Safe & Together Institute
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The Safe & Together Institute provides domestic abuse–informed training and consulting to improve the safety and well-being of families.
The Safe & Together Institute provides domestic abuse–informed training and consulting to improve the safety and well-being of families.
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Hi! 👋 We're the Safe & Together Institute, and we're on a mission to inspire, inform & advance domestic abuse–informed change across the globe.
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What does coercive control do to childhood—and to the stories boys learn about becoming men?
In this episode, David Challen explores how control and isolation shape identity, mental health, and accountability—and what real repair takes.
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In this episode, David Challen explores how control and isolation shape identity, mental health, and accountability—and what real repair takes.
Listen: tinyurl.com/auk8vve6
Season 6 Episode 21: David Challen on How Growing Up with Coercive Control Warps Childhood and Manhood — Safe & Together Institute
We sit with survivor, campaigner, and author David Challen to trace the shape of coercive control through a child’s eyes: a mother’s world shrinking, a father’s rules governing every room, and a son t...
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December 23, 2025 at 8:41 PM
What does coercive control do to childhood—and to the stories boys learn about becoming men?
In this episode, David Challen explores how control and isolation shape identity, mental health, and accountability—and what real repair takes.
Listen: tinyurl.com/auk8vve6
In this episode, David Challen explores how control and isolation shape identity, mental health, and accountability—and what real repair takes.
Listen: tinyurl.com/auk8vve6
⏰ Early bird ends 1 Jan! Join us in Sydney, 17–19 March 2026, for the Asia Pacific Coercive Control & Children Conference. #SafeAndTogether #DVInformed #ChildSafety
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December 19, 2025 at 5:46 PM
⏰ Early bird ends 1 Jan! Join us in Sydney, 17–19 March 2026, for the Asia Pacific Coercive Control & Children Conference. #SafeAndTogether #DVInformed #ChildSafety
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Can we talk honestly about male violence without shaming and without avoiding accountability?
This podcast explores how truth, compassion, and responsibility can coexist, why pattern-based practice matters, and what truly increases child safety and survivor well-being.
Listen: tinyurl.com/4wmjsmkz
This podcast explores how truth, compassion, and responsibility can coexist, why pattern-based practice matters, and what truly increases child safety and survivor well-being.
Listen: tinyurl.com/4wmjsmkz
Season 6 Episode 20: Shame, Love & the Truth About Male Violence — Safe & Together Institute
The conversation opens with end-of-the-year reflections and personal milestones—international book releases, masterclasses, collaborations, and community work—and quickly moves to a timely, thorny que...
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December 18, 2025 at 4:39 PM
Can we talk honestly about male violence without shaming and without avoiding accountability?
This podcast explores how truth, compassion, and responsibility can coexist, why pattern-based practice matters, and what truly increases child safety and survivor well-being.
Listen: tinyurl.com/4wmjsmkz
This podcast explores how truth, compassion, and responsibility can coexist, why pattern-based practice matters, and what truly increases child safety and survivor well-being.
Listen: tinyurl.com/4wmjsmkz
What does men’s health reveal about preventing partner violence?
Our latest pod breaks down Ten To Men data on caregiving, mental health, and IPV risk—and what professionals can do earlier.
Listen: tinyurl.com/2ptrbpwe
Our latest pod breaks down Ten To Men data on caregiving, mental health, and IPV risk—and what professionals can do earlier.
Listen: tinyurl.com/2ptrbpwe
Season 6 Episode 19: Inside Ten To Men: What Male Health Reveals About Partner Violence — Safe & Together Institute
A stadium’s worth of men—every year. That’s the scale of new IPV use suggested by Ten To Men, Australia’s landmark longitudinal study of male health. We sit down with Karlee O’Donnell, a researcher wi...
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December 12, 2025 at 7:17 PM
What does men’s health reveal about preventing partner violence?
Our latest pod breaks down Ten To Men data on caregiving, mental health, and IPV risk—and what professionals can do earlier.
