Virginia Duan | 段怡宣 (she/her)
@themandarinmama.bsky.social
Writer | Author of K-pop inspired women's fiction & fantasy | Entertainment Editor @mochimagofficial | @braznazn.bsky.social podcast co-host | BTS stan | [email protected] | same @ on 🧵| mandarinmama.com
Day 400 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: getting to celebrate a dearly loved friend for her birthday
My challenge: my stomach really isn't liking me lately
My life: my day is full of scrolling through Netflix and YouTube and starting then stopping whatever I watch
How was your Sunday?
My joy: getting to celebrate a dearly loved friend for her birthday
My challenge: my stomach really isn't liking me lately
My life: my day is full of scrolling through Netflix and YouTube and starting then stopping whatever I watch
How was your Sunday?
December 29, 2025 at 3:49 AM
Day 400 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: getting to celebrate a dearly loved friend for her birthday
My challenge: my stomach really isn't liking me lately
My life: my day is full of scrolling through Netflix and YouTube and starting then stopping whatever I watch
How was your Sunday?
My joy: getting to celebrate a dearly loved friend for her birthday
My challenge: my stomach really isn't liking me lately
My life: my day is full of scrolling through Netflix and YouTube and starting then stopping whatever I watch
How was your Sunday?
Day 399 of Chaotic Joy (late edition)
My joy: seeing Jin's concert movie!
My challenge: needing more peach cobbler after a delicious lunch of soul food
My life: snuggling with a toddler is still the best (even when they're super wiggly)
How was your Saturday?
My joy: seeing Jin's concert movie!
My challenge: needing more peach cobbler after a delicious lunch of soul food
My life: snuggling with a toddler is still the best (even when they're super wiggly)
How was your Saturday?
December 29, 2025 at 3:48 AM
Day 399 of Chaotic Joy (late edition)
My joy: seeing Jin's concert movie!
My challenge: needing more peach cobbler after a delicious lunch of soul food
My life: snuggling with a toddler is still the best (even when they're super wiggly)
How was your Saturday?
My joy: seeing Jin's concert movie!
My challenge: needing more peach cobbler after a delicious lunch of soul food
My life: snuggling with a toddler is still the best (even when they're super wiggly)
How was your Saturday?
Day 398 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: finishing “Badly in Love” on Netflix
My challenge: throwing up most of the evening
My life: now rereading my own book 😅
How was your day?
My joy: finishing “Badly in Love” on Netflix
My challenge: throwing up most of the evening
My life: now rereading my own book 😅
How was your day?
December 27, 2025 at 7:38 AM
Day 398 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: finishing “Badly in Love” on Netflix
My challenge: throwing up most of the evening
My life: now rereading my own book 😅
How was your day?
My joy: finishing “Badly in Love” on Netflix
My challenge: throwing up most of the evening
My life: now rereading my own book 😅
How was your day?
Day 397 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: Still not over my working fridge
My challenge: was super irritable and emotional this morning and then i realized i forgot to take my meds
My life: Netflix and reading all day
How was your day?
My joy: Still not over my working fridge
My challenge: was super irritable and emotional this morning and then i realized i forgot to take my meds
My life: Netflix and reading all day
How was your day?
December 26, 2025 at 6:54 AM
Day 397 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: Still not over my working fridge
My challenge: was super irritable and emotional this morning and then i realized i forgot to take my meds
My life: Netflix and reading all day
How was your day?
My joy: Still not over my working fridge
My challenge: was super irritable and emotional this morning and then i realized i forgot to take my meds
My life: Netflix and reading all day
How was your day?
Day 396 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: xmas dinner with my mother and our family friends
My challenge: none really today but I guess I have to restock my fridge soon and that is an unpleasant thought
My life: NEW FRIDGE TODAY AND IT WORKS WHOOOOHOOOO LG FTW
How was your xmas eve day?
