spend, you cannot extend it, it is important that there is a give and take in every relationship. You SHOULD be participating in your community, your friend’s lives. Saying “I don’t owe anyone anything” starts a harmful way (3/?)

Talking through struggles with supportive friends is a great way to practice exposure therapy, and it is a GOOD thing to feel discomfort, and not constantly say “I don’t owe anyone anything,” because that is a way of avoiding the problem too, and avoiding the anxiety of the encounter. (2/?)