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Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · 7d

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Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · 20d

So sorry, Carly. You don’t deserve this and we hope you can feel comfortable online again. We appreciate you for who you are and the light you bring to the space ❤️

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · 25d

Happy birthday, Folzy!

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GameCroix @gamecroix.bsky.social · 26d

Let’s play PEAK with @sydneybytes.bsky.social and the @radiantgardeners.com ! After that, imma start MGS Delta 👀 Come hangout!

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Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Sep 6

Thank you so much, that really means a lot to us ❤️

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Sep 5

Thank you for your comments. We're really glad we were able to help and we hope the community can continue to work together to make a safer space.

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Sep 4

We are sorry you didn’t want to be in our community because of our association with Brandon. We didn’t know this was happening and we were actively being manipulated. We are hurt too and we are trying to take action now.

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Sep 4

He has been banned, kicked from our Discord, and we removed ourselves from all of his spaces. There is never absolute certainty that a community is free from an abuser. Abusers hide every day but we will remove them when we find them.

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Sep 4

We did not mention that blocking is unhelpful in protecting your community– it is helpful. What is not helpful is preemptively blocking and banning people based on a perceived involvement that hasn't been proven, without allowing them the time and grace to make their own statements

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Sep 4

We agree that everyone needs grace and we are asking those who are giving none, to give some.

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Sep 4

That feels like an unfair accusation when our perspective is that we were validating that she did not have to act any other way. We were trying to clarify why we didn’t know and do anything in response to accusations that we enabled him. We’re sorry it came across as though she is at fault.

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Sep 4

(cont.) We’re sorry for your pain. We hope we can get the grace to share our pain as well. Hopefully as we all reflect we can see that we are more united than it might feel right now.

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Sep 4

Looking back at it now, we understand that he was manipulating us. People often don’t know they are being manipulated while it’s happening and we aren’t an exception to that. We shared our experience to add to the context around the problem.

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Sep 4

We are sorry you went through this. We hope you can see that a lot of the feelings we are experiencing overlap. We understand the anger of wishing we could have done something. We felt we had to come forward now. We have to reiterate: we are not blaming his victims and we do blame Brandon.

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Sep 4

We did not intend for it to come across that way, so we appreciate you pointing it out so we could clarify. We apologize for any words or actions that have contributed to re-traumatizing anyone. Our goal was to shed more light on how difficult it is to speak up.

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Sep 4

We agree that people should block/unfollow to protect their peace and we support this. Our concern is more with the actions afterwards where people's characters were attacked. It creates a space that is fearful of having conversations and fearful of offering support.

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Sep 4

We understand there will be discomfort in these conversations as they are complex and a lot of emotions are involved. We want to have them regardless of discomfort we may feel. We appreciate you wanting to have a conversation.

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Sep 4

We want to make it clear that we have talked to Brandon and held him accountable. He is not welcome in our spaces and we will no longer be associating with him. We know we aren’t going to say everything perfectly in this post, but we will uphold our values and keep trying to do what is right.

We have been back and forth with each other about whether or not making a post like this will endanger more people during an inflammatory and confusing time, or if we can find the words to help those who don’t feel safe right now. Our hope is that by taking the leap and lending our voice, we can help those who are so lost in all of this and are scared of speaking up about their own experiences.

This has been a week filled with so much hurt. This community is an incredibly loving and empathetic place as a whole. We think everyone is trying to process and trying to find their place in this. Whether that’s reaching out privately, making a public post, liking a post, or giving ourselves time to process. Sometimes it’s hard to speak up because you yourself have gone through this and it’s scary and painful. Sometimes you are more motivated to speak up because you’ve gone through this and you want to be the person you didn’t have. Sometimes you just don’t want to accidentally say the wrong thing and you’re scared your words will be twisted or interpreted wrong. Sometimes you have your own horrible things happening in life and you’re just trying to take care of yourself. There are so many reasons for why people are reacting to this situation the way that they are.

It does not help to start attacking the people that have nothing to do with this. It does not help to start blocking and unfollowing those who liked a post to try to show their support. It does not help to say cruel things about people who have come forward with their own hurt, but didn’t say what you wanted to hear. These things do not allow for a safe environment to support those who need it. Many people can be hurt at the same time– that’s just how life is. You hurt going through the situation yourself, you hurt because your friend is hurt, you hurt because the community you love dearly is hurt. It’s okay to be hurt and we should not be tossing aside those who are.

