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Jay and Lori at The Couple Cure
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Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors / 30+ yrs finding best practices / unique take on p-rn #addiction #recovery, #betrayal #trauma, & rebuilding trust / Free tips on healing from lying, p-rn addiction & mistreatment to give hope / and pics of our #cats
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STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING, THIS IS IMPORTANT

If you have never owned a cat, you need to know:

1. They know every pressure point on the human body
2. The paw of an adult cat produces 1.5 kilotons of discomfort

You've been WARNED!!!!
#catsky #cats #caturday
August 30, 2025 at 4:45 PM
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Being fully loved, is hard, if you are partially known.

I thought I could get the love and connection I needed without bringing all of me into the conversation.

💥 You can’t experience love if you are a curated version of yourself. The love you get will always feel directed at the mask.

#recovery
A dark hooded figure where the face cannot be seen.
August 18, 2025 at 5:12 PM
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𝐀𝐝𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐭𝐬 𝐋𝐢𝐞.

In today's video, I reveal the most shocking lie I told.

I lied many times to cover my addiction. And it caused more harm than the addiction itself. Go to the full video youtu.be/vH4N7QPBnq8

#recovery #trauma
August 11, 2025 at 6:04 PM
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We joined Ms. Morgan on Cat-cation near the river. She is wanting pampering, we think.

#caturday
Morgan the black cats laying on a chair with both front paws hanging down. She seems to be waiting for a manicure (or is it pedicure?). Morgan the black cats laying on a chair with both front paws hanging down. She seems to be waiting for a manicure (or is it pedicure?). This picture is closer to see her pretty face.
July 26, 2025 at 10:50 PM
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15 YEARS SOBER!!! Congratulations, Jay--I am so proud of you!!! (More news coming soon.)
July 4, 2025 at 4:00 PM
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Big Day for us tomorrow (July 4th.) Check back then to celebrate with us.#recovery, #trust, #addiction, #growth
Excited for tomorrow! 🎉 Join us for a special celebration! #recovery #trust
July 3, 2025 at 4:32 PM
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Mort takes the cuteness to 11 in this one.

#caturday #catsofbluesky #cats
May 24, 2025 at 2:42 PM
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Hope your #caturday is relaxing.
Morgan, our long-haired black cat, lying on top of the cat tree. Mort, our big long-haired red tabby, lying on his back in the big chair.
May 10, 2025 at 5:26 PM
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Happy fourth birthdays to these little friends:

Mort and Morgan

#caturday #birthday #kittens #catsofbluesky
Stacked photo of Mort as a kitten on top, he looks like a little fox or red panda. Morgan is below, looking over the top of a crate that says "Live Animals" with arrows pointing toward her.
April 5, 2025 at 5:13 PM
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Husbands (addicts) please read this. I (Jay) screwed up. My bigger mistake was to keep making it worse in defensiveness, gaslighting, blame-shifting, anger, and intimidation.

Believe it or not, you are the best person to help her heal.

Why? Because you can show your sorrow.

#trauma #betrayal
A pyramid cut into three layers. The first layer is the stupid thing you did. The second layer is lying about it. The third layer is blaming the other person for it. The layers get bigger as you go down.
March 30, 2025 at 11:33 PM
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Sobriety is like my cats in this hotel room - one's seeing the world with wonder, the other is plotting my demise.

#recovery #sobersky #caturday
A silky black cat, Morgan, looks out the sliding glass door of the hotel. She is intently watching whatever it is that cats watch. Mort, our sweet boy cat, is hidden behind the curtains waiting to attack.
March 22, 2025 at 3:30 PM
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One of the hardest things about serving a Resurrection God, is that He cannot resurrect something while it is still alive.

Maybe your marriage is dying or dead, or at least your idea of it is dead. This is where God works the best and the hardest.

#trauma #recovery #marriage
A winter scene of snow covered trees. Cold, dark, and "dead."
March 20, 2025 at 5:30 PM
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Happy #Caturday.

Super Ninja kitten Morgan takes on Mort in a kitchen showdown.

Watch for the slow-mo and reverse slo-mo to see her moves.
March 15, 2025 at 3:49 PM
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Morgan and a house slipper.

Mort goes mountaineering.
Black cat looking over the side of a slipper where she has stuck her head in the slipper. Mort the kitten wearing a winter cap made for a animal with his ears sticking out.
March 14, 2025 at 3:16 AM
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A couple of resting cats for your enjoyment.

Take some time to relax.

Happy #Caturday.

#cats #catsky #recoveryposse
A brown cat relaxing on the couch. Very pleased look on his face. A black cat draped over the top of a recliner, paws hanging on either side of the pillow.
February 22, 2025 at 6:49 PM
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The occasional cat photos, as promised.

#Caturday
Mort the cat wearing dad's shoes. Morgan the cat relaxing on a white blanket. Mort the cat sprawled out, relaxing.
February 8, 2025 at 7:40 PM
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A good thing to do in recovery is work on "being present."

My understanding of this idea is to do something with more focus and intention than you have in the past.

A client recently gifted me a #9barista coffee maker.

I love being present for coffee.

#presence #coffee
A 9barista coffee system on the stove with a fresh shot of espresso visible.
February 8, 2025 at 1:41 AM
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If you've been betrayed and you hear something similar to, "Well, everyone DOES need to clean up their own side of the street," then it's probably not the Trauma Model.
January 30, 2025 at 6:04 PM
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Typical Saturday Mort
January 25, 2025 at 6:29 PM
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Typical Saturday Morgan
January 25, 2025 at 6:29 PM
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Getting impatient with your healing after betrayal is one key sign the other is not following the Trauma Model for betrayal. Feel free to move on to those who hold to that model.
January 22, 2025 at 7:01 PM
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...it should read, "Doesn't jump right into boundary setting or detachment... UNLESS the betrayed patner feels either of those would make her feel safer." (((Note: We will use female pronouns for the betrayed and male pronouns for the betrayer. Why? That's who we work with.)))
January 15, 2025 at 5:12 PM
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I Lied 1000 Times (Rebuild Trust) #betrayal #lies #marriagerecovery

If you lied to your spouse, like I did, you cannot rebuild trust without making radical changes.

Check out our four part series here: jayandloripyatt.gumroad.com/l/LzMJm
January 10, 2025 at 10:21 PM
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Focusing on the betrayed partner's behavior can increase the trauma, because it feels like placing the blame on them. It would be like a victim of a mugging going for help, then the focus shifts from healing their trauma to "Why were you walking down the street alone?"
January 9, 2025 at 2:39 PM
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Second post in the Betrayal Trauma Series: Going at the traumatized partners speed is critical to their long-term healing.
January 6, 2025 at 8:06 PM