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I see the EHRC, Bridget Phillipson and the Supreme Court are #MakingWomenSafe

"I said: “Would you like to see my tits?”
"I started unzipping my hoodie. He panicked: 'No no no, don’t do that!'"
Facebook post from Caz Coronel. TRANS AGGRESSION POST This photo of me was taken a few days ago. This is what I look like, not that it matters, but to set the scene… I was at the Festival Hall. Toilets on either side of two lifts - men’s on one side, women’s on the other. I was in the queue for the women’s. Men were queueing across from me. I was facing into the bathroom, so from behind, you couldn’t see my face. I was just standing there, minding my business, when I heard someone shout, “The men’s toilets are over here!” I ignored it at first thinking someone was letting their mate know. But he kept shouting it "The men's toilet are this side!". Then I felt a tap on my shoulder. He walked up, poked me and said: “Do you realise this is the women’s toilet?!” Up to that point, he hadn’t seen my face. So what was he judging me on? My haircut? My hoodie? Also, I was surrounded by women. It was pretty obvious I knew which toilet it was. His energy was aggressive. I was shocked. I looked him straight in the face and asked: “What sex do you think I am?” Affronted he said: “I don’t know!” Here’s where I wish I’d said, “If you don’t know, then shut the f**k up!” But instead, I said: “Would you like to see my tits?” I started unzipping my hoodie. He panicked: “No no no, don’t do that!” His wife came out of the loo and saw what was going down and said with urgency, “Let’s go now!.” She rushed him away before all the ladies around me properly kicked off. They were horrified by what they saw. One lovely lady said to me “You are welcome here” and another was like I am so so sorry you had to experience that. I can’t believe what I just saw. Another lady said you must report him and get him kicked out! I stood there shocked and unfortunately didn’t react quickly enough. What’s interesting is that he wasn’t a staff member. He was just a random member of the public. Also, my attire was masculine. So if he thought I was a trans woman, why would I be dressing like a man? If he thought I was a trans man, then under the new rules, I was in the right toilet! His policing was based on my hair? My clothes? Maybe I had cancer? Or maybe I just like my hair that way. What makes him think any of that gives him the right to behave like that?! For the record, I’m not offended by being thought to be a man. I have a strong male energy, (female too sometimes!). However I often feel if I could press a button and turn into a man, I probably would. I don’t feel like I’ve earned the right to call myself trans, given the immense things people go through to be right in their body… but in spirit perhaps I am. What was offensive was his assumption that this kind of behaviour is OK. This is what these new laws and rules are doing — they’re not making it safer for everyone. They’re fuelling public entitlement and policing of gender expression. Afterwards, I tried to find them. I thought maybe it would help to have a conversation. To understand. Did he think he was protecting his wife? What made him do that? I’ve been meaning to speak out on this issue (and others that are super important) for a while. But I’ve had a lot going on, it’s been a difficult time and I haven’t felt I had the head space. In a strange way, I’m grateful for this moment. It gave me the push I needed to finally say something. I genuinely believe there’s a lot of misunderstanding from a few of the older cis community about what it means to be trans. I wish I’d got to talk to that guy… open conversations are needed to understand what fear is fuelling their prejudice. More on that in another post. Photo of Caz Coronel.
May 9, 2025 at 9:32 AM