Listen: tinyurl.com/2ptrbpwe
Our latest pod breaks down Ten To Men data on caregiving, mental health, and IPV risk—and what professionals can do earlier.
Listen: tinyurl.com/2ptrbpwe
Safety. Dignity. Connection.
On #HumanRightsDay, we’re reminding systems that domestic abuse is a human rights issue — not a relationship issue. #SafeAndTogether
On #HumanRightsDay, we’re reminding systems that domestic abuse is a human rights issue — not a relationship issue. #SafeAndTogether
December 10, 2025 at 5:40 PM
Safety. Dignity. Connection.
On #HumanRightsDay, we’re reminding systems that domestic abuse is a human rights issue — not a relationship issue. #SafeAndTogether
On #HumanRightsDay, we’re reminding systems that domestic abuse is a human rights issue — not a relationship issue. #SafeAndTogether
A woman calls for help after being strangled. He shows a scratch; she leaves in handcuffs. How do we fix systems that mirror the control survivors are escaping?
Lisa Young Larance joins David & Ruth to discuss her new book “Broken” and what pattern-based practice looks like.
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Lisa Young Larance joins David & Ruth to discuss her new book “Broken” and what pattern-based practice looks like.
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December 8, 2025 at 5:35 PM
A woman calls for help after being strangled. He shows a scratch; she leaves in handcuffs. How do we fix systems that mirror the control survivors are escaping?
Lisa Young Larance joins David & Ruth to discuss her new book “Broken” and what pattern-based practice looks like.
🎧 tinyurl.com/ynvwwedp
Lisa Young Larance joins David & Ruth to discuss her new book “Broken” and what pattern-based practice looks like.
🎧 tinyurl.com/ynvwwedp
In rural communities, proximity can create blind spots. Long drives, limited cell service, and "everyone knows everyone" become tools of control—not just geography. Effective practice requires systematic perpetrator pattern documentation.
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#SafeAndTogether #ChildWelfare
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#SafeAndTogether #ChildWelfare
Close Enough to Miss It: Understanding Proximity and Power in Rural Responses to Domestic Abuse — Safe & Together Institute
By Leah Vejzovic, LMSW, North America Regional Manager, Safe & Together Institute When people picture rural life, they often imagine safety—open spaces, familiar neighbors, and a slow...
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December 6, 2025 at 7:49 PM
In rural communities, proximity can create blind spots. Long drives, limited cell service, and "everyone knows everyone" become tools of control—not just geography. Effective practice requires systematic perpetrator pattern documentation.
tinyurl.com/56ujrc7r
#SafeAndTogether #ChildWelfare
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#SafeAndTogether #ChildWelfare
True child safety starts with listening to survivors. 💜
When professionals partner with survivors—instead of pushing them away—families stay safer and systems get stronger.
Build your skills in partnering with survivors: tinyurl.com/yz2wfwu7
#SafeAndTogether #SurvivorVoices
When professionals partner with survivors—instead of pushing them away—families stay safer and systems get stronger.
Build your skills in partnering with survivors: tinyurl.com/yz2wfwu7
#SafeAndTogether #SurvivorVoices
December 4, 2025 at 5:15 PM
True child safety starts with listening to survivors. 💜
When professionals partner with survivors—instead of pushing them away—families stay safer and systems get stronger.
Build your skills in partnering with survivors: tinyurl.com/yz2wfwu7
#SafeAndTogether #SurvivorVoices
When professionals partner with survivors—instead of pushing them away—families stay safer and systems get stronger.
Build your skills in partnering with survivors: tinyurl.com/yz2wfwu7
#SafeAndTogether #SurvivorVoices
🌺 It takes a village to strengthen families.
Join Dr. Inez Fainga'a-Manu Sione & Shane Senituli at the 2026 #SafeAndTogether Asia Pacific Conference. #TwoWaysStrong #Pasifika
Learn more & register: tinyurl.com/bdhvpj7h
Join Dr. Inez Fainga'a-Manu Sione & Shane Senituli at the 2026 #SafeAndTogether Asia Pacific Conference. #TwoWaysStrong #Pasifika
Learn more & register: tinyurl.com/bdhvpj7h
December 3, 2025 at 10:28 PM
🌺 It takes a village to strengthen families.
