Saying that someone looks better because they’ve lost weight isn’t what they need to hear, that’s a shallow response that can reinforce bad habits. & I should be uplifted even at my heaviest to know I’m still worthy. That’s where I stand on this subject.

Change your language, don’t say ‘wow you look so much better’, say something along the lines of ‘I hope you’re feeling better & taking care of yourself’, at least that’s what I would want to hear.

You need to think about this when someone loses weight, especially if they aren’t very open with the way they’ve lost it, because not everyone loses weight in healthy ways that are good for their body.

I think this is important to take into mind when you share your progress, that it’s coming from a good place, because losing the weight feels good because you get compliments from others but sometimes it enforces those bad habits we hold onto from pain & suffering.

I was binging & purging, I wasn’t eating because I was so depressed, it wasn’t like my weight loss was something to be ‘celebrated’ even though people acted like I was a changed & better person because of it.

Community is important, but so is self preservation, boundaries, & putting yourself first. If you feel like you’re being torn in a million different directions, that’s probably a sign you need to focus more on yourself rather than everything prying on your energy.

With everyone being so readily available/easily accessible in today’s society everyone expects you to answer them immediately, to drop everything for them, to let your guard down without getting to know you first, & you have to remind yourself it doesn’t have to be like that.

& that makes me feel so good because I have a tendency to doubt myself.

LITERALLY. I hope we both get through it okay

the fact they can even help me (while still putting themselves in a hole) is enough to me. I still am going to get them something but I told them please don’t get me anything & I mean that

My family agreed on not giving each other Christmas presents this year which is kind of depressing but the truth of the situation which is we have to do more important things with our money. I owe my brother hundreds & my parents thousands of dollars,

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