Mish Middelmann
@recoveringman.bsky.social
Recovering from prostate cancer, author of Beyond Erections https://beyonderections.com/book/
On Friday Nov 7, real men speak openly about how our sexuality has been affected since #ProstateCancer. This is not about the mechanics of sex but our attractions, preferences and sexual identities. Details and essential free pre-registration at recoveringman.net/talking-pros...
Men talk about prostate cancer & sexual health - Recovering Man
A diverse global peer support group meeting monthly, exploring how prostate cancer and men's sexual health impact our lives and relationships
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November 5, 2025 at 2:24 PM
On Friday Nov 7, real men speak openly about how our sexuality has been affected since #ProstateCancer. This is not about the mechanics of sex but our attractions, preferences and sexual identities. Details and essential free pre-registration at recoveringman.net/talking-pros...
When the cock in your life is soft, that isn’t necessarily the end of the harder side of sex. beyonderections.com/men-using-st...
Alternative ways to introduce hardness - Beyond Erections
Excerpts from a lively online conversation between wives and husbands about the joys of using prosthetic penises when natural erections fade.
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October 10, 2025 at 11:56 AM
When the cock in your life is soft, that isn’t necessarily the end of the harder side of sex. beyonderections.com/men-using-st...
How a man without testosterone remains sexual into his 70s - after prostate cancer, ADT and on estradiol beyonderections.com/sexual-pleas...
Reaching through the glass wall: sexual pleasure on ADT and estradiol - Beyond Erections
Through embracing his sexuality in all its new forms, a man in his 70s finds sexual pleasure without testosterone on ADT and estradiol.
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October 9, 2025 at 9:28 PM
How a man without testosterone remains sexual into his 70s - after prostate cancer, ADT and on estradiol beyonderections.com/sexual-pleas...
A 56 year old #prostatecancersurvivor says the setbacks are what remind him that "this recovery actually requires me to be actively involved rather that just letting it happen." recoveringman.net/urine-contro...
How physiotherapy and mindset helped me regain urine control - Recovering Man
How combined strategies for urine control after prostatectomy helped combat the "dreaded dribble" for a 56 year old man
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October 1, 2025 at 2:06 PM
A 56 year old #prostatecancersurvivor says the setbacks are what remind him that "this recovery actually requires me to be actively involved rather that just letting it happen." recoveringman.net/urine-contro...
After #prostatecancer "from the beginning, it was clear to me that I needed to be inventive. I needed to find new approaches to sex. My body (and my mind) were different after surgery. I could not rely on my old patterns of behaviour" - read more at recoveringman.net/sexual-inven...
Sexual inventiveness with ED and a new partner - Recovering Man
Single, sixty and suffering from ED after prostate cancer: how one man navigated relationship and sex with ED and a new partner
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September 8, 2025 at 8:09 PM
After #prostatecancer "from the beginning, it was clear to me that I needed to be inventive. I needed to find new approaches to sex. My body (and my mind) were different after surgery. I could not rely on my old patterns of behaviour" - read more at recoveringman.net/sexual-inven...
How a man responded to #prostatecancer including starting a new relationship with ED recoveringman.net/prostate-can...
Guest post 1: Cancer runs in my family - Recovering Man
Prostate cancer runs in this man's family and he also had to grapple with the consequences of prostate surgery while being single
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September 5, 2025 at 11:47 AM
How a man responded to #prostatecancer including starting a new relationship with ED recoveringman.net/prostate-can...
Raw truth about the sexual side effects of #prostatecancer treatment - one man's journey recoveringman.net/yearning-for...
Guest post: Yearning for sex - Recovering Man
With searing honesty, a 65 year old man describes his prostate cancer journey, including heterosexual and homosexual yearning
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September 4, 2025 at 3:51 PM
Raw truth about the sexual side effects of #prostatecancer treatment - one man's journey recoveringman.net/yearning-for...
Men do talk frankly, openly and vulnerably about our sexual health matters - if the conditions are right. The amazing story of the bikers opening up over breakfast recoveringman.net/men-talking-...
Guest post 5: Men talking about sexual health - Recovering Man
How 5 men enjoyed wild mountain biking, shared evening beers and then settled down to talk openly about their sexual health
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August 29, 2025 at 2:24 PM
Men do talk frankly, openly and vulnerably about our sexual health matters - if the conditions are right. The amazing story of the bikers opening up over breakfast recoveringman.net/men-talking-...
The personal story behind the remarkable penis ring that logs health data while supporting firmer erections recoveringman.net/innovative-f...
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How cardiovascular research led to innovative erection support
How a cardiovascular medical research initiative led to the most innovative, comfortable and effective erection support device I've ever used
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August 16, 2025 at 7:19 PM
The personal story behind the remarkable penis ring that logs health data while supporting firmer erections recoveringman.net/innovative-f...
