Andy
@the-haven.co
Exploring the intersection of high sensitivity, creativity, and the cultures around us
- https://the-haven.co (my personal/music profile: bsky.app/profile/andymort.com)
- https://the-haven.co (my personal/music profile: bsky.app/profile/andymort.com)
Some people are more responsive to their surroundings—whether positive or negative. How does differential susceptibility impact sensitive people?
https://the-haven.co/differential-susceptibility-and-high-sensitivity/
https://the-haven.co/differential-susceptibility-and-high-sensitivity/
January 1, 2026 at 10:37 AM
Some people are more responsive to their surroundings—whether positive or negative. How does differential susceptibility impact sensitive people?
https://the-haven.co/differential-susceptibility-and-high-sensitivity/
https://the-haven.co/differential-susceptibility-and-high-sensitivity/
They wrote, "The only difference between a good day and a bad day is your attitude.”
https://the-haven.co/toxic-positivity/
https://the-haven.co/toxic-positivity/
December 31, 2025 at 6:46 PM
They wrote, "The only difference between a good day and a bad day is your attitude.”
https://the-haven.co/toxic-positivity/
https://the-haven.co/toxic-positivity/
Think and Grow Rich is still one of the most enduring and influential self-help books of all time. But why?
https://the-haven.co/think-and-grow-rich-self-help-history/
https://the-haven.co/think-and-grow-rich-self-help-history/
December 30, 2025 at 3:38 PM
Think and Grow Rich is still one of the most enduring and influential self-help books of all time. But why?
https://the-haven.co/think-and-grow-rich-self-help-history/
https://the-haven.co/think-and-grow-rich-self-help-history/
"People will take advantage of that, and they won't pay anything." This assessment may reveal more about THEM and THEIR cynical view of human nature because, in my experience, it's simply not true.
https://the-haven.co/three-years-of-choose-your-own-price/
https://the-haven.co/three-years-of-choose-your-own-price/
December 29, 2025 at 2:54 PM
"People will take advantage of that, and they won't pay anything." This assessment may reveal more about THEM and THEIR cynical view of human nature because, in my experience, it's simply not true.
https://the-haven.co/three-years-of-choose-your-own-price/
https://the-haven.co/three-years-of-choose-your-own-price/
Do you know why men really go bald? Napoleon reveals all...
https://the-haven.co/think-and-grow-rich-self-help-history/
https://the-haven.co/think-and-grow-rich-self-help-history/
December 28, 2025 at 5:40 PM
Do you know why men really go bald? Napoleon reveals all...
https://the-haven.co/think-and-grow-rich-self-help-history/
https://the-haven.co/think-and-grow-rich-self-help-history/
Self-help reinforces the drive of "constant and never-ending improvement." It portrays the self as permanently incomplete, always seeking the next insight, tool, or mentor, and sees the individual as both the cause and the remed...
https://the-haven.co/the-culture-of-narcissism-and-modern-self-help/
https://the-haven.co/the-culture-of-narcissism-and-modern-self-help/
December 27, 2025 at 1:58 PM
Self-help reinforces the drive of "constant and never-ending improvement." It portrays the self as permanently incomplete, always seeking the next insight, tool, or mentor, and sees the individual as both the cause and the remed...
https://the-haven.co/the-culture-of-narcissism-and-modern-self-help/
https://the-haven.co/the-culture-of-narcissism-and-modern-self-help/
There is a difference between disclosure and trust. Jumping into “fun facts” can leave us feeling exposed rather than connected. This may linger in the nervous system through regret and shame.
https://the-haven.co/icebreakers-and-social-sensitivity/
https://the-haven.co/icebreakers-and-social-sensitivity/
December 26, 2025 at 5:26 PM
There is a difference between disclosure and trust. Jumping into “fun facts” can leave us feeling exposed rather than connected. This may linger in the nervous system through regret and shame.
https://the-haven.co/icebreakers-and-social-sensitivity/
https://the-haven.co/icebreakers-and-social-sensitivity/
Anticipatory dread isn’t inherently "bad". There are many undesirable things we need to do as part of life. But noticing it can be powerful because we don’t need to stay stuck there when it sabotages our relationship with every commitment and event.
