Sara Hays, LCSW
sarahayslcsw.bsky.social
Sara Hays, LCSW
@sarahayslcsw.bsky.social
Southern-fried cheese curd. Psychotherapist. Anthophile. Humanist. Melophile. Decoding cult dynamics and dismantling the hold of coercive systems, big and small.
I work out of an apartment building. The person upstairs is always listening to music pretty loud in the late mornings and late afternoon. I’m going upstairs to Shazam outside of the door and will be presenting a series. Today’s edition: Shake Me In Your Arms by Taj Mahal
December 12, 2024 at 6:04 PM
Parents of adult children, repeat this phrase: I did the best I could, but the best I could wasn’t good enough for you and I wish I could have done better. So much healing could come from that simple statement.
December 5, 2024 at 5:58 AM
It was today that I learned the Washington Times is owned by the cult, Unification Church.
November 30, 2024 at 1:56 AM
Rest in peace, Will Cullen Hart. The Olivia Tremor Control changed the trajectory of my life.
November 30, 2024 at 1:12 AM
When I was a teen, my daddy would listen to Iris Dement records, sometimes laying down to take a nap listening intently with his eyes closed as he drifted off. This song always got me. youtu.be/VbuFxMh8HEU?...
My life - Iris Dement - live 1994
YouTube video by Van's Old Skool Music
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November 29, 2024 at 6:55 AM
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November 28, 2024 at 5:58 PM
Took a brief stop on the Honorary Steve Albini Way on my way back to Milwaukee tonight to snap this photo. Sign unveiling ceremony was this afternoon while I was on my commute in. Nice to wave from the car.
November 26, 2024 at 5:26 AM
That’s a wrap—10 years at 3047 N Lincoln Ave and 9 years in this office. Space holds a lot of meaning for people, often referred to as “the holding environment.” It was nice to share some transitional object mementos from this space. The work will continue in Bowmanville.
November 26, 2024 at 5:16 AM
My homies @ Promises in MKE, WI axissova.bandcamp.com/album/blinde...
November 24, 2024 at 5:11 AM
Musicians face intense attacks on their psyche—the ups and downs from seeking external validation and an over identification with a career that inherently lacks security. The haunting fear of an "expiration date" causes existential crises that are hard to resolve. Love your creative souls deeply.
November 22, 2024 at 10:42 PM
Waiting patiently for this to come out on my birthday. edithfrost.bandcamp.com/album/in-space
In Space, by Edith Frost
12 track album
edithfrost.bandcamp.com
November 22, 2024 at 10:18 PM
When I'm working with people who are engaged in the cesspool that is modern American dating, my motto for everyone to take to heart is this: The #1 rule for someone you want to be in a relationship with is that they want to be in a relationship with you. Everything else flows from there.
November 21, 2024 at 4:59 PM
Systems that were once conscious and by design might be deconstructed at the surface but become an unconscious force until they explode outward once again
November 21, 2024 at 3:01 PM
The BITE Model explains how leaders exert control through Behavior, Information, Thought, and Emotional manipulation. Steven Hassan outlines the tactics used to maintain loyalty and influence followers.
November 21, 2024 at 6:59 AM
I'm hooked on Nobody Should Believe Me by Andrea Dunlop. It's all about Munchausen by Proxy—moms pretending to be saints while secretly abusive and manipulative. It's wild, heartbreaking, and eye-opening. She is a great story teller and thorough researcher.

podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/n...
Nobody Should Believe Me
True Crime Podcast · 4 Seasons · Weekly Series
podcasts.apple.com
November 21, 2024 at 5:18 AM
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Psychodynamic #therapy equaled CBT in a new, large trial of major #depression, and brought greater remission and well-being:
Both given as 2 sessions per week over 8 weeks

#psychotherapy #psychiatry #psychoanalysis pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/39486646/
The D*Phase-study: Comparing short-term psychodynamic psychotherapy and cognitive behavioural therapy for major depressive disorder in a randomised controlled non-inferiority trial - PubMed
The findings support SPSP as a viable treatment option for MDD, expanding the available choices for patients and broadening treatment options.
pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
November 15, 2024 at 5:37 PM
The music industry profits off young artists while neglecting their mental health. Time for real change: therapist support, safeguards against exploitation, and a focus on well-being over profit. Artists deserve better. #ProtectArtists #MentalHealthinMusic
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/bein...
Music Industry Profits vs the Mental Health of Young Artists
The music industry is all glitz and glam, but behind the scenes, the industry churns through young artists without thought for their mental or emotional well-being.
www.psychologytoday.com
November 21, 2024 at 3:12 AM
Rep. Mace is pushing an anti-trans bathroom ban targeting a colleague but voted against reauthorizing the Violence Against Women Act in 2021. Blaming trans women for unsafe spaces is projection: deflecting from one's harmful actions by fabricating a nonexistent “threat.”
www.npr.org/2024/11/19/n...
A GOP lawmaker introduces a Capitol bathroom rule before her trans colleague arrives
South Carolina Rep. Nancy Mace says the resolution aims to protect women's rights. Democratic Rep.-elect Sarah McBride, the first out trans person elected to Congress, has slammed it as a distraction.
www.npr.org
November 21, 2024 at 2:59 AM