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Love over Fear. Jesus not Fundamentalism.
Heal --> Give
All is DIVINE - LOVE yourSelf and everyOne
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Heal --> Give
All is DIVINE - LOVE yourSelf and everyOne
Mattives.com
Fear as Control: Escaping the Limbic Trap
November 11, 2025 at 11:20 PM
Fear as Control: Escaping the Limbic Trap
When we harm we never get away with it.
November 10, 2025 at 7:51 PM
When we harm we never get away with it.
4 Ways to Open Your Heart
November 9, 2025 at 2:48 PM
4 Ways to Open Your Heart
What Fear Hides and Love Reveals
November 9, 2025 at 2:39 PM
What Fear Hides and Love Reveals
How Your Thoughts and Nervous System Feed Off Each Other
November 8, 2025 at 12:36 AM
How Your Thoughts and Nervous System Feed Off Each Other
Fear is the opposite of love, not hate.
November 7, 2025 at 11:24 PM
Fear is the opposite of love, not hate.
Fear Drives Religious Fundamentalism
November 5, 2025 at 11:02 PM
Fear Drives Religious Fundamentalism
Your Nervous System Is Like a Cat—It Can’t Be Controlled, Only Befriended
November 4, 2025 at 8:28 PM
Your Nervous System Is Like a Cat—It Can’t Be Controlled, Only Befriended
We Fear our Fear and Avoid Remembering
November 3, 2025 at 10:04 PM
We Fear our Fear and Avoid Remembering
The Spectrum Between Fear and Love
November 3, 2025 at 9:58 PM
The Spectrum Between Fear and Love
When Fear Stops Protecting You and Hurts Yourself and Others
November 1, 2025 at 2:18 PM
When Fear Stops Protecting You and Hurts Yourself and Others
How to Stay in the Game When Life Overwhelms You
November 1, 2025 at 2:00 PM
How to Stay in the Game When Life Overwhelms You
Fundamentalist Christianity is the Wide, Easy Path. 12 years ago I found the narrow path and deconstructed.
October 30, 2025 at 10:22 PM
Fundamentalist Christianity is the Wide, Easy Path. 12 years ago I found the narrow path and deconstructed.
When Fight or Flight Isn’t Enough the Freeze Response Overpowers You
October 30, 2025 at 10:09 PM
When Fight or Flight Isn’t Enough the Freeze Response Overpowers You
I was a Fundamentalist Christian for 30 years. I now realize that Jesus never talked about a transactional relationship with God.
October 24, 2025 at 3:45 PM
I was a Fundamentalist Christian for 30 years. I now realize that Jesus never talked about a transactional relationship with God.
Thanks Tim!
"I wish they were able to talk about their feelings and the experiences that shaped them, and that we could be close in that way... But there are still blank openings where my birth parents should be, and parts of me hold out hope that someday that position will be filled."
- @mattives.bsky.social
- @mattives.bsky.social
Parents. — Matt Ives: Men's Connection Coach
We must resist the urge to settle into a victim mindset of blaming our parents. It’s also equally important to resist the pressure rewrite history and adopt our parent’s narrative of what happened. Th...
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May 7, 2025 at 6:31 PM
Thanks Tim!
Long before I had heard about parts, I was aware that I was one guy when I made plans and acted on them, and another guy when I threw out all the plans and did something to make myself feel better...
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IFS Parts Work Ended my Cycles of Dysfunction — Matt Ives: Men's Connection Coach
Long before I had heard about parts, I was aware that I was one guy when I made plans and acted on them, and another guy when I threw out all the plans and did something to make myself feel better...
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April 30, 2025 at 2:18 PM
Long before I had heard about parts, I was aware that I was one guy when I made plans and acted on them, and another guy when I threw out all the plans and did something to make myself feel better...
www.mattives.com/connection-b...
www.mattives.com/connection-b...
www.mattives.com/connection-b...
I like to joke that I was born before feelings were invented. I was told what to do and think and how I felt about it was completely irrelevant.
I like to joke that I was born before feelings were invented. I was told what to do and think and how I felt about it was completely irrelevant.
A Foot in Both Worlds — Matt Ives: Men's Connection Coach
If you’re a man in your 40s, you were likely raised in a world where feelings didn’t exist and that completely changed in your lifetime. Now being highly in touch with your own feelings and those of o...
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April 24, 2025 at 12:57 PM
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I like to joke that I was born before feelings were invented. I was told what to do and think and how I felt about it was completely irrelevant.
I like to joke that I was born before feelings were invented. I was told what to do and think and how I felt about it was completely irrelevant.