https://the-haven.co/two-sides-of-anticipation/
https://the-haven.co/two-sides-of-anticipation/
December 25, 2025 at 3:15 PM
Anticipatory dread isn’t inherently "bad". There are many undesirable things we need to do as part of life. But noticing it can be powerful because we don’t need to stay stuck there when it sabotages our relationship with every commitment and event.
https://the-haven.co/two-sides-of-anticipation/
https://the-haven.co/two-sides-of-anticipation/
I’ve long had a visceral reaction to seeing people priced out of support.
https://the-haven.co/three-years-of-choose-your-own-price/
https://the-haven.co/three-years-of-choose-your-own-price/
December 24, 2025 at 10:20 AM
I’ve long had a visceral reaction to seeing people priced out of support.
https://the-haven.co/three-years-of-choose-your-own-price/
https://the-haven.co/three-years-of-choose-your-own-price/
Nothing in the universe grows endlessly without limits. Infinite economic growth is inherently unsustainable and defies the natural laws of balance and resource availability.
https://the-haven.co/active-hope-with-cindy-gale/
https://the-haven.co/active-hope-with-cindy-gale/
December 23, 2025 at 3:57 PM
Nothing in the universe grows endlessly without limits. Infinite economic growth is inherently unsustainable and defies the natural laws of balance and resource availability.
https://the-haven.co/active-hope-with-cindy-gale/
https://the-haven.co/active-hope-with-cindy-gale/
Many highly sensitive people need time to pause and check before jumping into social interaction. This isn’t about fear or social anxiety - it’s a natural regulation strategy that helps us process our surroundings and determine if it’s safe...
https://the-haven.co/icebreakers-and-social-sensitivity/
https://the-haven.co/icebreakers-and-social-sensitivity/
December 22, 2025 at 5:17 PM
Many highly sensitive people need time to pause and check before jumping into social interaction. This isn’t about fear or social anxiety - it’s a natural regulation strategy that helps us process our surroundings and determine if it’s safe...
https://the-haven.co/icebreakers-and-social-sensitivity/
https://the-haven.co/icebreakers-and-social-sensitivity/
I don't find “free discovery calls” an easy first coaching conversation. They feel haunted by the words “potential client”. I don’t know about you, but I can sense the elephant ghost, aka the dangling threat of the looming sales pitch, in...
https://the-haven.co/three-years-of-choose-your-own-price/
https://the-haven.co/three-years-of-choose-your-own-price/
December 21, 2025 at 9:59 PM
I don't find “free discovery calls” an easy first coaching conversation. They feel haunted by the words “potential client”. I don’t know about you, but I can sense the elephant ghost, aka the dangling threat of the looming sales pitch, in...
https://the-haven.co/three-years-of-choose-your-own-price/
https://the-haven.co/three-years-of-choose-your-own-price/
Why changing your plates is (not) the answer to all your problems
https://the-haven.co/no-missing-parts/
https://the-haven.co/no-missing-parts/
December 21, 2025 at 11:40 AM
Why changing your plates is (not) the answer to all your problems
https://the-haven.co/no-missing-parts/
https://the-haven.co/no-missing-parts/
Anyone else felt completely bombarded with price hikes from online services this year? The responses to pushback has been telling the-haven.co/cost-of-loya...
The Cost of Loyalty
Have you felt the pinch of price hikes this year? In this episode, we explore how loyalty is deliberately exploited to extract profit.
the-haven.co
December 20, 2025 at 2:17 PM
Anyone else felt completely bombarded with price hikes from online services this year? The responses to pushback has been telling the-haven.co/cost-of-loya...
We see the threat of ostracism operating on two fronts: actively (the community turns against you if you don't conform to expectations) and passively (the system limits your visibility).
https://the-haven.co/algorithmic-narcissism/
https://the-haven.co/algorithmic-narcissism/
December 20, 2025 at 8:05 AM
We see the threat of ostracism operating on two fronts: actively (the community turns against you if you don't conform to expectations) and passively (the system limits your visibility).
https://the-haven.co/algorithmic-narcissism/
https://the-haven.co/algorithmic-narcissism/
Cruel optimism is what happens when the very things we cling to for hope, success, productivity, positivity, become the sources of our suffering.
https://the-haven.co/toxic-positivity/
https://the-haven.co/toxic-positivity/
December 19, 2025 at 5:03 PM
Cruel optimism is what happens when the very things we cling to for hope, success, productivity, positivity, become the sources of our suffering.