@myfirmtech.com
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Real men responding to #prostatecancer talk freely and share experiences live on Zoom on Tuesday August 5, about 25 hours from the time of this post. Details and essential free pre-registration at recoveringman.net/talking-pros...
Men talk about prostate cancer & sexual health - Recovering Man
A diverse global peer support group meeting monthly, exploring how prostate cancer and men's sexual health impact our lives and relationships
recoveringman.net
August 4, 2025 at 5:41 PM
Real men responding to #prostatecancer talk freely and share experiences live on Zoom on Tuesday August 5, about 25 hours from the time of this post. Details and essential free pre-registration at recoveringman.net/talking-pros...
Enjoying sexual arousal without orgasm is a difficult dance. Yet mastery unlocks a flow of joyous connection that can be even more satisfying than a quick "finish" recoveringman.net/mini-peaks-a...
Day 951: Mini-peaks, alternatives to full orgasm - Recovering Man
Struggling to reach orgasm due to weakened erections. Welcoming mini-peaks as alternatives to full orgasm that offer a satisfying way forward
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August 1, 2025 at 3:35 PM
Enjoying sexual arousal without orgasm is a difficult dance. Yet mastery unlocks a flow of joyous connection that can be even more satisfying than a quick "finish" recoveringman.net/mini-peaks-a...
One of the scariest things about #prostatecancer treatment (and several other illnesses) is the loss of libido. It can be devastating. Mine came hesitatingly back after some time, like cracking open a shell recoveringman.net/libido-retur...
Day 920: Libido returning - Recovering Man
Libido returning after Covid and cancer: it's time to expand the definition of libido beyond pure sexual expression. It's about love of life
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July 30, 2025 at 4:23 PM
One of the scariest things about #prostatecancer treatment (and several other illnesses) is the loss of libido. It can be devastating. Mine came hesitatingly back after some time, like cracking open a shell recoveringman.net/libido-retur...
Celebrating ten years of the book Come As You Are with an appreciation of its huge and growing relevance to men - whether as partners or as penis owners with erectile differences @enagoski.bsky.social beyonderections.com/come-as-you-...
Come As You Are: what men can learn - Beyond Erections
Emily Nagoski's 2015 classic Come As You Are was written with a focus on women but it's extremely relevant to men with erectile differences
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July 28, 2025 at 7:01 PM
Celebrating ten years of the book Come As You Are with an appreciation of its huge and growing relevance to men - whether as partners or as penis owners with erectile differences @enagoski.bsky.social beyonderections.com/come-as-you-...
I was surprised how quickly I got up and about after having my prostate removed due to cancer recoveringman.net/robotic-assi...
Robotic assisted laparoscopic surgery is absolutely magnificent treatment
How wonderful to be back home the day after major radical prostatectomy surgery - and out walking on the street already!
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July 27, 2025 at 7:04 PM
I was surprised how quickly I got up and about after having my prostate removed due to cancer recoveringman.net/robotic-assi...
"When I have a phantom erection, I can perform that clench-and-twitch routine, and really be convinced that there is a twitch. But if I look or feel down there ... there is zero movement or swelling. I still do the exercises to keep hope alive." recoveringman.net/phantom-erec...
Day 907: Phantom erections - Recovering Man
How men can feel as if they have firm erections after prostate cancer treatment, even when their actual sex organs are totally flaccid.
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July 17, 2025 at 11:20 AM
"When I have a phantom erection, I can perform that clench-and-twitch routine, and really be convinced that there is a twitch. But if I look or feel down there ... there is zero movement or swelling. I still do the exercises to keep hope alive." recoveringman.net/phantom-erec...
How erectile differences opened me up to new full body orgasms and expanded our sexual creativity as a couple recoveringman.net/new-full-bod...
Day 1325: Discovering new full body orgasms - Recovering Man
Discovering new full body orgasms after prostate cancer, with partial erectile dysfunction, that open the door to being a multi-orgasmic man
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July 16, 2025 at 1:07 PM
How erectile differences opened me up to new full body orgasms and expanded our sexual creativity as a couple recoveringman.net/new-full-bod...
Breaking the silence about sex with erectile differences - a 59 year old French woman speaks openly, 9 months after her husband's prostate surgery recoveringman.net/extended-lov...
Partner Diary 5: how extended lovemaking combats ED - Recovering Man
How a French woman helped her husband combat ED after cytoprostatectomy through 2-hour extended lovemaking sessions
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July 15, 2025 at 3:33 PM
Breaking the silence about sex with erectile differences - a 59 year old French woman speaks openly, 9 months after her husband's prostate surgery recoveringman.net/extended-lov...
I thought long and hard before I disclosed my prostate cancer diagnosis to professional colleagues. recoveringman.net/disclosing-c...
