MrsSponge
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That voice in your head that's telling you you can't handle tonight without self-harming or using? That voice doesn't actually care what you can or can't "handle." It just wants you to self-harm or use.
Breathe; blink; focus. Remember.
Breathe; blink; focus. Remember.
May 8, 2025 at 2:17 AM
That voice in your head that's telling you you can't handle tonight without self-harming or using? That voice doesn't actually care what you can or can't "handle." It just wants you to self-harm or use.
Breathe; blink; focus. Remember.
Breathe; blink; focus. Remember.
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You CAN do this— realistically, step by baby step, choice by teeny, tiny micro choice— and you are worth the trouble.
May 5, 2025 at 10:49 AM
You CAN do this— realistically, step by baby step, choice by teeny, tiny micro choice— and you are worth the trouble.
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Remember: Trauma Brain will reliably blow right past positive feedback or performance milestones, & latch on to whatever "data" will convince us we suck.
When we're trying to understand how we're actually doing in a job or task, we need to take the "trauma filter" into account.
When we're trying to understand how we're actually doing in a job or task, we need to take the "trauma filter" into account.
May 4, 2025 at 2:16 PM
Remember: Trauma Brain will reliably blow right past positive feedback or performance milestones, & latch on to whatever "data" will convince us we suck.
When we're trying to understand how we're actually doing in a job or task, we need to take the "trauma filter" into account.
When we're trying to understand how we're actually doing in a job or task, we need to take the "trauma filter" into account.
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Maybe you’re not “complaining.” Maybe you’re processing, venting, examining, & otherwise understanding & transforming your emotional experience. Maybe bullies & abusers sling words like “complaining” at you to shame you away from potent, proven tools.
May 2, 2025 at 10:46 PM
Maybe you’re not “complaining.” Maybe you’re processing, venting, examining, & otherwise understanding & transforming your emotional experience. Maybe bullies & abusers sling words like “complaining” at you to shame you away from potent, proven tools.
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Trauma Brain will try to tell you there's no value to being a work in progress-- that if your life skills are imperfect, if you're imperfect, you're a "failure," you don't "deserve" compassion or safety, you're an "embarrassment."
What BS (Belief Systems-- also bullsh*t).
What BS (Belief Systems-- also bullsh*t).
May 1, 2025 at 1:22 AM
Trauma Brain will try to tell you there's no value to being a work in progress-- that if your life skills are imperfect, if you're imperfect, you're a "failure," you don't "deserve" compassion or safety, you're an "embarrassment."
What BS (Belief Systems-- also bullsh*t).
What BS (Belief Systems-- also bullsh*t).
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Hey. Just do your best tonight.
April 26, 2025 at 3:48 AM
Hey. Just do your best tonight.
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Just do your best with what you have in this moment. Show up as best you can-- & give yourself grace when you get overwhelmed & struggle to be the human you want to be.
Easy does it. It's a long walk back to Eden-- don't sweat the small stuff.
Easy does it. It's a long walk back to Eden-- don't sweat the small stuff.
April 24, 2025 at 1:21 AM
Just do your best with what you have in this moment. Show up as best you can-- & give yourself grace when you get overwhelmed & struggle to be the human you want to be.
Easy does it. It's a long walk back to Eden-- don't sweat the small stuff.
Easy does it. It's a long walk back to Eden-- don't sweat the small stuff.
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You're under no obligation to leap right from self-hate to self-love after years of trauma conditioning. The internal shredding that trauma creates is confusing & panful. Maybe just start w/ tolerating yourself & your parts. Liking & loving them will come-- but not under duress.
April 22, 2025 at 3:09 PM
You're under no obligation to leap right from self-hate to self-love after years of trauma conditioning. The internal shredding that trauma creates is confusing & panful. Maybe just start w/ tolerating yourself & your parts. Liking & loving them will come-- but not under duress.
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Seriously working our trauma recovery means not leaving our social media feed up to the algorithm.
Purposefully curate your feed to include voices & perspectives that stabilize & educate you-- & exclude voices that needlessly trigger & distract you from your recovery goals.
Purposefully curate your feed to include voices & perspectives that stabilize & educate you-- & exclude voices that needlessly trigger & distract you from your recovery goals.