Abuse, manipulation, bullying, and harassment are not acceptable. They will never be acceptable, regardless of who the perpetrator is. Victims are being silenced and people are perpetuating the behaviors they are calling for an end to. We will hold people accountable to the best of our ability. We value understanding how our words and actions will impact or potentially hurt people. Sometimes this causes us to not respond as reactively as some people might like. Our aim is to provide accountability without inflicting more hurt. We are doing our best and will continue to do our best.

The way that some members of the community are acting is not helping. We are scared of speaking up. We are terrified of the consequences. We are afraid to be on Twitch right now. We are afraid that if our names are in someone’s chat that they will be punished. We are afraid that if we like friends’ posts that they will be attacked. We are afraid that sharing our perspective will be shut down. In spite of that, it doesn’t feel right watching all of this unfold and saying nothing publicly. We are asking the community to listen to each other and hear each other out. We don’t have to align perfectly, but if we are willing to talk things through, we will be able to make progress towards a safer place.

We’re bothered by certain things that don’t feel fair or true. Sweeping accusations are being made that friends of Brandon enabled abuse and that their silence is enabling abuse. That accusation leaves out the possibility that his friends didn’t know what was happening. We were friends with Brandon and we didn’t know. Our experience is that we were left in the dark and unable to do what we would have done if we had known what was happening. That is why we want to provide more context to our perspective.

For about a year we have tried to respect our friends’ privacy as they navigated their relationships and asked us to not look into it when we were confused about changes in dynamics. We thought we were close with them. We used to play games together all the time, have deep conversations for hours, and shared a lot with one another. We’d hang out individually and as a group.

Bambina began distancing herself and in January we reached out to make sure she was okay. She said she was distancing herself from people for a while but that the three of us were still on good terms. She said it would mean a lot to her if we didn’t look into it and did not try to fix it. We respected her wishes and we were worried about making what she was going through worse.

Near the end of March we got kicked from her Discord, blocked everywhere, and all of the clips she had made of our channel were deleted. We didn’t know why this happened or what we did. We’re upset we’ve never had an opportunity to clarify. We didn’t seek answers from her, respecting the boundaries she set by blocking us, despite how confusing this was.

We want to make it clear: Bambina’s experience is her experience. We are not here to shut her down or invalidate her feelings. She had every right to cut us out if she needed distance and to do so without talking to us. But the context that she never talked to us needs to be made clear. We were never allowed to clarify anything or given the chance to support her. We are incredibly saddened that she has gone through this and that it’s been going on for so long.

After we were blocked, we reached out to Brandon. He told us that the two of them had an on-again off-again relationship that was unhealthy so he ended it. He told us it was bad for him and that he wanted to move on. He asked us not to talk about it with anyone else and to let it be a private thing between the two of them. At this point, we only got part of one side of the story and had no way of getting the rest.

We understand that we were friends with Brandon and Bambina, but both of them left us in the dark about what was truly happening. They didn’t owe it to us to tell us anything and they still don’t. It’s really sad to now have it misconstrued that we enabled abuse. We’ve been asking ourselves what we could’ve done differently, and it’s painful, but we’re not sure what else we could’ve done with the pieces of information we had and what was asked of us while we were trying to respect the boundaries we were given.

Since we found out new information last Friday, we have taken action. Just because we were friends with Brandon doesn’t mean we wouldn’t hold him accountable for his actions. Like we’ve said before, we will hold everyone accountable when we know that they are manipulative, toxic, or emotionally dangerous to be around. This being in the public eye has shown a lot of people’s true colors and shed light on more than just one person we do not feel comfortable being around or allowing in our community.

We do not tolerate victim blaming. We do not tolerate suppressing victims. We do not tolerate language or behavior that seeks to harm people. Victims will feel safe when accountability is created through responsibility, grace, and respect. We hope that the victims can find the safety and support that they need to heal with the privacy and kindness that they deserve.

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Aug 24

IT BEGINS NOW!

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Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Aug 24

IT STARTS TODAY!!! AHHHHHH

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Aug 24

Thank you, Lanz! ♥

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Aug 24

IT STARTS TODAY!!! AHHHHHH

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Aug 24

Every year is ennui year!

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Aug 24

we're about to have a good time 😎

Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Aug 23

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Nick & Nicole @radiantgardeners.com · Aug 16

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