There's a widespread fantasy (especially among men) that male violence can be harnessed and re-directed at "the bad men" in the service of feminism but that's not how we undo patriarchy. It's like believing that the One Ring can be used to defeat Sauron.

Good rule of thumb: If you find yourself yelling "fuck yeah, kill those guys!" in the theater, it's probably not a super great critique of toxic masculinity.

We really gotta raise the bar up off the floor when it comes to commentary on and representations of masculinity.

Just when you think she’s found the most disgusting possible application of technology, she reveals an even worse example of misogyny.

Ah yes, the New England version of awesome

That's the very short version but honestly it would require a whole video essay to flush it out.

Very briefly - "War is hell" is a worldview wherein war can be seen as trial by fire, something awful/twisted but necessary and important. Embedded in that is the idea that going through hell makes men, and the nation, stronger as a result. And/or war is viewed as an inevitable part of human nature.