Penny Webster
@pennywebster.bsky.social
The three biggest and most immediate improvements in my mental health I've had in my life are 1) transition 2) ADHD medication and 3) going to college, and now that I look back on it, my main thought is "why couldn't they have treated us like that when we were 13?"
December 3, 2025 at 1:03 PM
The three biggest and most immediate improvements in my mental health I've had in my life are 1) transition 2) ADHD medication and 3) going to college, and now that I look back on it, my main thought is "why couldn't they have treated us like that when we were 13?"
When you're young and people say "I'm going to start treating you like an adult" it's usually a threat. College was the first time I experienced being treated like an adult as a *positive* thing. Lecturers treated us like peers - very junior ones, obviously, but peers nonetheless!
December 3, 2025 at 1:03 PM
When you're young and people say "I'm going to start treating you like an adult" it's usually a threat. College was the first time I experienced being treated like an adult as a *positive* thing. Lecturers treated us like peers - very junior ones, obviously, but peers nonetheless!
At college, you pick your subjects, and only study three or four. You don't wear a uniform. There's no homeroom or registration, you come and go in and out of the campus as you please. The pace of learning is accelerated, but you spend less time in actual lessons.
December 3, 2025 at 1:03 PM
At college, you pick your subjects, and only study three or four. You don't wear a uniform. There's no homeroom or registration, you come and go in and out of the campus as you please. The pace of learning is accelerated, but you spend less time in actual lessons.
In the UK, being 16 meant you could leave school, work full-time, join the army. Being at college (again, not university) was such an insane difference from secondary school that the only thing I can really compare it to is pre and post gender transition.
December 3, 2025 at 1:03 PM
In the UK, being 16 meant you could leave school, work full-time, join the army. Being at college (again, not university) was such an insane difference from secondary school that the only thing I can really compare it to is pre and post gender transition.
this looks like MyHouse.wad
December 1, 2025 at 11:47 PM
this looks like MyHouse.wad
Won by *one* point, too. Those cgirls just didn't want it bad enough.
November 29, 2025 at 9:31 AM
Won by *one* point, too. Those cgirls just didn't want it bad enough.
I let that shit keep me in the closet for longer than I should have! I didn't want to be associated with creepy, whiny, grasping "male feminists," so I very much avoided exploring the many ways in which I felt closer to womanhood than manhood.
My problem, I know, but like... I Have A Suggestion.
My problem, I know, but like... I Have A Suggestion.
November 28, 2025 at 12:02 PM
I let that shit keep me in the closet for longer than I should have! I didn't want to be associated with creepy, whiny, grasping "male feminists," so I very much avoided exploring the many ways in which I felt closer to womanhood than manhood.
My problem, I know, but like... I Have A Suggestion.
My problem, I know, but like... I Have A Suggestion.
It's like the backlash against "soft boys," which spent half a second examining the power structures that let niche internet micro celebrities sexually harrass people, then just defaulted to... rank transmisogyny about sneaky effeminate males being the true source of sexual threat.
November 28, 2025 at 12:02 PM
It's like the backlash against "soft boys," which spent half a second examining the power structures that let niche internet micro celebrities sexually harrass people, then just defaulted to... rank transmisogyny about sneaky effeminate males being the true source of sexual threat.
Idk. I think the question here should not be "why are you, a man, identifying with feminism" but "why are you, a feminist, identifying with manhood."
November 28, 2025 at 12:02 PM
Idk. I think the question here should not be "why are you, a man, identifying with feminism" but "why are you, a feminist, identifying with manhood."
Usually, getting it off the floor
November 22, 2025 at 5:26 PM
Usually, getting it off the floor
Start lighter and shorter, go for bodyweight/dumbell movements until you can handle the weight of the empty barbell, consume a shitload of protein and 6g creatine per day, never be afraid to drop back down on weight/reps if you feel like it's going to push you into severe ME fatigue
November 22, 2025 at 11:43 AM
Start lighter and shorter, go for bodyweight/dumbell movements until you can handle the weight of the empty barbell, consume a shitload of protein and 6g creatine per day, never be afraid to drop back down on weight/reps if you feel like it's going to push you into severe ME fatigue
If you're using pacing as a fatigue management technique (lotta people with me/CFS swear by it, don't know how straightforward it is in practice), you probably wanna keep in mind that the normal recovery phase after a decent squat session is like, 4 days before the soreness and tiredness go away
November 22, 2025 at 11:43 AM
If you're using pacing as a fatigue management technique (lotta people with me/CFS swear by it, don't know how straightforward it is in practice), you probably wanna keep in mind that the normal recovery phase after a decent squat session is like, 4 days before the soreness and tiredness go away
I'll say squats and dead lifts are magic, but they are fatiguing in a way that goes beyond just the muscle soreness due to their (excellent!) stresses on your cardiovascular and skeletal systems.
November 22, 2025 at 11:43 AM
I'll say squats and dead lifts are magic, but they are fatiguing in a way that goes beyond just the muscle soreness due to their (excellent!) stresses on your cardiovascular and skeletal systems.
Idk what's wrong with my deadlift, my bench and squat are about the same as yours but I've never been able to crack 135kg lmao
November 22, 2025 at 11:34 AM
Idk what's wrong with my deadlift, my bench and squat are about the same as yours but I've never been able to crack 135kg lmao
It's different! I don't feel like I'm in the trenches, I feel like I'm setting up artillery positions on a hill that my frontline sisters already stormed, burned and cleared.
November 22, 2025 at 11:32 AM
It's different! I don't feel like I'm in the trenches, I feel like I'm setting up artillery positions on a hill that my frontline sisters already stormed, burned and cleared.
I think that our faggotization requires scouring us from everyday society in a way that was difficult in 1995, at the trough of AIDS and before any kind of social media connected internet. I think that's exponentially harder now, every year.
November 22, 2025 at 11:21 AM
I think that our faggotization requires scouring us from everyday society in a way that was difficult in 1995, at the trough of AIDS and before any kind of social media connected internet. I think that's exponentially harder now, every year.
Me? I could've repped for decades, for the rest of my life. I wouldn't have been happy, but I wouldn't have been miserable either. I think the proportion of cis men who would like to not be men is double digits, not single digits.
November 22, 2025 at 11:21 AM
Me? I could've repped for decades, for the rest of my life. I wouldn't have been happy, but I wouldn't have been miserable either. I think the proportion of cis men who would like to not be men is double digits, not single digits.
I think you're underestimating the scope of it. When I talk to girls who came out 15-20 years ago, they're like marines storming a beach, they had to push forward or they'd fucking die.
November 22, 2025 at 11:21 AM
I think you're underestimating the scope of it. When I talk to girls who came out 15-20 years ago, they're like marines storming a beach, they had to push forward or they'd fucking die.
It also undermines cis male class solidarity when men start seeing their friends switched out with new women.
November 22, 2025 at 11:09 AM
It also undermines cis male class solidarity when men start seeing their friends switched out with new women.
There are lots of "men" we can get to completely disidentify with the class of manhood, through the application of estradiol, mom jeans, and roller derby/rock climbing/videogame speedrunning
November 22, 2025 at 11:08 AM
There are lots of "men" we can get to completely disidentify with the class of manhood, through the application of estradiol, mom jeans, and roller derby/rock climbing/videogame speedrunning
We also have new technological avenues for making more women, using cis men as raw material.
November 22, 2025 at 11:08 AM
We also have new technological avenues for making more women, using cis men as raw material.
Oh hot damn lmao
November 22, 2025 at 10:45 AM
Oh hot damn lmao