rhadamus (they/them)
@rhadamus.bsky.social
🇵🇭🏳️⚧️professional safety person, environmental engineer, community organizer, etc
Update:
I went back to therapy a few weeks ago, because I needed and wanted the extra support. And it felt great to recognize that I did so without shaming myself about it.
Also, yikes about how things have declined even more since the quoted post
I went back to therapy a few weeks ago, because I needed and wanted the extra support. And it felt great to recognize that I did so without shaming myself about it.
Also, yikes about how things have declined even more since the quoted post
Graduated from my most recent course of therapy, just in time for...all of this
The work and the healing is always worth it, but damn
The work and the healing is always worth it, but damn
October 12, 2025 at 5:13 PM
Update:
I went back to therapy a few weeks ago, because I needed and wanted the extra support. And it felt great to recognize that I did so without shaming myself about it.
Also, yikes about how things have declined even more since the quoted post
I went back to therapy a few weeks ago, because I needed and wanted the extra support. And it felt great to recognize that I did so without shaming myself about it.
Also, yikes about how things have declined even more since the quoted post
Graduated from my most recent course of therapy, just in time for...all of this
The work and the healing is always worth it, but damn
The work and the healing is always worth it, but damn
June 15, 2025 at 5:33 AM
Graduated from my most recent course of therapy, just in time for...all of this
The work and the healing is always worth it, but damn
The work and the healing is always worth it, but damn
Added more wings to my arm last week. The cold and all the healing is making me sleepy~
January 27, 2025 at 3:39 AM
Added more wings to my arm last week. The cold and all the healing is making me sleepy~
Hey hello, I've been on a much needed vacation and I ended up making it s t r e s s f u l
But here's me on the beach
But here's me on the beach
January 13, 2025 at 6:25 PM
Hey hello, I've been on a much needed vacation and I ended up making it s t r e s s f u l
But here's me on the beach
But here's me on the beach
I haven't talked about this much outside of my local friends, but I ended a 4.5 year relationship about 10 days ago.
It was difficult, but I had to spare the pain and resentment that would build if I continued unhappy.
I'm going to do my best to only speak respectfully about them if/when I do so.
It was difficult, but I had to spare the pain and resentment that would build if I continued unhappy.
I'm going to do my best to only speak respectfully about them if/when I do so.
October 20, 2024 at 2:47 PM
I haven't talked about this much outside of my local friends, but I ended a 4.5 year relationship about 10 days ago.
It was difficult, but I had to spare the pain and resentment that would build if I continued unhappy.
I'm going to do my best to only speak respectfully about them if/when I do so.
It was difficult, but I had to spare the pain and resentment that would build if I continued unhappy.
I'm going to do my best to only speak respectfully about them if/when I do so.
Yes, hi, hello
My 3-year HRT anniversary was this week so I'm posting this here too
My 3-year HRT anniversary was this week so I'm posting this here too
October 19, 2024 at 3:41 PM
Yes, hi, hello
My 3-year HRT anniversary was this week so I'm posting this here too
My 3-year HRT anniversary was this week so I'm posting this here too
not "quitting" cosplay but I haven't made a new costume in ages, and I'm a very different person now. but I'm sitting here about to dismantle 10 years of armor builds that have survived so much personal growth, an abusive marriage, a pandemic, and the start of my transition
April 7, 2024 at 5:56 PM
not "quitting" cosplay but I haven't made a new costume in ages, and I'm a very different person now. but I'm sitting here about to dismantle 10 years of armor builds that have survived so much personal growth, an abusive marriage, a pandemic, and the start of my transition
got my first inking this weekend and I think I need more
March 5, 2024 at 2:27 AM
got my first inking this weekend and I think I need more
I had my first therapy session of the year, and we celebrated my progress since I started in May.
My last session with her will be in two weeks! ✨️
My last session with her will be in two weeks! ✨️
January 8, 2024 at 10:38 PM
I had my first therapy session of the year, and we celebrated my progress since I started in May.
My last session with her will be in two weeks! ✨️
My last session with her will be in two weeks! ✨️
my students bullied me into making an Insta account but I think my profile got disabled for no reason, so I shrug about it
January 8, 2024 at 1:19 PM
my students bullied me into making an Insta account but I think my profile got disabled for no reason, so I shrug about it
I brought this up during my team's weekly check in with our interim manager, and his first instinct was to say "that's really cool, man!" and now I have a headache
Spent my first official week as a supervisor and it hit me that I might be our dept's first nonbinary supervisor??
December 4, 2023 at 7:17 PM
I brought this up during my team's weekly check in with our interim manager, and his first instinct was to say "that's really cool, man!" and now I have a headache
Spent my first official week as a supervisor and it hit me that I might be our dept's first nonbinary supervisor??
