Not a loss of self, but a deepening of it. A paradoxical wholeness, where difference is not dissolved, but honored.
This is the alchemy of relationships.
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Not a loss of self, but a deepening of it. A paradoxical wholeness, where difference is not dissolved, but honored.
This is the alchemy of relationships.
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By withdrawing projections, setting firm boundaries, untangling intense emotions, we begin to see the other more clearly.
Not as a mirror of our unmet needs, but as their own distinct being.
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By withdrawing projections, setting firm boundaries, untangling intense emotions, we begin to see the other more clearly.
Not as a mirror of our unmet needs, but as their own distinct being.
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The originating condition is never pure.
Our attachments are woven with shadow and expectations, longings we place upon a partner.
Now we’re called to unravel them.
The originating condition is never pure.
Our attachments are woven with shadow and expectations, longings we place upon a partner.
Now we’re called to unravel them.
Meaningful union requires a pulling apart, a process of differentiation. Without this, we risk a monstrum, a distorted fusion of projections, unmet needs, and unconscious patterns.
Not intimacy, but confusion and enmeshment.
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Meaningful union requires a pulling apart, a process of differentiation. Without this, we risk a monstrum, a distorted fusion of projections, unmet needs, and unconscious patterns.
Not intimacy, but confusion and enmeshment.
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They begin with the desire to merge, to pour ourselves into another. Sparks fly, fires run hot, we feel as if we are lifted on high. And yet, these relationships often end in a bitter unraveling we don’t fully understand.
Why might that be?
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They begin with the desire to merge, to pour ourselves into another. Sparks fly, fires run hot, we feel as if we are lifted on high. And yet, these relationships often end in a bitter unraveling we don’t fully understand.
Why might that be?
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