me too. I’m so glad her owners invited me. I’m just the pet sitter when they’re out of town, but they know I adore her with all my heart and I really felt like they needed someone to grieve with them tonight. I’m so insanely honored to be trusted with that.

thank you. I really appreciate that my friend. she couldn’t have been more loved in this lifetime, and that brings me peace.

you’re welcome! I’m glad they helped 🫶🏼

I love her so fucking much and it breaks my heart to think it’s the last time I’m going to see her. but she’s going slowly, and I’m so grateful that I at least have the chance to. it could have been a much different experience.

in times of trouble I turn to comfort media, and self-raising myself with atla means I always repeat the two best (imo) uncle iroh quotes.

sadly I do, but we cannot give up. one day things will be better for both of us friend. idk what it is about this year but it’s reopening massive wounds for me. I’m sure it is for you too

you sound like a really loving and considerate partner and I think it’ll be a good thing that you did that

hear hear!!!!

i feel this so hard. I look up stuff all the time trying to find some hidden key to it all but then the things people are healing from are like, a breakup or losing their job and I’m not even in that plane of existence. I fear the guide book from how to deal with my life has never been written

it sounds like your talk today was at least productive in trying to recenter on the issue at hand and find a compromise, which is good stuff. I’m wishing you well moon, and please message me if you wanna talk it out further :)

bring you together if done well. if you work on externalizing your disorder and thinking of it as the two of you against it (which will be more work on his end tbh cause he seems to think you’re not making enough effort to recover) then it will likely get easier to handle as a couple

it also doesn’t have to invalidate the other stuff he said. If it’s bothering you, I would just gently mention later that you’re not in a bipolar episode, this is just really hard to navigate and give him a chance to hug and support you. I think you’re both feeling that way rn and it could -

I think it is possible he brought that up as a genuine concern and without any malicious intention, but either way, I think what is more likely is that this is an incredibly polarizing issue between the two of you and you both have strong feelings. that doesn’t mean you’re in a flare by default

it just sucks because when I say this has happened with at least 4-6 totally separate friends of mine,,,,,, and like I said ik they love me and they’re just wrapped up in the obsession phase of a new relationship but I always feel like I’m being left behind anyway.

but I don’t let myself ask for that company and companionship bc every time this happens I get insanely depressed, and it feels like I’m being rude by bursting the honeymoon bubble and not letting them enjoy being happy and just dragging down the mood.

I know they love me, and I know they care and would help me through. but the only reasonable thing I could say is “I feel like you’re moving on without me” and that’s ridiculous bc they AREN’T, it just feels like I’m being replaced. ik if I said I needed them, they’d be right there for me

ik doing it on purpose, it’s just the honeymoon bliss phase, but it feels really lonely. none of my friends are bad people and they wouldn’t intentionally use me like that, but it just feels so sad to be someone’s reason they’re getting through something hard and then they vanish.