April 19, 2025 at 9:18 PM
Seriously working our trauma recovery means not leaving our social media feed up to the algorithm.
Purposefully curate your feed to include voices & perspectives that stabilize & educate you-- & exclude voices that needlessly trigger & distract you from your recovery goals.
Purposefully curate your feed to include voices & perspectives that stabilize & educate you-- & exclude voices that needlessly trigger & distract you from your recovery goals.
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soooo sneaky
April 19, 2025 at 2:06 PM
soooo sneaky
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Trauma Brain will always give us "good" reasons to do self-harmful or self-neglectful things-- and it'll always find "good" reasons to put off recovery habits & self-nurturing things.
Remember that Trauma Brain has an agenda-- that does NOT include your happiness or longevity.
Remember that Trauma Brain has an agenda-- that does NOT include your happiness or longevity.
April 16, 2025 at 9:04 PM
Trauma Brain will always give us "good" reasons to do self-harmful or self-neglectful things-- and it'll always find "good" reasons to put off recovery habits & self-nurturing things.
Remember that Trauma Brain has an agenda-- that does NOT include your happiness or longevity.
Remember that Trauma Brain has an agenda-- that does NOT include your happiness or longevity.
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Don’t underestimate the value of sitting quietly with someone when they’re in pain. Let them talk. Listen to hear. There is profound healing in someone experiencing your care by offering your presence and withholding your advice.
April 12, 2025 at 3:08 PM
Don’t underestimate the value of sitting quietly with someone when they’re in pain. Let them talk. Listen to hear. There is profound healing in someone experiencing your care by offering your presence and withholding your advice.
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Relapsing tonight won't solve any problem you actually have. But it'll create or exacerbate a much worse one.
Breathe.
Breathe.
April 8, 2025 at 3:47 AM
Relapsing tonight won't solve any problem you actually have. But it'll create or exacerbate a much worse one.
Breathe.
Breathe.
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The pain is real.
But so are your skills.
And not just the ones you learned in therapy, either.
You are a survivor & a warrior. You always have been, & you still are.
Remember. Remember.
But so are your skills.
And not just the ones you learned in therapy, either.
You are a survivor & a warrior. You always have been, & you still are.
Remember. Remember.
April 3, 2025 at 8:02 PM
The pain is real.
But so are your skills.
And not just the ones you learned in therapy, either.
You are a survivor & a warrior. You always have been, & you still are.
Remember. Remember.
But so are your skills.
And not just the ones you learned in therapy, either.
You are a survivor & a warrior. You always have been, & you still are.
Remember. Remember.
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Easy does it. Push pause. Back up. Take a breath. Check in with yourself, especially your body.
Take a sec to remember & remind yourself who you are & what you're all about. Check in w/ your goals for tonight-- just tonight.
No pressure, no rush. Just check in.
Take a sec to remember & remind yourself who you are & what you're all about. Check in w/ your goals for tonight-- just tonight.
No pressure, no rush. Just check in.
April 6, 2025 at 3:00 AM
Easy does it. Push pause. Back up. Take a breath. Check in with yourself, especially your body.
Take a sec to remember & remind yourself who you are & what you're all about. Check in w/ your goals for tonight-- just tonight.
No pressure, no rush. Just check in.
Take a sec to remember & remind yourself who you are & what you're all about. Check in w/ your goals for tonight-- just tonight.
No pressure, no rush. Just check in.
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Three of the biggest triggers for survivors of complex trauma are feeling trapped; feeling "in trouble;" & feeling controlled.
If you're having a reaction you don't understand, check in w/ yourself to see if any (or any combination) of these is happening.
If you're having a reaction you don't understand, check in w/ yourself to see if any (or any combination) of these is happening.
April 4, 2025 at 5:25 PM
Three of the biggest triggers for survivors of complex trauma are feeling trapped; feeling "in trouble;" & feeling controlled.
If you're having a reaction you don't understand, check in w/ yourself to see if any (or any combination) of these is happening.
If you're having a reaction you don't understand, check in w/ yourself to see if any (or any combination) of these is happening.
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April is child abuse awareness month. What survivors hear:
"You're stronger now because of the abuse."