My joy: xmas dinner with my mother and our family friends
My challenge: none really today but I guess I have to restock my fridge soon and that is an unpleasant thought
My life: NEW FRIDGE TODAY AND IT WORKS WHOOOOHOOOO LG FTW
How was your xmas eve day?
December 25, 2025 at 8:05 AM
Day 396 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: xmas dinner with my mother and our family friends
My challenge: none really today but I guess I have to restock my fridge soon and that is an unpleasant thought
My life: NEW FRIDGE TODAY AND IT WORKS WHOOOOHOOOO LG FTW
How was your xmas eve day?
My joy: xmas dinner with my mother and our family friends
My challenge: none really today but I guess I have to restock my fridge soon and that is an unpleasant thought
My life: NEW FRIDGE TODAY AND IT WORKS WHOOOOHOOOO LG FTW
How was your xmas eve day?
Day 395 of Chaotic Joy
My Joy: ate way too many cookies
My challenge: ate way too many cookies
My life: stayed up way too late last night studying Korean!
How was your day?
My Joy: ate way too many cookies
My challenge: ate way too many cookies
My life: stayed up way too late last night studying Korean!
How was your day?
December 24, 2025 at 6:36 AM
Day 395 of Chaotic Joy
My Joy: ate way too many cookies
My challenge: ate way too many cookies
My life: stayed up way too late last night studying Korean!
How was your day?
My Joy: ate way too many cookies
My challenge: ate way too many cookies
My life: stayed up way too late last night studying Korean!
How was your day?
Day 394 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: got back into studying Korean in earnest
My challenge: it’s so hard to retain information sometimes
My life: I love learning new languages
How was your Monday?
My joy: got back into studying Korean in earnest
My challenge: it’s so hard to retain information sometimes
My life: I love learning new languages
How was your Monday?
December 23, 2025 at 10:55 AM
Day 394 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: got back into studying Korean in earnest
My challenge: it’s so hard to retain information sometimes
My life: I love learning new languages
How was your Monday?
My joy: got back into studying Korean in earnest
My challenge: it’s so hard to retain information sometimes
My life: I love learning new languages
How was your Monday?
Day 393 of Chaotic Joy (late edition)
My joy: finishing a book and watching netflix
My challenge: rotting fooooooood yessss we stannnn
My life: it's a good life!!!
How was your Sunday?
My joy: finishing a book and watching netflix
My challenge: rotting fooooooood yessss we stannnn
My life: it's a good life!!!
How was your Sunday?
December 22, 2025 at 7:41 PM
Day 393 of Chaotic Joy (late edition)
My joy: finishing a book and watching netflix
My challenge: rotting fooooooood yessss we stannnn
My life: it's a good life!!!
How was your Sunday?
My joy: finishing a book and watching netflix
My challenge: rotting fooooooood yessss we stannnn
My life: it's a good life!!!
How was your Sunday?
Day 392 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: seeing my oldest have fun at his birthday party
My challenge: prepping for a party when your fridge is (as the kids say) chopped
My life: did get a lot of reading done!!
How was your day?
My joy: seeing my oldest have fun at his birthday party
My challenge: prepping for a party when your fridge is (as the kids say) chopped
My life: did get a lot of reading done!!
How was your day?
December 21, 2025 at 6:32 AM
Day 392 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: seeing my oldest have fun at his birthday party
My challenge: prepping for a party when your fridge is (as the kids say) chopped
My life: did get a lot of reading done!!
How was your day?
My joy: seeing my oldest have fun at his birthday party
My challenge: prepping for a party when your fridge is (as the kids say) chopped
My life: did get a lot of reading done!!
How was your day?
Day 391 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: got my snack box from my book club secret santa!
My challenge: my new fridge is not working so all the food that didn't spoil when my old fridge died spoiled now
My life: ALSO WHY DOES A FRIDGE NEED WIFI LIKE PLZ
How was your day?
My joy: got my snack box from my book club secret santa!
