Thebenmenard
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Nothin’ much and you?
July 18, 2025 at 3:31 PM
Nothin’ much and you?
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Write your own narrative, y’all:)! Follow your path - break the intergenerational traumatic patterns and march to the beat of YOUR own drum:)! #peacelovehappiness #intergenerationaltrauma #cptsdrecovery #attachmenttheory
April 14, 2025 at 7:25 PM
Write your own narrative, y’all:)! Follow your path - break the intergenerational traumatic patterns and march to the beat of YOUR own drum:)! #peacelovehappiness #intergenerationaltrauma #cptsdrecovery #attachmenttheory
Perspective, y’all:)!
November 21, 2025 at 3:24 PM
Perspective, y’all:)!
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Know your status? freeHIVtest.net
The first step in eradicating AIDS is getting tested. If you are positive - there are resources / if you are negative and want to stay that way - there are resources. #endthestigma
The first step in eradicating AIDS is getting tested. If you are positive - there are resources / if you are negative and want to stay that way - there are resources. #endthestigma
June 27, 2025 at 5:24 PM
Know your status? freeHIVtest.net
The first step in eradicating AIDS is getting tested. If you are positive - there are resources / if you are negative and want to stay that way - there are resources. #endthestigma
The first step in eradicating AIDS is getting tested. If you are positive - there are resources / if you are negative and want to stay that way - there are resources. #endthestigma
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Nutrition and Movement, y’all:)!
June 29, 2025 at 3:31 PM
Nutrition and Movement, y’all:)!
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I'm years into my own trauma & addiction recovery, & recovery is the core of my professional identity-- and even I have to return to basics, every single day, to support my safety & stability. There's NOTHING negative about "back to basics." Thank GOD the basics are there for us.
November 21, 2025 at 3:58 AM
I'm years into my own trauma & addiction recovery, & recovery is the core of my professional identity-- and even I have to return to basics, every single day, to support my safety & stability. There's NOTHING negative about "back to basics." Thank GOD the basics are there for us.
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Every single trauma recovery strategy that works is a combination of self-talk, mental focus, & physical movement. Checking in w/ those three tools is where to start when trying to define the nuts & bolts of your realistic trauma recovery.
November 20, 2025 at 2:09 AM
Every single trauma recovery strategy that works is a combination of self-talk, mental focus, & physical movement. Checking in w/ those three tools is where to start when trying to define the nuts & bolts of your realistic trauma recovery.
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“…as many times as you need…”
August 8, 2025 at 4:29 PM
“…as many times as you need…”
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This is a reminder that therapists & "experts" only hold a piece of the trauma recovery puzzle-- & maybe not the most important piece for you here & now. Read & learn about philosophy & nutrition & movement & art & history & metaphysics & spirituality to fill in the gaps.
November 5, 2025 at 4:30 AM
This is a reminder that therapists & "experts" only hold a piece of the trauma recovery puzzle-- & maybe not the most important piece for you here & now. Read & learn about philosophy & nutrition & movement & art & history & metaphysics & spirituality to fill in the gaps.
I’ve always wanted to write a Christmas/Holiday song. I tried. Crickets. I tried again. Crickets. Is Halloween considered a holiday?
Miss Lady Spider
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DragonTaint
Miss Lady Spider
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DragonTaint
October 20, 2025 at 7:39 PM
I’ve always wanted to write a Christmas/Holiday song. I tried. Crickets. I tried again. Crickets. Is Halloween considered a holiday?
Miss Lady Spider
by
DragonTaint
Miss Lady Spider
by
DragonTaint
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Abuse survivors are heavily triggered by dishonest people. When you’ve sacrificed your time and security in order to figure out the truth, people who lack truth will feel like they’re pulling you back to your darkest days.
October 18, 2025 at 9:30 PM
Abuse survivors are heavily triggered by dishonest people. When you’ve sacrificed your time and security in order to figure out the truth, people who lack truth will feel like they’re pulling you back to your darkest days.
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Try to enjoy something today, big or small. Don't pressure yourself, but be open to the experience of pleasure.
Nothing pisses off our abusers & bullies like our joy-- which should tell us how important it is to our recovery.
Nothing pisses off our abusers & bullies like our joy-- which should tell us how important it is to our recovery.
October 18, 2025 at 5:23 PM
Try to enjoy something today, big or small. Don't pressure yourself, but be open to the experience of pleasure.
Nothing pisses off our abusers & bullies like our joy-- which should tell us how important it is to our recovery.
Nothing pisses off our abusers & bullies like our joy-- which should tell us how important it is to our recovery.
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Survivors of trauma, especially sexual trauma, often encounter negative social reactions. Rape myths and victim blaming-- both subtle & overt-- deepen & complicate trauma responses survivors experience from the trauma itself.
It's how trauma becomes complex trauma.
It's how trauma becomes complex trauma.
October 17, 2025 at 5:05 PM
Survivors of trauma, especially sexual trauma, often encounter negative social reactions. Rape myths and victim blaming-- both subtle & overt-- deepen & complicate trauma responses survivors experience from the trauma itself.
