It's tempting. Having a dating but not yet committed couple in the group introduces risk that the relationship blows up and it blows up the whole group. But you're not gonna get there if you don't have a nurturing space for the relationship to grow in community.

If you have stable long term friend groups, they're probably resistant to changing the group vibe by including new people. If you have a group that's been meeting for a decade, sometimes they might develop an "after marriage" kind of policy, to keep the group stable.

If you want partnership, you gotta have space for it. Your friends, family, chosen family, and community, all need to support it. They need to meet and vet and be willing to love someone you love.

Also, same in the other direction for everyone else. Their lives are full.

Not every relationship is worth saving, of course, and breakups don't imply failure. But for the relationships that are worth saving, being able to untangle from the unhealthy dynamics that start to creep in while staying connected is an essential relationship skill.

Hm. Hmmm. Yeah maybe. Otoh, if you're able to do it alone, what would have happened if you'd taken just enough space to turn over that new leaf before the breakup? I think it has to involve a boundary problem, if you can do it alone but couldn't with them.

Which, yeah, might not be the reason it didn't work out, it might be another symptom of it being bad for one or both of you.

Many such cases

And who is covering LGBT and especially trans human rights? I searched this page for trans and it was like every federal site. Completely erased.

Does autocracy require pacifying people? Seems like he's trying to create as many crises as possible. I figured he was just gonna try to put all the unemployed people in camps with everybody else.

Golf? Tennis? How much does he think people who wfh are generally making? Dude has no concept of what people who are not country club members do for fun

I'm sorry that it's the right time! I hope the book is the warm hug you need right now. 💜

Incredible book, which I have read more times than anyone should need to 😅

If you're using Bsky data though, affectionately, this platform is still kinda for nerds. 🥰 Also the halftime show of THIS game made some major political statements that will probably make history. And it sounds like the game itself was very one-sided, so there might be less to say about that too.