Join Dr. Inez Fainga'a-Manu Sione & Shane Senituli at the 2026 #SafeAndTogether Asia Pacific Conference. #TwoWaysStrong #Pasifika
Learn more & register: tinyurl.com/bdhvpj7h
Join Dr. Inez Fainga'a-Manu Sione & Shane Senituli at the 2026 #SafeAndTogether Asia Pacific Conference. #TwoWaysStrong #Pasifika
Learn more & register: tinyurl.com/bdhvpj7h
Kids pay the price when we blame mothers & ignore fathers’ violence. Safe & Together shifts focus to perpetrator patterns, not survivor “failures.” safeandtogetherinstitute.com/blog/rethinking-childrens-best-interests
November 29, 2025 at 1:50 PM
Kids pay the price when we blame mothers & ignore fathers’ violence. Safe & Together shifts focus to perpetrator patterns, not survivor “failures.” safeandtogetherinstitute.com/blog/rethinking-childrens-best-interests
NRC interviews David Mandel on why systems must center perpetrators’ behavior—not mothers’ responses—to keep children safe. A powerful read for practitioners.
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NRC: His approach to domestic violence is used in more than ten countries: ‘Don’t hold mothers responsible for the father’s actions.’ — Safe & Together Institute
By Christel Don (Translated from Dutch) It began 35 years ago with a remarkable discovery. David Mandel was working as a therapist with men who abused their partners. Every session was about the vi...
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November 29, 2025 at 12:08 AM
NRC interviews David Mandel on why systems must center perpetrators’ behavior—not mothers’ responses—to keep children safe. A powerful read for practitioners.
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🔗 tinyurl.com/2cehnejz
Early bird ends 10 Dec!
Join the 2026 European Coercive Control & Children Conference online 10–11 Feb to strengthen child-centered, domestic abuse–informed systems. safeandtogetherinstitute.com/events/2026-...
Join the 2026 European Coercive Control & Children Conference online 10–11 Feb to strengthen child-centered, domestic abuse–informed systems. safeandtogetherinstitute.com/events/2026-...
2026 European Coercive Control & Children Conference — Safe & Together Institute
Our 2026 European Coercive Control & Children Conference is officially scheduled for 10–11 February 2026 and will be delivered virtually via Zoom Events!
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November 27, 2025 at 12:43 AM
Early bird ends 10 Dec!
Join the 2026 European Coercive Control & Children Conference online 10–11 Feb to strengthen child-centered, domestic abuse–informed systems. safeandtogetherinstitute.com/events/2026-...
Join the 2026 European Coercive Control & Children Conference online 10–11 Feb to strengthen child-centered, domestic abuse–informed systems. safeandtogetherinstitute.com/events/2026-...
💜 On #EndViolenceAgainstWomen Day, remember: violence often hides as coercive control. Our toolkit helps professionals expose patterns, support survivors & hold perpetrators accountable. safeandtogetherinstitute.com/UCC
November 26, 2025 at 12:25 AM
💜 On #EndViolenceAgainstWomen Day, remember: violence often hides as coercive control. Our toolkit helps professionals expose patterns, support survivors & hold perpetrators accountable. safeandtogetherinstitute.com/UCC
Effective DV practice requires holding two truths: most perpetrators are men & most survivors are women/children (the pattern) AND each case needs behavioral assessment regardless of gender (the practice). This is the gender paradox. tinyurl.com/yprkywwa
Why We Need to Talk About Gender in Domestic Violence — Safe & Together Institute
By Jackie Wruck, Asia Pacific Regional Manager, Safe & Together Institute When we talk about domestic and family violence, we need to be honest about a difficult truth: Most perpetrators ...
