Lydi
@lydzlemon.bsky.social
✨ Ghostwriter for coaches & mentors who want to connect deeply.
I don’t just write—I craft email courses that build trust & make people reflect, question & grow.
Follow for wisdom, reflection & thought-provoking takes on self-awareness, personal growth 🌙
I don’t just write—I craft email courses that build trust & make people reflect, question & grow.
Follow for wisdom, reflection & thought-provoking takes on self-awareness, personal growth 🌙
I love people who move with purpose, speak with kindness, and stay grounded in what’s real even when the world rewards pretending.
November 3, 2025 at 4:21 AM
I love people who move with purpose, speak with kindness, and stay grounded in what’s real even when the world rewards pretending.
You’re not “too much.”
You just haven’t been taught that there’s a difference between:
Caring about someone and
Carrying their emotional weight for them.
Most of us learned to do the second one.
We called it kindness.
And we’ve been tired ever since
You just haven’t been taught that there’s a difference between:
Caring about someone and
Carrying their emotional weight for them.
Most of us learned to do the second one.
We called it kindness.
And we’ve been tired ever since
October 30, 2025 at 4:29 AM
You’re not “too much.”
You just haven’t been taught that there’s a difference between:
Caring about someone and
Carrying their emotional weight for them.
Most of us learned to do the second one.
We called it kindness.
And we’ve been tired ever since
You just haven’t been taught that there’s a difference between:
Caring about someone and
Carrying their emotional weight for them.
Most of us learned to do the second one.
We called it kindness.
And we’ve been tired ever since
I used to think caring meant carrying.
That if I really understood someone’s pain, I should feel it too.
But there’s a difference between:
→ Staying present with someone
→ Absorbing their emotion as yours
One keeps you grounded.
The other leaves you spent.
That if I really understood someone’s pain, I should feel it too.
But there’s a difference between:
→ Staying present with someone
→ Absorbing their emotion as yours
One keeps you grounded.
The other leaves you spent.
October 28, 2025 at 3:15 PM
I used to think caring meant carrying.
That if I really understood someone’s pain, I should feel it too.
But there’s a difference between:
→ Staying present with someone
→ Absorbing their emotion as yours
One keeps you grounded.
The other leaves you spent.
That if I really understood someone’s pain, I should feel it too.
But there’s a difference between:
→ Staying present with someone
→ Absorbing their emotion as yours
One keeps you grounded.
The other leaves you spent.
Honest question:
Do you avoid certain shows because you can feel the character’s stress for days after watching?
Not just observing them spiral.
Actually spiraling with them.
Like their chaos becomes your chaos.
Am I alone in this?
Do you avoid certain shows because you can feel the character’s stress for days after watching?
Not just observing them spiral.
Actually spiraling with them.
Like their chaos becomes your chaos.
Am I alone in this?
October 28, 2025 at 6:47 AM
Honest question:
Do you avoid certain shows because you can feel the character’s stress for days after watching?
Not just observing them spiral.
Actually spiraling with them.
Like their chaos becomes your chaos.
Am I alone in this?
Do you avoid certain shows because you can feel the character’s stress for days after watching?
Not just observing them spiral.
Actually spiraling with them.
Like their chaos becomes your chaos.
Am I alone in this?
Signs a self-help guru is selling hyper-individualism, not boundaries:
• Every “solution” is to cut people off
• They never mention what you owe your community
• They profit from your isolation
Real empowerment connects you.
Fake empowerment leaves you alone—and buying more.
• Every “solution” is to cut people off
• They never mention what you owe your community
• They profit from your isolation
Real empowerment connects you.
Fake empowerment leaves you alone—and buying more.
October 26, 2025 at 6:26 AM
Signs a self-help guru is selling hyper-individualism, not boundaries:
• Every “solution” is to cut people off
• They never mention what you owe your community
• They profit from your isolation
Real empowerment connects you.
Fake empowerment leaves you alone—and buying more.
• Every “solution” is to cut people off
• They never mention what you owe your community
• They profit from your isolation
Real empowerment connects you.
Fake empowerment leaves you alone—and buying more.
Why "I told you so" destroys your ability to help people:
• Kills your credibility instantly
• Blocks future conversations
• Makes you feel superior for 3 seconds
The real cost?
They'll never come back when they need you most.
• Kills your credibility instantly
• Blocks future conversations
• Makes you feel superior for 3 seconds
The real cost?
They'll never come back when they need you most.
October 24, 2025 at 3:00 PM
Why "I told you so" destroys your ability to help people:
• Kills your credibility instantly
• Blocks future conversations
• Makes you feel superior for 3 seconds
The real cost?
They'll never come back when they need you most.
• Kills your credibility instantly
• Blocks future conversations
• Makes you feel superior for 3 seconds
The real cost?
They'll never come back when they need you most.
Real love is breaking the pattern so your kids grow from peace, not pain.
October 24, 2025 at 6:52 AM
Real love is breaking the pattern so your kids grow from peace, not pain.
If you can overthink the worst, you can overthink the best.
We call imagining success “delusional” but imagining disaster “realistic.”
Both are projections.
Both are futures that don’t exist yet.
Your sensitivity isn’t the problem—
the direction is.
We call imagining success “delusional” but imagining disaster “realistic.”
Both are projections.
Both are futures that don’t exist yet.
Your sensitivity isn’t the problem—
the direction is.
October 23, 2025 at 6:59 AM
If you can overthink the worst, you can overthink the best.
We call imagining success “delusional” but imagining disaster “realistic.”
Both are projections.
Both are futures that don’t exist yet.
