Sir Dax
@sirdax.bsky.social
Approachable Pro BDSM Dom in Lincs, UK. 51. Book your "BDSM for Beginners" in-person session now! 18+ #bdsm DMs open - bookings available SirDax.co.uk
If you've got questions about being a Pro Dom, send them here and I'll answer: ngl.link/thesirdax
August 14, 2025 at 2:47 PM
If you've got questions about being a Pro Dom, send them here and I'll answer: ngl.link/thesirdax
I'll do a blog post on this, because I get this a LOT, but the short answer is:
You don't.
By all means, have a conversation, say "I'd love it if we did (whatever), what do you think?", which it seems you've done, and you listen to her answer. If it's no, which it sounds like, then you go...🧵
You don't.
By all means, have a conversation, say "I'd love it if we did (whatever), what do you think?", which it seems you've done, and you listen to her answer. If it's no, which it sounds like, then you go...🧵
August 2, 2025 at 8:26 PM
I'll do a blog post on this, because I get this a LOT, but the short answer is:
You don't.
By all means, have a conversation, say "I'd love it if we did (whatever), what do you think?", which it seems you've done, and you listen to her answer. If it's no, which it sounds like, then you go...🧵
You don't.
By all means, have a conversation, say "I'd love it if we did (whatever), what do you think?", which it seems you've done, and you listen to her answer. If it's no, which it sounds like, then you go...🧵
Ok, one is the whole "Use your words" thing, apparently that's hot. And of course inspection, which I mentioned last time. As for things they rave about - let's just say they're aspects of my body that I don't have any control over, and leave it at that.
July 31, 2025 at 7:41 PM
Ok, one is the whole "Use your words" thing, apparently that's hot. And of course inspection, which I mentioned last time. As for things they rave about - let's just say they're aspects of my body that I don't have any control over, and leave it at that.
Two things spring to mind:
1) Inspection. This is my absolute favourite and I am VERY good at it.
2) Public play - e.g. "go to the restroom, remove your panties, and come back wearing them as a scrunchie". NEVER doing things others would notice, though.
1) Inspection. This is my absolute favourite and I am VERY good at it.
2) Public play - e.g. "go to the restroom, remove your panties, and come back wearing them as a scrunchie". NEVER doing things others would notice, though.
July 31, 2025 at 6:06 PM
Two things spring to mind:
1) Inspection. This is my absolute favourite and I am VERY good at it.
2) Public play - e.g. "go to the restroom, remove your panties, and come back wearing them as a scrunchie". NEVER doing things others would notice, though.
1) Inspection. This is my absolute favourite and I am VERY good at it.
2) Public play - e.g. "go to the restroom, remove your panties, and come back wearing them as a scrunchie". NEVER doing things others would notice, though.
It's not normal behaviour for a decent person. This is usually the sort of thing you'll get from two main types of person:
1) Someone who doesn't know it's bad behaviour, because they're new to D/s but have learnt from porn or social media. They may not mean any harm, and if they're...
1) Someone who doesn't know it's bad behaviour, because they're new to D/s but have learnt from porn or social media. They may not mean any harm, and if they're...
July 31, 2025 at 4:27 PM
It's not normal behaviour for a decent person. This is usually the sort of thing you'll get from two main types of person:
1) Someone who doesn't know it's bad behaviour, because they're new to D/s but have learnt from porn or social media. They may not mean any harm, and if they're...
1) Someone who doesn't know it's bad behaviour, because they're new to D/s but have learnt from porn or social media. They may not mean any harm, and if they're...
April 9, 2025 at 11:17 AM
Every now and then I get new product alerts from suppliers for my DevianceByDax.com adult store, and I just got this one which made me laugh:
Glow in the dark buttplugs.
That's one way to keep your gut bacteria entertained, I suppose...
#KinkThreads
Glow in the dark buttplugs.
That's one way to keep your gut bacteria entertained, I suppose...
#KinkThreads
April 4, 2025 at 10:33 AM
Every now and then I get new product alerts from suppliers for my DevianceByDax.com adult store, and I just got this one which made me laugh:
Glow in the dark buttplugs.
That's one way to keep your gut bacteria entertained, I suppose...
#KinkThreads
Glow in the dark buttplugs.
That's one way to keep your gut bacteria entertained, I suppose...
#KinkThreads
Short answer to the whole "the sub has all the power" thing: no, they don't.
For a longer explanation, read here: www.threads.net/@thesirdax/p...
#kinkthreads
For a longer explanation, read here: www.threads.net/@thesirdax/p...