My challenge: my new fridge is not working so all the food that didn't spoil when my old fridge died spoiled now
My life: ALSO WHY DOES A FRIDGE NEED WIFI LIKE PLZ
How was your day?
December 20, 2025 at 7:51 AM
Day 391 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: got my snack box from my book club secret santa!
My challenge: my new fridge is not working so all the food that didn't spoil when my old fridge died spoiled now
My life: ALSO WHY DOES A FRIDGE NEED WIFI LIKE PLZ
How was your day?
My joy: got my snack box from my book club secret santa!
My challenge: my new fridge is not working so all the food that didn't spoil when my old fridge died spoiled now
My life: ALSO WHY DOES A FRIDGE NEED WIFI LIKE PLZ
How was your day?
Day 390 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: seeing ronny hates hasan
My challenge: my brand new fridge is not cold or freezing
My life: ofc my kid is having a bday party on the same day my fridge is getting serviced
How was your day?
My joy: seeing ronny hates hasan
My challenge: my brand new fridge is not cold or freezing
My life: ofc my kid is having a bday party on the same day my fridge is getting serviced
How was your day?
December 19, 2025 at 7:43 AM
Day 390 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: seeing ronny hates hasan
My challenge: my brand new fridge is not cold or freezing
My life: ofc my kid is having a bday party on the same day my fridge is getting serviced
How was your day?
My joy: seeing ronny hates hasan
My challenge: my brand new fridge is not cold or freezing
My life: ofc my kid is having a bday party on the same day my fridge is getting serviced
How was your day?
Day 389 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: i think i'm finally getting back out from under the decluttering house mountain
My challenge: WHY IS IT SO COLD THOUGH
My life: got a new fridge delivered today and it's so nice and pretty and big!
How was your day?
My joy: i think i'm finally getting back out from under the decluttering house mountain
My challenge: WHY IS IT SO COLD THOUGH
My life: got a new fridge delivered today and it's so nice and pretty and big!
How was your day?
December 18, 2025 at 4:29 AM
Day 389 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: i think i'm finally getting back out from under the decluttering house mountain
My challenge: WHY IS IT SO COLD THOUGH
My life: got a new fridge delivered today and it's so nice and pretty and big!
How was your day?
My joy: i think i'm finally getting back out from under the decluttering house mountain
My challenge: WHY IS IT SO COLD THOUGH
My life: got a new fridge delivered today and it's so nice and pretty and big!
How was your day?
Days 379-388 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: honestly, it's just been a blur of organizing and completely tearing apart my house and putting things back together
My challenge: MY WHOLE HOUSE - also I ran out of my SNRI OMG
My life: BUT I'M DONE AND I'M BACK I THINK!! WHOOHOOOOO!
How have you been???
My joy: honestly, it's just been a blur of organizing and completely tearing apart my house and putting things back together
My challenge: MY WHOLE HOUSE - also I ran out of my SNRI OMG
My life: BUT I'M DONE AND I'M BACK I THINK!! WHOOHOOOOO!
How have you been???
December 17, 2025 at 7:03 AM
Days 379-388 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: honestly, it's just been a blur of organizing and completely tearing apart my house and putting things back together
My challenge: MY WHOLE HOUSE - also I ran out of my SNRI OMG
My life: BUT I'M DONE AND I'M BACK I THINK!! WHOOHOOOOO!
How have you been???
My joy: honestly, it's just been a blur of organizing and completely tearing apart my house and putting things back together
My challenge: MY WHOLE HOUSE - also I ran out of my SNRI OMG
My life: BUT I'M DONE AND I'M BACK I THINK!! WHOOHOOOOO!
How have you been???
Day 378 of Chaotic Joy (SUPER LATE EDITION)
My joy: finally finishing organizing my harry potter closet (as in under the stairs)
My challenge: was almost late to the Key concert because of said organizing
My life: i so tired
How was your day?