It's how trauma becomes complex trauma.
It's how trauma becomes complex trauma.
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Be a ruthless, pragmatic extremist when it comes to curating your social media, podcast, & video feeds so they give you resources supportive to your recovery.
Life is too short for the stupid rage bait dopamine hamster wheel the algorithm is trying to feed you.
Recovery first.
Life is too short for the stupid rage bait dopamine hamster wheel the algorithm is trying to feed you.
Recovery first.
October 10, 2025 at 1:29 PM
Be a ruthless, pragmatic extremist when it comes to curating your social media, podcast, & video feeds so they give you resources supportive to your recovery.
Life is too short for the stupid rage bait dopamine hamster wheel the algorithm is trying to feed you.
Recovery first.
Life is too short for the stupid rage bait dopamine hamster wheel the algorithm is trying to feed you.
Recovery first.
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Imagining the family & mentors we wish we'd had is a mental focus tool that got many of us through periods of abuse, neglect, & bullying-- & a tool we can intentionally leverage now in our trauma recovery.
It's not "playing make believe." It's marshaling our internal resources.
It's not "playing make believe." It's marshaling our internal resources.
October 7, 2025 at 6:34 PM
Imagining the family & mentors we wish we'd had is a mental focus tool that got many of us through periods of abuse, neglect, & bullying-- & a tool we can intentionally leverage now in our trauma recovery.
It's not "playing make believe." It's marshaling our internal resources.
It's not "playing make believe." It's marshaling our internal resources.
Are you a builder or a destroyer?
September 29, 2025 at 6:57 PM
Are you a builder or a destroyer?
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Many of us working our trauma recovery are not trying to get back to some pre-trauma state. We may not even remember a "before" time.
We're building, not rebuilding, who we are, & we need to remember: it takes patience, courage, & compassion to become someone we've never been.
We're building, not rebuilding, who we are, & we need to remember: it takes patience, courage, & compassion to become someone we've never been.
September 27, 2025 at 3:39 PM
Many of us working our trauma recovery are not trying to get back to some pre-trauma state. We may not even remember a "before" time.
We're building, not rebuilding, who we are, & we need to remember: it takes patience, courage, & compassion to become someone we've never been.
We're building, not rebuilding, who we are, & we need to remember: it takes patience, courage, & compassion to become someone we've never been.
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Belittling & neglecting ourselves comes easy when it was how we were raised-- & how those responsible for our care "taught" us to relate to ourselves.
Self-respect & self-care are gonna feel radical & awkward-- because they're unfamiliar, not because we don't "deserve" them.
Self-respect & self-care are gonna feel radical & awkward-- because they're unfamiliar, not because we don't "deserve" them.
September 24, 2025 at 8:18 PM
Belittling & neglecting ourselves comes easy when it was how we were raised-- & how those responsible for our care "taught" us to relate to ourselves.
Self-respect & self-care are gonna feel radical & awkward-- because they're unfamiliar, not because we don't "deserve" them.
Self-respect & self-care are gonna feel radical & awkward-- because they're unfamiliar, not because we don't "deserve" them.
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Whatever it is-- breathe into it. Not w/ a gasp or a gulp; w/ a smooth, even draw, in, out. Easy does it, no pressure, no rush.
Breathing won't solve all our problems-- but it's inextricably entwined w/ the specific problem of somatic dysregulaton. Frame breathwork as one tool.
Breathing won't solve all our problems-- but it's inextricably entwined w/ the specific problem of somatic dysregulaton. Frame breathwork as one tool.
September 23, 2025 at 6:17 PM
Whatever it is-- breathe into it. Not w/ a gasp or a gulp; w/ a smooth, even draw, in, out. Easy does it, no pressure, no rush.
Breathing won't solve all our problems-- but it's inextricably entwined w/ the specific problem of somatic dysregulaton. Frame breathwork as one tool.
Breathing won't solve all our problems-- but it's inextricably entwined w/ the specific problem of somatic dysregulaton. Frame breathwork as one tool.
Have y’all heard of Howard Gardner and his theory of multiple intelligences? He posits that people have different levels of intelligence. My strengths are #1 musicality and #2 linguistic. My weakness is mathematical. What are yours?
September 23, 2025 at 2:09 PM
Have y’all heard of Howard Gardner and his theory of multiple intelligences? He posits that people have different levels of intelligence. My strengths are #1 musicality and #2 linguistic. My weakness is mathematical. What are yours?
I wrote this song after watching the movie “The Other Boleyn Girl”. I made this lyric video a few years ago. I’m thinking about tweaking the song a little bit. Such a great movie and a truly fascinating time in history.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=CJAY...
www.youtube.com/watch?v=CJAY...
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YouTube video by James Benedict “DragonTaint” Menard
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September 19, 2025 at 11:28 PM
I wrote this song after watching the movie “The Other Boleyn Girl”. I made this lyric video a few years ago. I’m thinking about tweaking the song a little bit. Such a great movie and a truly fascinating time in history.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=CJAY...
www.youtube.com/watch?v=CJAY...