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Protyus A. Gendher
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Author of Toxicity Toolkit, Survivor, Mom, Cycle Breaker, Healer, Educator, Anthropologist, Comedian, Poet, Writer, Liberal, Disabled, Blogger, and an all around good time. Trying to make sense of this American mess. Read me at invisiblymisdiagnosed.com
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Nobody Can Afford This: Volume One by Protyus A. Gendher
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January 10, 2026 at 4:12 AM
She told me that she was about to head to work, at Arby's, and wouldn't get off until 10 pm. I told her we'd be delighted to entertain ourselves until she got off work, and we spent the day mulling around SLC.

0/10 recommend. #freedom #roadtrip #utah #escape #survivor
71) Wyoming by Way of Utah Part 3
The narrative describes a road trip through Utah to Salt Lake City, highlighting the challenges and experiences along the way. The protagonist deals with personal reflections on relationships and the cultural differences in Utah. After engaging with friends and facing car troubles, they consider a future in Wyoming, yearning for freedom and nature.
invisiblymisdiagnosed.com
January 10, 2026 at 2:13 AM
There was no train that day. As he pointed out on the walk back, I was never in any danger, he was just talking. "Don't be such a baby."

"And don't you dare tell Mom. Or else." #sibling #survivor #abuse #supervision #writer
9) Adult Supervision Required (TW) – Revisited
The author adjusts to life in Indiana on a sharp learning curve.
invisiblymisdiagnosed.com
January 9, 2026 at 10:12 PM
Week 5 you'll return to your journal with some analysis and reflection. In week 6 you'll practice self-care and setting boundaries. In week 7 you'll practice letting go, and in week 8 you'll explore the DBT skill DEAR MAN to aid in interpersonal effectiveness. #dearman #DBT #survivorliteracy
Toxicity Toolkit 9 – The Second Month
In the second month, participants engage in weekly exercises, journaling, and reflective analysis in week 5. Week 6 focuses on self-care and boundaries, while week 7 emphasizes letting go. Finally, week 8 introduces the DBT skill DEAR MAN for improved interpersonal effectiveness. Feedback for content concerns is welcomed.
invisiblymisdiagnosed.com
January 9, 2026 at 3:11 AM
One of J's friends lived in his parents' garage, and had his own apartment back there. He said I was welcome to be there, but I wouldn't be able to use the bathroom in the house. #runaway #teens #blog #survivor #sociology #trauma
39) Runaway Part Two
The adventure continues, until it all ends.
invisiblymisdiagnosed.com
January 9, 2026 at 2:24 AM
It was 2 or 3 am when we pulled into Grand Junction. I remember we had a little difficulty navigating, but we were calm about it, and more curious than anything. We found a gas station, and A jumped out to get gas. When he got back in I was panicked. #survivor #escape #freedom #utah
70) Wyoming by Way of Utah Part Two
In "Wyoming by Way of Utah Part Two," the narrator recounts a chaotic road trip filled with challenges, including losing crucial belongings and navigating unexpected situations. While seeking jobs and support, emotions ran high among friends. Ultimately, they find the lost planner, restoring hope and camaraderie amidst their struggles.
invisiblymisdiagnosed.com
January 9, 2026 at 1:47 AM
Abuse is a culturally bound concept.

If I were to put gloves full of ants on my child's hands and make her sit with them on enduring the biting, it would be clear that I am abusing my kid. That's not globally true. #abuse #culture #gaslighting #survival #belonging #fittingin #peerpressure #proveit
8) What’s Abuse? – Revisited
The post explores the complex and culturally nuanced definitions of abuse, highlighting practices such as child circumcision and finger cutting within specific tribes. It questions societal norms that normalize harmful behaviors and reflects on personal accountability. The author emphasizes the need for honest self-examination regarding actions that may cause harm to others.
invisiblymisdiagnosed.com
January 8, 2026 at 5:01 PM
I like the me that she saw, although I was eager to alter her impression of my innocence. I think her projection of my innocence heightened the attraction for her. I get it. Who doesn't love a virgin? It just wasn't me, exactly. #grooming #survivor
100) *Leggo My Preggo Part Four
The author finally finds themself alone with their crush, and it heats up.
invisiblymisdiagnosed.com
January 8, 2026 at 6:17 AM
J was super sweet, and I had worked with him in the cafeteria of our high school our senior year. Then, sophomore year he just disappeared. When you have 2000+ students in your school, it's hard to know if someone moved, dropped out, or just has a schedule that doesn't align with yours. #runaway
38) Runaway Part 1
The author makes a break for it, escaping the control of home, for whatever the world would present.
invisiblymisdiagnosed.com
January 8, 2026 at 2:09 AM
Viktor E. Frankl had said "Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms – to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."
#freedom #youth #survivor #bastard #writer
69) Wyoming by Way of Utah- Part One
The narrative explores a journey of liberation from a toxic family environment. It reflects on mental preparation, self-discovery, and authenticity amidst conflicting identities. The protagonist confronts past trauma, embraces freedom, and values their evolution. Despite challenges, they find fulfillment in their choices and the beauty of the diverse world ahead.
invisiblymisdiagnosed.com
January 8, 2026 at 1:08 AM
For most of my childhood my grandparent's house was home for not only my grandparents, but also my mom, brother, and I, as well as my 2 aunts and their 2 kids. By the time I was in 2nd grade, the aunts had moved out. This left what I considered the "core" family.

