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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 1d

Apparently overt xenophobia is dress code compliant at my local Target. The family in line right behind me? Was not English-speaking. 😡

Yes, I said something.
Yes, this timeline sucks.

An anonymized photo of a Target cashier wearing a t-shirt that says “speak English” on it.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 11d

Three! I shared it with @jwgoerlich.bsky.social too.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 11d

Proving my point:

He had a typo in the first draft of this post when he showed it to me. 👩‍🎓

J Wolfgang Goerlich @jwgoerlich.bsky.social · 11d

“You could argue with me. But if you did? You’d be wrong.”

A lesson in confidence, by @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 12d

Posts like this are why you’re one of my fav social friends.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 16d

Talking about today’s Rapture news and I find out that @jwgoerlich.bsky.social unironically watched the Left Behind movies in the early aughts w/ *no* religious context at all… and kept waiting for the aliens to arrive & explain where all the people went.

My “preacher’s grandkid” mind is reeling.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 16d

The hyperbaric chamber death that happened here in MI is literal nightmare fuel.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 16d

Hey, question:

Who do I know that knows people at HushMail? Ideally someone with decision making authority on the legal/compliance side of things.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Sep 5

I made 350 “cybersecurity starter packs” to give out at the ATSA national conference this month. Each one has a sticker, a usb condom, a camera cover, and a card with 10 easy security habits. I’ll also be presenting on Tuesday the 16th- stop by and say hello!

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Aug 13

Yep- that’s exactly what I’ve been screaming about.

<sigh>

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Aug 1

Looking for an expert in the philosophy of robots to interview for an episode of Securing Sexuality. Is that you? Or someone you know? Reach out!
#robots #philosophy #digitalethics #cybersecurity #hackers

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misandrist fujoshi @likeadeuce.bsky.social · Jul 29

LeGuin wrote about the desire for 'unassailable safety' as one of the deep roots of evil, and I think about that a lot.

Erika Hall @erikahall.bsky.social · Jul 29

We need to teach people the difference between being uncomfortable and being unsafe. Because the discomfort of the safest people is endangering the most vulnerable, all day every day.

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Chris Bissette 🐻🌈 @loottheroom.bsky.social · Jul 24

There's a direct line from "no kink at Pride" and "no sex in movies and books unless it Serves The Plot" to payment processors feeling completely empowered to censor art globally

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Jul 20

Radish
Harvey

(These are the only two that feel right for you in my mind)

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Jul 18

Very niche question:

Who in the #infosec community 1) plays #mahjongg and 2) is gonna be at #Blackhat? I’d love to set up some cocktail bar pickup games while we’re in town.

a group of people are playing a game of mahjong with dice .

Alt: a group of people are playing a game of mahjong with dice .

media.tenor.com

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Jul 9

Oh it’s happening!! And you can preorder it here:

www.routledge.com/Securing-Sex...

Two humanoid androids embrace against a soft background of binary on the cover of a book titled Securing Sexuality: Emerging Issues at the Intersection of Intimacy and Technology.

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J Wolfgang Goerlich @jwgoerlich.bsky.social · Jul 7

Securing Sexuality: the book. Tech drives how we meet, date, marry, raise kids. Attacks on it undermines our agency and privacy. This book, written with @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social, helps therapist, coaches, activists think like punk, act like a hacker, and take back control over our private lives.

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J Wolfgang Goerlich @jwgoerlich.bsky.social · May 10

Stefani Goerlich giving the closing keynote at #BSidesDetroit. “We’re confusing information sharing with intimacy and surveillance with love.”

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Mar 1

So incredibly honored and humbled by the kind words about my work. 🩷

Stefani in a pink sweater standing next to a graffitied wall. There is a quote that reads “Goerlich has emerged as an important voice in the field of sex therapy…a guide to help vanilla people and their kinky partners look across the divide with curiosity and empathy, to understand and affirm their own erotic selves, and to create bridges toward a mutually satisfying sex life.” By Caroline Maykut from the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy.

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PuckFutin @puckfutin.fellas.army · Jan 26

🤌

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Jan 25

Ew.

We stopped to get a drink & use the bathrooms and now I feel like I’m going to die of dysentery

a pixel art of a horse pulling a wagon

Alt: a pixel art of a horse pulling a wagon

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Jan 25

Despite what my certificate from today says, I am *not* a cybersecurity expert. So you don’t HAVE to listen to me. But, c’mon guys… please don’t give your biometric data to effing Steak ‘n Shake. 🤦🏻‍♀️

A counter sign at Steak n Shake guiding people through the process of linking their face to their bank account to pay for hamburgers.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Jan 17

I have both a pull-quote and the last word in this new article from EuroNews! Happy birthday to me!

www.euronews.com/culture/2025...

Kink and consent: The new era of sex on screen

At a time when sex-on-screen is dwindling, Halina Reijn’s erotic drama has revived audiences' desire for eroticism and kink-positive cinema.

www.euronews.com

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Jan 15

One of the most important takeaways when I lecture (for attorneys or clinicians) on kink-affirming risk assessment: Consent is not a defense is many jurisdictions. BUT! The American Law Institute has proposed an “Explicit Prior Permission” change to the model penal code that would address that.

Guest Blog: THE “ROUGH SEX” DEFENSE: NEW DEVELOPMENTS FOR CONSENT AND THE LAW

by Susan Wright, also posted on the KPACT Blog Content warning: this piece includes the mention of violence, sexual assault, and police misconduct. Until

ncsfreedom.org

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Etrigan wishes Link were back @etrigan.bsky.social · Jan 13

Someone once casually dropped “Abusers groom allies too” into a conversation and my entire worldview shifted in that instant.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Jan 10

You remind me of the sign that sits on my desk.

Small framed sign that says “I didn’t realize I was supposed to know how to do everything by my second rodeo. Seems like a very low amount of rodeos”

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