#kinkthreads
April 1, 2025 at 7:58 PM
Short answer to the whole "the sub has all the power" thing: no, they don't.
For a longer explanation, read here: www.threads.net/@thesirdax/p...
#kinkthreads
For a longer explanation, read here: www.threads.net/@thesirdax/p...
#kinkthreads
Following on from an NGL question, here's my thoughts and advice on Mentors:
buff.ly/1T6sXVJ
#kinkthreads
Short version if you don't want to read:
1) They're not essential, pretty much everything you need to know is available online anyway.
🧵 1/3
buff.ly/1T6sXVJ
#kinkthreads
Short version if you don't want to read:
1) They're not essential, pretty much everything you need to know is available online anyway.
🧵 1/3
March 7, 2025 at 5:49 PM
Following on from an NGL question, here's my thoughts and advice on Mentors:
buff.ly/1T6sXVJ
#kinkthreads
Short version if you don't want to read:
1) They're not essential, pretty much everything you need to know is available online anyway.
🧵 1/3
buff.ly/1T6sXVJ
#kinkthreads
Short version if you don't want to read:
1) They're not essential, pretty much everything you need to know is available online anyway.
🧵 1/3
Hit the pips to read my guide on vetting: buff.ly/hgHi9Gg
March 6, 2025 at 8:09 PM
Hit the pips to read my guide on vetting: buff.ly/hgHi9Gg
If you've seen people mentioning "the BDSM community" and wondered what it is, how to join (or wondered if you even have to join it) and how to find it, then I've got you covered: buff.ly/AiAxYhm
#kinkthreads
#kinkthreads
March 3, 2025 at 9:21 PM
If you've seen people mentioning "the BDSM community" and wondered what it is, how to join (or wondered if you even have to join it) and how to find it, then I've got you covered: buff.ly/AiAxYhm
#kinkthreads
#kinkthreads
Wow, budget cuts must be hitting the Police hard, if this is where they're getting their handcuffs from now...
March 3, 2025 at 12:40 PM
Wow, budget cuts must be hitting the Police hard, if this is where they're getting their handcuffs from now...
DMs like this are amazing and validating - if you've ever found someone's posts or comments helpful, drop them a quick message to say so, and you'll make their day!
March 3, 2025 at 11:46 AM
DMs like this are amazing and validating - if you've ever found someone's posts or comments helpful, drop them a quick message to say so, and you'll make their day!
I didn't think I'd have to say this:
Please don't send me the roleplay/fantasy posts. I know that's what most people use NGL for, I'm just using it because it seems to be the easiest anonymous option now CuriousCat is gone.
Please don't send me the roleplay/fantasy posts. I know that's what most people use NGL for, I'm just using it because it seems to be the easiest anonymous option now CuriousCat is gone.
February 21, 2025 at 9:14 PM
I didn't think I'd have to say this:
Please don't send me the roleplay/fantasy posts. I know that's what most people use NGL for, I'm just using it because it seems to be the easiest anonymous option now CuriousCat is gone.
Please don't send me the roleplay/fantasy posts. I know that's what most people use NGL for, I'm just using it because it seems to be the easiest anonymous option now CuriousCat is gone.
Got questions? Ask 'em here: https://buff.ly/3Ei4hvq
(Beginner's Guide mentioned in 2nd image: https://buff.ly/3CXCEHX)
(Beginner's Guide mentioned in 2nd image: https://buff.ly/3CXCEHX)
February 21, 2025 at 6:36 PM
Got questions? Ask 'em here: https://buff.ly/3Ei4hvq
(Beginner's Guide mentioned in 2nd image: https://buff.ly/3CXCEHX)
(Beginner's Guide mentioned in 2nd image: https://buff.ly/3CXCEHX)
Got questions for me? Hit the pips at https://buff.ly/3Ei4hvq
February 19, 2025 at 10:58 AM
Got questions for me? Hit the pips at https://buff.ly/3Ei4hvq
If you've ever wondered what it's like being a sub/client of mine, then you're in luck! New interview with @katjedax coming soon. Warning: may contain giggling.
February 12, 2025 at 10:51 AM
If you've ever wondered what it's like being a sub/client of mine, then you're in luck! New interview with @katjedax coming soon. Warning: may contain giggling.
Send me your own questions here: https://buff.ly/3Ei4hvq
January 31, 2025 at 7:10 PM
Send me your own questions here: https://buff.ly/3Ei4hvq
Funnily enough, I'm writing a post about scams like this right now!
January 24, 2025 at 5:28 PM
Funnily enough, I'm writing a post about scams like this right now!