My joy: finally finishing organizing my harry potter closet (as in under the stairs)
My challenge: was almost late to the Key concert because of said organizing
My life: i so tired
How was your day?
December 7, 2025 at 11:52 PM
Day 378 of Chaotic Joy (SUPER LATE EDITION)
My joy: finally finishing organizing my harry potter closet (as in under the stairs)
My challenge: was almost late to the Key concert because of said organizing
My life: i so tired
How was your day?
My joy: finally finishing organizing my harry potter closet (as in under the stairs)
My challenge: was almost late to the Key concert because of said organizing
My life: i so tired
How was your day?
Day 377 of Chaotic Joy (late edition)
My joy: clearing out my harry potter closet
My challenge: turns out my vision is just getting bad and not cuz of medication
My life: I fell asleep playing Sudoku and my phone logged me as playing 2.5 hrs and killed my battery
How was your Thursday?
My joy: clearing out my harry potter closet
My challenge: turns out my vision is just getting bad and not cuz of medication
My life: I fell asleep playing Sudoku and my phone logged me as playing 2.5 hrs and killed my battery
How was your Thursday?
December 6, 2025 at 4:02 AM
Day 377 of Chaotic Joy (late edition)
My joy: clearing out my harry potter closet
My challenge: turns out my vision is just getting bad and not cuz of medication
My life: I fell asleep playing Sudoku and my phone logged me as playing 2.5 hrs and killed my battery
How was your Thursday?
My joy: clearing out my harry potter closet
My challenge: turns out my vision is just getting bad and not cuz of medication
My life: I fell asleep playing Sudoku and my phone logged me as playing 2.5 hrs and killed my battery
How was your Thursday?
Day 376 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: I’m so pleased. I started off this purging/reorgging missing approximately 1/2-1/3 of the 30 geometric shapes. I’m down to only missing 2 pieces. I think a triangle and a circle. I AM BEYOND CHUFFED.
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My joy: I’m so pleased. I started off this purging/reorgging missing approximately 1/2-1/3 of the 30 geometric shapes. I’m down to only missing 2 pieces. I think a triangle and a circle. I AM BEYOND CHUFFED.
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December 4, 2025 at 9:16 AM
Day 376 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: I’m so pleased. I started off this purging/reorgging missing approximately 1/2-1/3 of the 30 geometric shapes. I’m down to only missing 2 pieces. I think a triangle and a circle. I AM BEYOND CHUFFED.
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My joy: I’m so pleased. I started off this purging/reorgging missing approximately 1/2-1/3 of the 30 geometric shapes. I’m down to only missing 2 pieces. I think a triangle and a circle. I AM BEYOND CHUFFED.
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Day 375 of Chaotic Joy (late edition)
My joy: MELONA POPSICLE
My challenge: SO SLEEPYYYYYYY
My life: slowly decluttering my life and home!
How was your yesterday?
My joy: MELONA POPSICLE
My challenge: SO SLEEPYYYYYYY
My life: slowly decluttering my life and home!
How was your yesterday?
December 3, 2025 at 5:13 PM
Day 375 of Chaotic Joy (late edition)
My joy: MELONA POPSICLE
My challenge: SO SLEEPYYYYYYY
My life: slowly decluttering my life and home!
How was your yesterday?
My joy: MELONA POPSICLE
My challenge: SO SLEEPYYYYYYY
My life: slowly decluttering my life and home!
How was your yesterday?
Day 374 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: seeing the tiny ways my toddler blossoms in music class. Her joy & exuberance is a treat.
My challenge: IT IS SO COLD
My life: back to stealing moments for myself & feeling somewhat resentful of all these other people I take care of. It will pass!
How was your day?
My joy: seeing the tiny ways my toddler blossoms in music class. Her joy & exuberance is a treat.
My challenge: IT IS SO COLD
My life: back to stealing moments for myself & feeling somewhat resentful of all these other people I take care of. It will pass!
How was your day?