Your sensitivity isn’t the problem—
the direction is.
We call imagining success “delusional” but imagining disaster “realistic.”
Both are projections.
Both are futures that don’t exist yet.
Your sensitivity isn’t the problem—
the direction is.
I carry lessons, not shame.
October 19, 2025 at 1:00 AM
I carry lessons, not shame.
Good advice gets ignored until it's too late because:
You're speaking from experience.
They're operating on belief.
The ears aren't ready.
Reality has to make the case.
Give it once.
Don't argue.
Let them fall.
Show up when they're ready to hear it. ✨
You're speaking from experience.
They're operating on belief.
The ears aren't ready.
Reality has to make the case.
Give it once.
Don't argue.
Let them fall.
Show up when they're ready to hear it. ✨
October 17, 2025 at 3:54 PM
Good advice gets ignored until it's too late because:
You're speaking from experience.
They're operating on belief.
The ears aren't ready.
Reality has to make the case.
Give it once.
Don't argue.
Let them fall.
Show up when they're ready to hear it. ✨
You're speaking from experience.
They're operating on belief.
The ears aren't ready.
Reality has to make the case.
Give it once.
Don't argue.
Let them fall.
Show up when they're ready to hear it. ✨
Most People Think Pausing Makes Them Look Stupid.
Here's Why Trial Attorneys Train Every Client To Breathe Before Speaking—And The 2-Second Method They Use
Here's Why Trial Attorneys Train Every Client To Breathe Before Speaking—And The 2-Second Method They Use
October 15, 2025 at 3:04 AM
Most People Think Pausing Makes Them Look Stupid.
Here's Why Trial Attorneys Train Every Client To Breathe Before Speaking—And The 2-Second Method They Use
Here's Why Trial Attorneys Train Every Client To Breathe Before Speaking—And The 2-Second Method They Use
You’re not waiting for confidence.
You’re waiting for permission.
• You speak—then feel confident
• You act—then feel ready
• Confidence is the byproduct, not the prerequisite
• The moment creates it
The confidence shows up.
But only after you do.
You’re waiting for permission.
• You speak—then feel confident
• You act—then feel ready
• Confidence is the byproduct, not the prerequisite
• The moment creates it
The confidence shows up.
But only after you do.
October 12, 2025 at 4:55 PM
You’re not waiting for confidence.
You’re waiting for permission.
• You speak—then feel confident
• You act—then feel ready
• Confidence is the byproduct, not the prerequisite
• The moment creates it
The confidence shows up.
But only after you do.
You’re waiting for permission.
• You speak—then feel confident
• You act—then feel ready
• Confidence is the byproduct, not the prerequisite
• The moment creates it
The confidence shows up.
But only after you do.
My mentor once said:
“Emotional intelligence starts when feedback stops feeling like rejection.”
I didn’t get it then.
I do now.
“Emotional intelligence starts when feedback stops feeling like rejection.”
I didn’t get it then.
I do now.
October 12, 2025 at 3:00 PM
My mentor once said:
“Emotional intelligence starts when feedback stops feeling like rejection.”
I didn’t get it then.
I do now.
“Emotional intelligence starts when feedback stops feeling like rejection.”
I didn’t get it then.
I do now.
Emotional intelligence is knowing when to feel deeply and when to step back; yet you never stop caring.
October 11, 2025 at 3:00 PM
Emotional intelligence is knowing when to feel deeply and when to step back; yet you never stop caring.
Healing is learning to stop chasing closure from people who fear accountability—and giving that peace to yourself instead.
October 10, 2025 at 3:30 PM
Healing is learning to stop chasing closure from people who fear accountability—and giving that peace to yourself instead.
Helping isn’t always kindness.
Sometimes it’s control.
If you rush to fix someone’s pain, ask yourself:
Is this for them—or to calm you?
Real empathy isn’t solving.
It’s staying.
Sometimes it’s control.
If you rush to fix someone’s pain, ask yourself:
Is this for them—or to calm you?
Real empathy isn’t solving.
It’s staying.
October 10, 2025 at 1:30 AM
Helping isn’t always kindness.
Sometimes it’s control.
If you rush to fix someone’s pain, ask yourself:
Is this for them—or to calm you?
Real empathy isn’t solving.
It’s staying.
Sometimes it’s control.
If you rush to fix someone’s pain, ask yourself:
Is this for them—or to calm you?
Real empathy isn’t solving.
It’s staying.
How to support someone without making it about you..
October 9, 2025 at 9:52 PM
How to support someone without making it about you..
Emotional intelligence is realizing you can understand someone’s pain without excusing their behavior—and still choose peace anyway.
October 9, 2025 at 4:36 PM
Emotional intelligence is realizing you can understand someone’s pain without excusing their behavior—and still choose peace anyway.
You’re not chasing perfection because you want to.
You’re chasing it because you learned that anything less could be used against you.
But the most respected leaders aren’t mistake-free.
They recover quickly, take ownership, and earn trust through presence—not perfection.
You’re chasing it because you learned that anything less could be used against you.
But the most respected leaders aren’t mistake-free.
They recover quickly, take ownership, and earn trust through presence—not perfection.
October 8, 2025 at 7:00 PM
You’re not chasing perfection because you want to.
You’re chasing it because you learned that anything less could be used against you.
But the most respected leaders aren’t mistake-free.
They recover quickly, take ownership, and earn trust through presence—not perfection.
You’re chasing it because you learned that anything less could be used against you.
But the most respected leaders aren’t mistake-free.
They recover quickly, take ownership, and earn trust through presence—not perfection.
