My wife loves me, and does her best to make me feel appreciated and loved, but for a variety of very legitimate reasons, no longer desires sex. I would never want duty-sex, but I find myself just devastated by the idea of never being sexially desired again. Not looking for advice, just venting.

I often find myself wanting to tell pretty ladies that I hope they are able to appreciate how beautiful they are, but I feel like that would come across as attempting to flirt/cat-calling. And it feels silly when it is someone that I would have to be delusional to think was interested in me.

I know I have zero reach, but I'm looking for advice. What do other guys do to feel "sexy" (other than have sex).

Do you feel attractive when no one is actively wanting to have sex with you?

I vascillate between wanting to share my opinion/perspective with people and realizing that nobody really needs to hear what I think. Definitely in the nobody needs to hear what I think phase right now.

I basically use Bluesky as my emopost outlet/following things that I don't necessarily want everyone to know about. So I definitely don't have a lot of posts on here. Like I said in my bio, don't expect much from me.

I really miss feeling desired. It's not that my wife is unwilling to have sex with me, we do still have intimacy, but there is no sense of ongoing desire on her part. It is sad feeling like the part of my life where I get to feel desirable is in the past.

I don't want to be making judgements about women's physical appearances or body modification choices, but seeing Bezos' new wife, all I can think is:

Damn. What a step down from Mackenzie Scott.

My wife says it is okay to check ladies out at the gym. She says everyone does it. I feel like, regardless, the hot ladies still don't want a chubby middle aged guy ogling them. How do you feel/behave at the gym?