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November 24, 2025 at 9:24 PM
Effective DV practice requires holding two truths: most perpetrators are men & most survivors are women/children (the pattern) AND each case needs behavioral assessment regardless of gender (the practice). This is the gender paradox. tinyurl.com/yprkywwa
Australia’s family courts show what’s possible with court-wide perpetrator pattern frameworks and aligned child welfare agencies—a roadmap for domestic abuse–informed custody decisions. safeandtogetherinstitute.com/blog/from-australia-to-the-world
#FamilyCourt #SafeAndTogether #FamilyLaw
#FamilyCourt #SafeAndTogether #FamilyLaw
November 21, 2025 at 6:59 PM
Australia’s family courts show what’s possible with court-wide perpetrator pattern frameworks and aligned child welfare agencies—a roadmap for domestic abuse–informed custody decisions. safeandtogetherinstitute.com/blog/from-australia-to-the-world
#FamilyCourt #SafeAndTogether #FamilyLaw
#FamilyCourt #SafeAndTogether #FamilyLaw
🌍 On #WorldChildrensDay we’re reminded: child rights are human rights. Hold perpetrators accountable. Partner with survivors. Keep kids safe and together.
November 20, 2025 at 5:15 PM
🌍 On #WorldChildrensDay we’re reminded: child rights are human rights. Hold perpetrators accountable. Partner with survivors. Keep kids safe and together.
Keep kids safe without blaming mothers. Hold perpetrators accountable as parents.
The Safe & Together™ Core Training transforms how systems see and act. 🌍 safeandtogetherinstitute.com/core-training
The Safe & Together™ Core Training transforms how systems see and act. 🌍 safeandtogetherinstitute.com/core-training
November 19, 2025 at 1:26 PM
Keep kids safe without blaming mothers. Hold perpetrators accountable as parents.
The Safe & Together™ Core Training transforms how systems see and act. 🌍 safeandtogetherinstitute.com/core-training
The Safe & Together™ Core Training transforms how systems see and act. 🌍 safeandtogetherinstitute.com/core-training
Men’s programs work when survivors feel safer, not just when men finish sessions.
See how Safe & Together reframes accountability: safeandtogetherinstitute.com/blog/can-mens-behaviour-change-programs
#SurvivorAdvocacy #SafeAndTogether #Accountability #MensBehaviourChange #DomesticAbuseInformed
See how Safe & Together reframes accountability: safeandtogetherinstitute.com/blog/can-mens-behaviour-change-programs
#SurvivorAdvocacy #SafeAndTogether #Accountability #MensBehaviourChange #DomesticAbuseInformed
November 16, 2025 at 12:07 AM
Men’s programs work when survivors feel safer, not just when men finish sessions.
See how Safe & Together reframes accountability: safeandtogetherinstitute.com/blog/can-mens-behaviour-change-programs
#SurvivorAdvocacy #SafeAndTogether #Accountability #MensBehaviourChange #DomesticAbuseInformed
See how Safe & Together reframes accountability: safeandtogetherinstitute.com/blog/can-mens-behaviour-change-programs
#SurvivorAdvocacy #SafeAndTogether #Accountability #MensBehaviourChange #DomesticAbuseInformed
#NationalSurvivorsDayAustralia reminds us: safety grows when systems partner with survivors.
Learn to document strengths & map patterns 👉 academy.safeandtogetherinstitute.com/course/partnering
Learn to document strengths & map patterns 👉 academy.safeandtogetherinstitute.com/course/partnering
November 12, 2025 at 2:44 PM
#NationalSurvivorsDayAustralia reminds us: safety grows when systems partner with survivors.
Learn to document strengths & map patterns 👉 academy.safeandtogetherinstitute.com/course/partnering
Learn to document strengths & map patterns 👉 academy.safeandtogetherinstitute.com/course/partnering
Perpetrators cause, worsen, and weaponize survivors’ struggles. The Safe & Together framework helps us see what’s really driving risk. Listen: safeandtogetherinstitute.com/podcast/seas...