"I bet your abusers were abused too."
"Now you can help others who were abused."
What they need to hear:
"That was not supposed to happen. Are you ok?"
"You're stronger now because of the abuse."
"I bet your abusers were abused too."
"Now you can help others who were abused."
What they need to hear:
"That was not supposed to happen. Are you ok?"
April 1, 2025 at 4:10 PM
April is child abuse awareness month. What survivors hear:
"You're stronger now because of the abuse."
"I bet your abusers were abused too."
"Now you can help others who were abused."
What they need to hear:
"That was not supposed to happen. Are you ok?"
"You're stronger now because of the abuse."
"I bet your abusers were abused too."
"Now you can help others who were abused."
What they need to hear:
"That was not supposed to happen. Are you ok?"
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It's hard to wrap your head around having dreams or aspirations of your own, when growing up your only goal was to be "good enough" for people in your life who seemed barely interested in you ("interested" in any kind of positive sense, anyway).
You are not alone.
You are not alone.
April 2, 2025 at 12:36 AM
It's hard to wrap your head around having dreams or aspirations of your own, when growing up your only goal was to be "good enough" for people in your life who seemed barely interested in you ("interested" in any kind of positive sense, anyway).
You are not alone.
You are not alone.
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The most resilient people on earth walk around feeling like the most fragile people on earth, because our culture refuses to let go of the assumption that if someone is struggling they must just be doing life "wrong" on some level.
Wounded is not "doing life wrong."
Wounded is not "doing life wrong."
April 2, 2025 at 1:23 AM
The most resilient people on earth walk around feeling like the most fragile people on earth, because our culture refuses to let go of the assumption that if someone is struggling they must just be doing life "wrong" on some level.
Wounded is not "doing life wrong."
Wounded is not "doing life wrong."
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Not all self harm urges mean the same thing. "I want to escape" is different from "I deserve pain" is different from "part of me wants to lop a body part off to feel safer."
But we're not going to discover what ANY self harm urge means if we're afraid to talk about self-harm.
But we're not going to discover what ANY self harm urge means if we're afraid to talk about self-harm.
April 2, 2025 at 2:33 PM
Not all self harm urges mean the same thing. "I want to escape" is different from "I deserve pain" is different from "part of me wants to lop a body part off to feel safer."
But we're not going to discover what ANY self harm urge means if we're afraid to talk about self-harm.
But we're not going to discover what ANY self harm urge means if we're afraid to talk about self-harm.
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Easy does it. Don’t panic; don’t beat yourself up. Just bring it back to who you are, what you’re all about, and what your goals are today.
You’re okay. Breathe.
Breathe.
You’re okay. Breathe.
Breathe.
March 18, 2025 at 10:08 PM
Easy does it. Don’t panic; don’t beat yourself up. Just bring it back to who you are, what you’re all about, and what your goals are today.
You’re okay. Breathe.
Breathe.
You’re okay. Breathe.
Breathe.
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Psst. You are worthy.
Pass it on.
Pass it on.
March 19, 2025 at 2:33 AM
Psst. You are worthy.
Pass it on.
Pass it on.
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Every time we refuse to respond to a trigger w/ self-harm, shame, or abandonment, we strengthen our ability to hold the line. It can feel awful to not do the thing we want to do in a bad moment-- but every single time we choose self-care, it strengthens our self care "muscle."
March 17, 2025 at 8:14 PM
Every time we refuse to respond to a trigger w/ self-harm, shame, or abandonment, we strengthen our ability to hold the line. It can feel awful to not do the thing we want to do in a bad moment-- but every single time we choose self-care, it strengthens our self care "muscle."
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There's no rule that says you're not allowed to struggle tonight. Easy does it. You're definitely not the only one struggling at this second, & you're not struggling "for no reason." Breathe; find a source of rhythm to tune into; check in, body, mind, spirit. Easy, easy does it.
March 16, 2025 at 2:38 AM
There's no rule that says you're not allowed to struggle tonight. Easy does it. You're definitely not the only one struggling at this second, & you're not struggling "for no reason." Breathe; find a source of rhythm to tune into; check in, body, mind, spirit. Easy, easy does it.