Disclosing cancer diagnosis at work: who, how and when
My two contradictory instincts: On the one hand I want to share my cancer diagnosis openly. On the other hand I want to preserve my professional standing and pretend I am OK by keeping it quiet.
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July 14, 2025 at 1:05 PM
I thought long and hard before I disclosed my prostate cancer diagnosis to professional colleagues. recoveringman.net/disclosing-c...
I am still shocked by how difficult it is to have open discussion of sexual side effects of both aging and #prostatecancer. Some people are finding ways to start the much-needed conversations recoveringman.net/learning-fro... @joanprice.bsky.social
Impact of prostate surgery: learning from gay men
Before surgery, I want to know what it will really feel like if I have my prostate removed. Studies in the gay community give simple direct answers.
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July 13, 2025 at 1:42 PM
I am still shocked by how difficult it is to have open discussion of sexual side effects of both aging and #prostatecancer. Some people are finding ways to start the much-needed conversations recoveringman.net/learning-fro... @joanprice.bsky.social
My wife's take on what it was like when I was diagnosed and treated for prostate cancer recoveringman.net/include-part...
How my husband got diagnosed and treated for prostate cancer
His cancer diagnosis affected me almost as much as him. It helped to be included in my husband's diagnosis and treatment meetings with doctors.
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July 12, 2025 at 2:40 PM
My wife's take on what it was like when I was diagnosed and treated for prostate cancer recoveringman.net/include-part...
Thanks @joanprice.bsky.social for continuing to speak up for sex over 60! Great article, very helpful in dispelling the myth that sex = penetration, as expanded upon in my book Beyond Erections
“Yes, sex changes as we age: we just need to learn to explore new ways of making sexual arousal work for us” -- including taking turns ("double the pleasure") and incorporating vibrators. I'm quoted in @theguardian.com, 7/11/25: www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle...
Bigger is always better - and 10 other sex myths busted
Think only men suffer performance anxiety, your libido is set in stone or porn destroys intimacy? Experts debunk the most common misconceptions about your sex life
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July 11, 2025 at 6:56 PM
Thanks @joanprice.bsky.social for continuing to speak up for sex over 60! Great article, very helpful in dispelling the myth that sex = penetration, as expanded upon in my book Beyond Erections
The mantra that continues to serve me through #prostatecancer as well as #sexoversixty and aging is:
* My sexuality is not limited to my erections
* My libido is not limited to my sexuality
* My manhood is not limited to my libido
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* My sexuality is not limited to my erections
* My libido is not limited to my sexuality
* My manhood is not limited to my libido
recoveringman.net/sexuality-li...
Recovering Man ponders sexuality, libido and identity after prostate cancer
A 61 year old man creates beacons to hold onto while facing losses that come along with radical prostatectomy surgery
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July 11, 2025 at 1:36 PM
The mantra that continues to serve me through #prostatecancer as well as #sexoversixty and aging is:
* My sexuality is not limited to my erections
* My libido is not limited to my sexuality
* My manhood is not limited to my libido
recoveringman.net/sexuality-li...
* My sexuality is not limited to my erections
* My libido is not limited to my sexuality
* My manhood is not limited to my libido
recoveringman.net/sexuality-li...
What goes on in my head in the middle of the night is not so pretty. But the deeper down I let myself go, the more I can savour joy recoveringman.net/prostatecanc...
Daytime gratitude, night time despair - Recovering Man
Getting prostate cancer MRI scan results is pretty scary. I bounce between daytime hope and night time despair
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July 10, 2025 at 11:56 AM
What goes on in my head in the middle of the night is not so pretty. But the deeper down I let myself go, the more I can savour joy recoveringman.net/prostatecanc...
Exploring sexual pleasure beyond erections - Still time to get free tickets to live conversation with sexuality expert Erica Leroye and book author Mish Middelmann July 19th at 1 pm Eastern time events.humanitix.com/beyond-erect...
Beyond Erections: Sexual Pleasure and Intimacy with Erectile Differences
Join Erica Leroye and Mish Middelmann for an engaging and practical talk on soft penis pleasure and intimacy, inspired by Mish’s new book Beyond Erections.
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July 9, 2025 at 8:12 PM
Exploring sexual pleasure beyond erections - Still time to get free tickets to live conversation with sexuality expert Erica Leroye and book author Mish Middelmann July 19th at 1 pm Eastern time events.humanitix.com/beyond-erect...
Like many men with prostate cancer, I had absolutely no symptoms. I'm one of the lucky ones who found out before it was too late recoveringman.net/first-signs-...
How I found out I had prostate cancer
Finding the first signs of prostate cancer was just in time for me, thanks to an alert and proactive GP - even though I had zero symptoms.
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July 8, 2025 at 4:02 PM
Like many men with prostate cancer, I had absolutely no symptoms. I'm one of the lucky ones who found out before it was too late recoveringman.net/first-signs-...