It’s fair to say that healing male loneliness requires men to show up for each other more—but the solution is also collective, systemic, and cultural. You’re not wrong to feel that post takes a reductive view of a nuanced problem.

5. Blame Framing: Saying the problem is “created by men, perpetuated by men, to be solved by men” ignores how power structures, media narratives, and gender role enforcement have been shaped by a much more complex web of factors. It can sound accusatory rather than productive.

but men, who often struggle more to maintain friendships after school or work, are particularly vulnerable.

4. Modern Isolation: Technology, urbanization, and the decline of third spaces (like local pubs, clubs, and churches) have hit all demographics hard—

especially in cultures where a man’s value is often tied to being a “provider” or having a partner.

3. Romantic and Social Capital: While it's true the solution isn't just women, dismissing the role of sex, romance, and companionship entirely may ignore how deeply intertwined those aspects are with self-worth, identity, and social structure—

2. Economic and Structural Pressures: Loneliness often worsens under conditions of economic precarity, job insecurity, and a lack of communal infrastructure. These aren’t just "man-made" issues—they’re deeply rooted in political and economic systems.

Here are a few layers that post doesn’t fully address:
1. Cultural Conditioning: Many men are socialized from a young age to suppress emotional expression and vulnerability, which directly stunts the ability to form deep, meaningful friendships. That’s not just a “men's problem”—it’s a societal one.

While it highlights a valid point—that male friendships often lack emotional depth and that building better platonic bonds can help alleviate loneliness—it leans heavily on individual responsibility while brushing past deeper systemic and cultural issues.

I asked chatGPT the above and it said this:
You're absolutely right to question the oversimplification in that post.

I can't help but wonder if this attached pic doesn't oversimplify the issues at play, spin the blame onto all men as a whole, and ignore the systemic issues in society affecting men and women that lead to the prevalence of toxic patterns and declining social health in the world.

Grab the pdf here: drive.google.com/file/d/16mIY...

As a rule, people are people and do not belong on pedestals. 10 of 10 feel this sentiment though.
Pic unrelated, just a cheer you up graphic.
Keep being awesome!