#Script #family #life #grooming
7) New Scripts – Revisited
The narrative reflects on a childhood shaped by rigid family dynamics and expectations, particularly towards maternal roles. The author recounts the contrast between their mother’s lively past and the oppressive environment created by their grandmother. Moving to Indiana signifies a turning point, offering glimpses of newfound freedom and self-discovery amid evolving family scripts.
invisiblymisdiagnosed.com
January 7, 2026 at 4:48 PM
In combating toxicity in our relationships it is not only important to eliminate toxic behaviors, but also to grow positive behaviors. Positive reinforcement is the most effective means of increasing a target behavior. #praise #toolkit #selfhelp
Toxicity Toolkit 8 – Week 4 – Praise
In Week Four, the focus is on positive reinforcement, particularly praise, as a tool for promoting healthy behaviors in relationships. It emphasizes the importance of specificity in feedback and cautions against public praise to avoid manipulative tendencies. The exercise encourages private recognition of positive actions using genuine communication.
invisiblymisdiagnosed.com
January 7, 2026 at 8:01 AM
Believe Survivors #survivorliteracy
Daily Prompt – 1-6-25
"If you had a freeway billboard, what would it say?" BELIEVE SURVIVORS
invisiblymisdiagnosed.com
January 7, 2026 at 6:13 AM
I didn't call them when I didn't have propane. I waited to get paid. I hadn't asked to be bailed out a single time in the nearly a year since I'd left home, and they couldn't see it. I was just going to have to try harder. #pregnant #prochoice #abortion #parenthood #survival #trauma
99) Leggo My Preggo Part Three
The narrator grapples with feelings of hurt over family dynamics while navigating a newfound pregnancy and complex workplace relationships. As they develop a crush on Elway, a married coworker, their interactions draw scrutiny from a friend. Despite challenges, they share moments of connection, highlighting the intricacies of young love and friendship.
invisiblymisdiagnosed.com
January 7, 2026 at 6:05 AM
It's actually really interesting, because when you tell anyone that you're pregnant, they can't help but tell you how they really feel about you. They tell you everything they don't think you're capable of. They tell you how weak they expect you to be, how fragile, how breakable. #survivor #preggo
98) Leggo My Preggo Part Two
The narrator navigates pregnancy at eighteen, revealing the challenges of societal expectations and a strained relationship with her mother. Supportive friends provide some comfort, while revealing doubts from others amplify feelings of inadequacy. A pivotal phone call with her mother confirms disapproval as she faces lack of familial support and harsh judgments about her situation.
invisiblymisdiagnosed.com
January 7, 2026 at 5:53 AM
I always auditioned for the higher choirs, and they always put me in the lowest audition choir, because they only had one fat dress and they already had one fat person in the upper choirs.

#choir #friends #sneak #sneaking #rebel #trauma #sociology
37) That One Time I Snuck Out
The author reflects on their high school choir experience, where singing provided comfort and connection. They describe a close friendship with Mr. E, a rebellious peer, sharing dreams and secrets during secret visits. A risky late-night venture ultimately leads to panic and Mr. E’s sudden disappearance, leaving unresolved feelings behind.
invisiblymisdiagnosed.com
January 7, 2026 at 1:54 AM
I had asked several times to get a bank account, and Mom told me I didn't deserve one. I couldn't be trusted with one. She wasn't going to have her name on it with me. #leaving #autonomy #financialliteracy #survivor #ptsd #trauma #control
68) Anywhere But Here
The author reflects on their lack of financial literacy education in high school, highlighting experiences in home economics that focused on practical skills rather than budgeting or managing finances. They recount their journey to freedom after leaving a controlling home life, where they had to learn independence and self-worth while feeling that financial knowledge was never imparted to them.
invisiblymisdiagnosed.com
January 7, 2026 at 12:57 AM
SCRIPT Theory -
Social Control Reinforced/Reproduced In Practice/Performance Talk/Text

(Really it's SCRRIPPTT but there's no need to make spellcheck that angry with me.)
#ScriptTheory #SCRRIPPTT #Theory #sociology #anthropology #writer #control #conformity
6) SCRIPT Theory – Revisited
The SCRIPT theory discusses how social interactions rely on predefined scripts that shape perceptions and relationships. These scripts guide communication and behavior, reinforcing social norms and expectations. While they can restrict authenticity, individuals have the potential to create new scripts for personal expression, challenging established norms and promoting self-awareness within society.
invisiblymisdiagnosed.com
January 6, 2026 at 4:42 PM