December 2, 2025 at 6:44 AM
Day 374 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: seeing the tiny ways my toddler blossoms in music class. Her joy & exuberance is a treat.
My challenge: IT IS SO COLD
My life: back to stealing moments for myself & feeling somewhat resentful of all these other people I take care of. It will pass!
How was your day?
My joy: seeing the tiny ways my toddler blossoms in music class. Her joy & exuberance is a treat.
My challenge: IT IS SO COLD
My life: back to stealing moments for myself & feeling somewhat resentful of all these other people I take care of. It will pass!
How was your day?
CHAOTIC JOY MASSIVE UPDATE LATE EDITION (Days 370-373)
Day 370 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: napping all day and rescheduling thanksgiving dinner for saturday bc i was sick
My challenge: I HATE BEING SICK
My life: but I still made a yummy dinner and i binge watched netflix
Day 370 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: napping all day and rescheduling thanksgiving dinner for saturday bc i was sick
My challenge: I HATE BEING SICK
My life: but I still made a yummy dinner and i binge watched netflix
December 1, 2025 at 8:07 AM
CHAOTIC JOY MASSIVE UPDATE LATE EDITION (Days 370-373)
Day 370 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: napping all day and rescheduling thanksgiving dinner for saturday bc i was sick
My challenge: I HATE BEING SICK
My life: but I still made a yummy dinner and i binge watched netflix
Day 370 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: napping all day and rescheduling thanksgiving dinner for saturday bc i was sick
My challenge: I HATE BEING SICK
My life: but I still made a yummy dinner and i binge watched netflix
Day 369 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: putting together my oldest son’s new bed frame
My challenge: I’m getting sick and I feel progressively worse
My life: I feel lighter as we give away upwards of 40+ boxes of clothing to friends & 10+ boxes of Chinese and homeschooling curriculum
How was your day?
My joy: putting together my oldest son’s new bed frame
My challenge: I’m getting sick and I feel progressively worse
My life: I feel lighter as we give away upwards of 40+ boxes of clothing to friends & 10+ boxes of Chinese and homeschooling curriculum
How was your day?
November 27, 2025 at 7:51 AM
Day 369 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: putting together my oldest son’s new bed frame
My challenge: I’m getting sick and I feel progressively worse
My life: I feel lighter as we give away upwards of 40+ boxes of clothing to friends & 10+ boxes of Chinese and homeschooling curriculum
How was your day?
My joy: putting together my oldest son’s new bed frame
My challenge: I’m getting sick and I feel progressively worse
My life: I feel lighter as we give away upwards of 40+ boxes of clothing to friends & 10+ boxes of Chinese and homeschooling curriculum
How was your day?
Day 368 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: organizing my books and merch
My challenge: just about 5% left of the great clothing purge/sort and I can’t muster the energy to finish
My life: Really really happy with life right now
How was your day?
My joy: organizing my books and merch
My challenge: just about 5% left of the great clothing purge/sort and I can’t muster the energy to finish
My life: Really really happy with life right now
How was your day?
November 26, 2025 at 7:31 AM
Day 368 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: organizing my books and merch
My challenge: just about 5% left of the great clothing purge/sort and I can’t muster the energy to finish
My life: Really really happy with life right now
How was your day?
My joy: organizing my books and merch
My challenge: just about 5% left of the great clothing purge/sort and I can’t muster the energy to finish
My life: Really really happy with life right now
How was your day?
Day 367 of Chaotic Joy (current edition)
My joy: hanging out with a friend as a nice break
My challenge: still so much sorting, packing boxes for friends, and Not Yoongi discovering another 9 boxes of <2yo clothes and a box of cloth diapers in the garage 😭😭😭
My life: so tired
How was your day?
My joy: hanging out with a friend as a nice break
My challenge: still so much sorting, packing boxes for friends, and Not Yoongi discovering another 9 boxes of <2yo clothes and a box of cloth diapers in the garage 😭😭😭
My life: so tired
How was your day?