https://the-haven.co/toxic-positivity/
https://the-haven.co/toxic-positivity/
December 18, 2025 at 5:48 PM
"You can’t build the new without breaking the old."
https://the-haven.co/07-you-cant-build-the-new-without-breaking-the-old/
https://the-haven.co/07-you-cant-build-the-new-without-breaking-the-old/
December 17, 2025 at 6:36 PM
"You can’t build the new without breaking the old."
https://the-haven.co/07-you-cant-build-the-new-without-breaking-the-old/
https://the-haven.co/07-you-cant-build-the-new-without-breaking-the-old/
What would it look like to embrace and enjoy "ordinary unhappiness"?
https://the-haven.co/the-culture-of-narcissism-and-modern-self-help/
https://the-haven.co/the-culture-of-narcissism-and-modern-self-help/
December 16, 2025 at 1:42 PM
What would it look like to embrace and enjoy "ordinary unhappiness"?
https://the-haven.co/the-culture-of-narcissism-and-modern-self-help/
https://the-haven.co/the-culture-of-narcissism-and-modern-self-help/
Lasch’s point that capitalism “elicits and reinforces narcissistic traits in everyone” plays out through algorithmic tools.
https://the-haven.co/algorithmic-narcissism/
https://the-haven.co/algorithmic-narcissism/
December 15, 2025 at 3:25 PM
Lasch’s point that capitalism “elicits and reinforces narcissistic traits in everyone” plays out through algorithmic tools.
https://the-haven.co/algorithmic-narcissism/
https://the-haven.co/algorithmic-narcissism/
Not every HSP reacts the same way. Some feel compelled to help, others want to escape the weight of unspoken tensions. Personality, personal history, and social roles all play a part.
https://the-haven.co/social-sensitivity/
https://the-haven.co/social-sensitivity/
December 14, 2025 at 3:45 PM
Not every HSP reacts the same way. Some feel compelled to help, others want to escape the weight of unspoken tensions. Personality, personal history, and social roles all play a part.
https://the-haven.co/social-sensitivity/
https://the-haven.co/social-sensitivity/
Napoleon Hill created the self-help influencer blueprint back in 1937
https://the-haven.co/think-and-grow-rich-self-help-history/
https://the-haven.co/think-and-grow-rich-self-help-history/
December 13, 2025 at 9:43 AM
Napoleon Hill created the self-help influencer blueprint back in 1937
https://the-haven.co/think-and-grow-rich-self-help-history/
https://the-haven.co/think-and-grow-rich-self-help-history/
Christopher Lasch interprets the story of Narcissus as less about self-love but self-loss. Narcissus “fails to recognise his own reflection.” He can’t perceive the difference between himself and his surroundings.
https://the-haven.co/algorithmic-narcissism/
https://the-haven.co/algorithmic-narcissism/
December 12, 2025 at 3:44 PM
Christopher Lasch interprets the story of Narcissus as less about self-love but self-loss. Narcissus “fails to recognise his own reflection.” He can’t perceive the difference between himself and his surroundings.
https://the-haven.co/algorithmic-narcissism/
https://the-haven.co/algorithmic-narcissism/
Mass consumption may seem focused on self-indulgence. However, Lasch explains how modern advertising seeks to generate self-doubt rather than self-satisfaction to drive it. It creates needs instead of satisfying them and produce...
https://the-haven.co/the-culture-of-narcissism-and-modern-self-help/
https://the-haven.co/the-culture-of-narcissism-and-modern-self-help/
December 11, 2025 at 5:30 PM
Mass consumption may seem focused on self-indulgence. However, Lasch explains how modern advertising seeks to generate self-doubt rather than self-satisfaction to drive it. It creates needs instead of satisfying them and produce...
https://the-haven.co/the-culture-of-narcissism-and-modern-self-help/
https://the-haven.co/the-culture-of-narcissism-and-modern-self-help/
Over time, we stop asking “Why do I care about this?” and instead ask “What do I get for it?”
https://the-haven.co/hooked-by-rewards/
https://the-haven.co/hooked-by-rewards/
December 10, 2025 at 3:46 PM
Over time, we stop asking “Why do I care about this?” and instead ask “What do I get for it?”
https://the-haven.co/hooked-by-rewards/
https://the-haven.co/hooked-by-rewards/