December 2, 2023 at 1:12 AM
Spent my first official week as a supervisor and it hit me that I might be our dept's first nonbinary supervisor??
I've been thinking a lot about gender, and the types of language around presentation that commonly get used. In non-binary and genderqueer fashion, I don't always know what exactly I'm "presenting" as, but I know that I'm "traditionally male appearing" which isn't what I'd like to be called.
November 27, 2023 at 8:32 PM
I've been thinking a lot about gender, and the types of language around presentation that commonly get used. In non-binary and genderqueer fashion, I don't always know what exactly I'm "presenting" as, but I know that I'm "traditionally male appearing" which isn't what I'd like to be called.
early morning gym again to prepare for the workday frustrations
November 21, 2023 at 1:23 PM
early morning gym again to prepare for the workday frustrations
Was watching Resident Evil Death Island. The main characters are all really bad at being hygienic in the lab. Sigh.
November 13, 2023 at 4:22 AM
Was watching Resident Evil Death Island. The main characters are all really bad at being hygienic in the lab. Sigh.
Week 3 of consistent gym time, and also winding down my weekly therapy to bi-weekly. Progress for fighting off the depression, rather than any strict numerical goals like I had years ago
November 7, 2023 at 2:00 AM
Week 3 of consistent gym time, and also winding down my weekly therapy to bi-weekly. Progress for fighting off the depression, rather than any strict numerical goals like I had years ago
I was in a little bit of a doom spiral this morning feeling like hard work and good behavior was ultimately pointless, but I went to a departmental meeting this afternoon where people were actually grateful for my integrity and felt a little better
November 2, 2023 at 10:21 PM
I was in a little bit of a doom spiral this morning feeling like hard work and good behavior was ultimately pointless, but I went to a departmental meeting this afternoon where people were actually grateful for my integrity and felt a little better
went in yesterday to talk to my manager with 3 very direct asks
leave with even more questions, confidential knowledge of who's about to quit, and a sob story about the manager's gay brother
leave with even more questions, confidential knowledge of who's about to quit, and a sob story about the manager's gay brother
November 2, 2023 at 1:21 PM
went in yesterday to talk to my manager with 3 very direct asks
leave with even more questions, confidential knowledge of who's about to quit, and a sob story about the manager's gay brother
leave with even more questions, confidential knowledge of who's about to quit, and a sob story about the manager's gay brother
Week 2 of consistent gym time! Glad the cardio room is practically empty in the morning 🏃
October 29, 2023 at 3:06 PM
Week 2 of consistent gym time! Glad the cardio room is practically empty in the morning 🏃
Current thoughts: I am deeply annoyed at many things currently impeding my professional development, but my most recent hire is down to help me play the silly games that might be required to get ahead
October 26, 2023 at 8:08 PM
Current thoughts: I am deeply annoyed at many things currently impeding my professional development, but my most recent hire is down to help me play the silly games that might be required to get ahead
currently longing for the warm, bitey, and chaotic embrace of my partner
October 24, 2023 at 7:58 PM
currently longing for the warm, bitey, and chaotic embrace of my partner
It's been a long time, but I went to the gym this morning and my body remembered how much it enjoys everything
October 21, 2023 at 3:53 PM
It's been a long time, but I went to the gym this morning and my body remembered how much it enjoys everything
Having been an essential worker/trainer+safety advocate for front line responders during the earliest stages of the pandemic did a lot of damage to my wellbeing, and recently I've been finding that I've finally been moving towards a better sense of self and stability.
October 20, 2023 at 11:20 AM
Having been an essential worker/trainer+safety advocate for front line responders during the earliest stages of the pandemic did a lot of damage to my wellbeing, and recently I've been finding that I've finally been moving towards a better sense of self and stability.
Today at work--
Coworker: Oh hi, how's it going?
Me: It's...going. And it may never stop.
Coworker: 🤔 ...oh. Ha! 🤣
Coworker: Oh hi, how's it going?
Me: It's...going. And it may never stop.
Coworker: 🤔 ...oh. Ha! 🤣
October 17, 2023 at 8:10 PM
Today at work--
Coworker: Oh hi, how's it going?
Me: It's...going. And it may never stop.
Coworker: 🤔 ...oh. Ha! 🤣
Coworker: Oh hi, how's it going?
Me: It's...going. And it may never stop.
Coworker: 🤔 ...oh. Ha! 🤣
Hi all, not sure how much I'll be here yet but the life update is that today is 2 years since starting estrogen HRT👍🏼
October 14, 2023 at 3:19 PM
Hi all, not sure how much I'll be here yet but the life update is that today is 2 years since starting estrogen HRT👍🏼