November 25, 2025 at 6:09 AM
Day 367 of Chaotic Joy (current edition)
My joy: hanging out with a friend as a nice break
My challenge: still so much sorting, packing boxes for friends, and Not Yoongi discovering another 9 boxes of <2yo clothes and a box of cloth diapers in the garage 😭😭😭
My life: so tired
How was your day?
My joy: hanging out with a friend as a nice break
My challenge: still so much sorting, packing boxes for friends, and Not Yoongi discovering another 9 boxes of <2yo clothes and a box of cloth diapers in the garage 😭😭😭
My life: so tired
How was your day?
Day 366 of Chaotic Joy (late edition)
My joy: spent all day sorting, folding, washing clothes, and moving furniture
My challenge: BODY HURTS, CAN'T STOP SNEEZING
My life: it's so much to do, but we have 5 kids and need to make space for growing kiddos and it's worth it!
How was your Sunday?
My joy: spent all day sorting, folding, washing clothes, and moving furniture
My challenge: BODY HURTS, CAN'T STOP SNEEZING
My life: it's so much to do, but we have 5 kids and need to make space for growing kiddos and it's worth it!
How was your Sunday?
November 24, 2025 at 8:30 PM
Day 366 of Chaotic Joy (late edition)
My joy: spent all day sorting, folding, washing clothes, and moving furniture
My challenge: BODY HURTS, CAN'T STOP SNEEZING
My life: it's so much to do, but we have 5 kids and need to make space for growing kiddos and it's worth it!
How was your Sunday?
My joy: spent all day sorting, folding, washing clothes, and moving furniture
My challenge: BODY HURTS, CAN'T STOP SNEEZING
My life: it's so much to do, but we have 5 kids and need to make space for growing kiddos and it's worth it!
How was your Sunday?
Day 365 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: got rid of more stuff and made a new friend
My challenge: I've hit a wee bit of a wall, but I'll keep chugging a long
My life: A WHOLE YEAR OF CHAOTIC JOY WHOOHOOOO
How was your Saturday?
My joy: got rid of more stuff and made a new friend
My challenge: I've hit a wee bit of a wall, but I'll keep chugging a long
My life: A WHOLE YEAR OF CHAOTIC JOY WHOOHOOOO
How was your Saturday?
November 23, 2025 at 6:29 AM
Day 365 of Chaotic Joy
My joy: got rid of more stuff and made a new friend
My challenge: I've hit a wee bit of a wall, but I'll keep chugging a long
My life: A WHOLE YEAR OF CHAOTIC JOY WHOOHOOOO
How was your Saturday?
My joy: got rid of more stuff and made a new friend
My challenge: I've hit a wee bit of a wall, but I'll keep chugging a long
My life: A WHOLE YEAR OF CHAOTIC JOY WHOOHOOOO
How was your Saturday?
Day 364 of Chaotic Joy (late edition)
My joy: giving/lending kids’ clothes and books to friends
My challenge: SORTING 20 BOXES OF CLOTHES from size 4 to 16 🫠🫠🫠
My life: I spent ALL DAY sorting and I’m still not done
How was your Friday?
My joy: giving/lending kids’ clothes and books to friends
My challenge: SORTING 20 BOXES OF CLOTHES from size 4 to 16 🫠🫠🫠
My life: I spent ALL DAY sorting and I’m still not done
How was your Friday?
November 22, 2025 at 7:52 PM
Day 364 of Chaotic Joy (late edition)
My joy: giving/lending kids’ clothes and books to friends
My challenge: SORTING 20 BOXES OF CLOTHES from size 4 to 16 🫠🫠🫠
My life: I spent ALL DAY sorting and I’m still not done
How was your Friday?
My joy: giving/lending kids’ clothes and books to friends
My challenge: SORTING 20 BOXES OF CLOTHES from size 4 to 16 🫠🫠🫠
My life: I spent ALL DAY sorting and I’m still not done
How was your Friday?