#MentalHealth #SubstanceUse #SafeAndTogether #DomesticAbuseInformed #ProfessionalDevelopment
#MentalHealth #SubstanceUse #SafeAndTogether #DomesticAbuseInformed #ProfessionalDevelopment
Season 3 Episode 12: Weaponize & Fabricate: How Domestic Violence Perpetrators’ Behaviors Intersect with Survivors’ Mental Health and Substance Misuse Issues — Safe & Together Institute
About This Episode Toxic Trio. Triple Play. Trifecta. All over the globe, professionals working with families have shorthand jargon that reflects the prevalence of the complex mixture of issues that...
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November 10, 2025 at 5:19 PM
Perpetrators cause, worsen, and weaponize survivors’ struggles. The Safe & Together framework helps us see what’s really driving risk. Listen: safeandtogetherinstitute.com/podcast/seas...
#MentalHealth #SubstanceUse #SafeAndTogether #DomesticAbuseInformed #ProfessionalDevelopment
#MentalHealth #SubstanceUse #SafeAndTogether #DomesticAbuseInformed #ProfessionalDevelopment
When courts see perpetrator patterns and their impact on children, decisions get safer. Safe & Together unites child welfare, DV, and family law in that shift.
November 5, 2025 at 3:20 PM
When courts see perpetrator patterns and their impact on children, decisions get safer. Safe & Together unites child welfare, DV, and family law in that shift.
Major shift in UK family law: repealing the presumption of parental involvement means perpetrators must now demonstrate safety—not survivors prove risk. Finally centering children's safety over parental rights.
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November 4, 2025 at 11:32 PM
Major shift in UK family law: repealing the presumption of parental involvement means perpetrators must now demonstrate safety—not survivors prove risk. Finally centering children's safety over parental rights.
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Children stay safer when systems focus on the source of harm—not mothers.
Learn how the Safe & Together Model drives change: academy.safeandtogetherinstitute.com/course/intro
Learn how the Safe & Together Model drives change: academy.safeandtogetherinstitute.com/course/intro
November 3, 2025 at 8:25 PM
Children stay safer when systems focus on the source of harm—not mothers.
Learn how the Safe & Together Model drives change: academy.safeandtogetherinstitute.com/course/intro
Learn how the Safe & Together Model drives change: academy.safeandtogetherinstitute.com/course/intro
“She Is Not Your Rehab” reminds us that healing begins with accountability, not blame.
Join Matt & Sarah Brown at the 2026 Asia Pacific Coercive Control & Children Conference. safeandtogetherinstitute.com/events/2026-...
Join Matt & Sarah Brown at the 2026 Asia Pacific Coercive Control & Children Conference. safeandtogetherinstitute.com/events/2026-...
October 31, 2025 at 12:27 PM
“She Is Not Your Rehab” reminds us that healing begins with accountability, not blame.
Join Matt & Sarah Brown at the 2026 Asia Pacific Coercive Control & Children Conference. safeandtogetherinstitute.com/events/2026-...
Join Matt & Sarah Brown at the 2026 Asia Pacific Coercive Control & Children Conference. safeandtogetherinstitute.com/events/2026-...
Perpetrators can exploit survivors’ mental health or substance use to maintain control.
Hear David & Ruth share practical strategies for practitioners to protect survivors in this podcast episode: tinyurl.com/yve4mwpx
#SafeAndTogether #ChildProtection
Hear David & Ruth share practical strategies for practitioners to protect survivors in this podcast episode: tinyurl.com/yve4mwpx
#SafeAndTogether #ChildProtection
Season 3 Episode 2: Perpetrators’ Weaponization of Mental Health and Addiction Against Survivors — Safe & Together Institute
About This Episode Have you ever seen survivors’ mental health or substance use issues turned against them by a domestic violence perpetrator? Have you been concerned about a domestic violence surviv...
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October 30, 2025 at 5:53 PM
Perpetrators can exploit survivors’ mental health or substance use to maintain control.
Hear David & Ruth share practical strategies for practitioners to protect survivors in this podcast episode: tinyurl.com/yve4mwpx
#SafeAndTogether #ChildProtection
Hear David & Ruth share practical strategies for practitioners to protect survivors in this podcast episode: tinyurl.com/yve4mwpx
#SafeAndTogether #ChildProtection