Alyssa Polizzi
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Alyssa Polizzi
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Writer + Educator exploring Jungian psychology, inner work & archetypal studies | Join The Artemisian for classes + educational content -> http://theartemisian.com
Intimacy is born from slowly stripping back our projections and seeing the other for who they really are.
June 5, 2025 at 6:11 PM
Then comes coniunctio — a true joining.

Not a loss of self, but a deepening of it. A paradoxical wholeness, where difference is not dissolved, but honored.

This is the alchemy of relationships.

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May 13, 2025 at 4:25 PM
Separation brings clarity of selfhood.

By withdrawing projections, setting firm boundaries, untangling intense emotions, we begin to see the other more clearly.

Not as a mirror of our unmet needs, but as their own distinct being.

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May 13, 2025 at 4:25 PM
Rather than a sign of failure, alchemy sees these ruptures as necessary to transformation.

The originating condition is never pure.

Our attachments are woven with shadow and expectations, longings we place upon a partner.

Now we’re called to unravel them.
May 13, 2025 at 4:25 PM
The alchemists say that only separated things can be joined.

Meaningful union requires a pulling apart, a process of differentiation. Without this, we risk a monstrum, a distorted fusion of projections, unmet needs, and unconscious patterns.

Not intimacy, but confusion and enmeshment.

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May 13, 2025 at 4:25 PM
Relationships have an intrinsic alchemical nature.

They begin with the desire to merge, to pour ourselves into another. Sparks fly, fires run hot, we feel as if we are lifted on high. And yet, these relationships often end in a bitter unraveling we don’t fully understand.

Why might that be?

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May 13, 2025 at 4:25 PM
"The psychological rule says that when an inner situation is not made conscious, it happens outside, as fate." - C.G. Jung
December 12, 2024 at 2:41 PM