ThePuzzleThatIsMe
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After experiencing yrs of trauma from a toxic & abusive relationship, I found my way. I hope to inspire, be inspired by you & help as many as I can☺️ #domesticviolence #narcissism #abuse #trauma #psychologicalabuse #emotionalabuse #gaslighting #triggers
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I tell my story like this…
One day, I woke up & realized that I was like a giant puzzle made up of many different pieces. Each piece represented a special & unique piece of who I was.
On this particular morning, I realized pieces of me were gone. Who was I anymore? Where did the “old me” go?
One day, I woke up & realized that I was like a giant puzzle made up of many different pieces. Each piece represented a special & unique piece of who I was.
On this particular morning, I realized pieces of me were gone. Who was I anymore? Where did the “old me” go?
My ex used to take nasty jabs at me. He called it sarcasm, I called it abusive. Today I learned all about Passive Aggressive Sarcasm & I wanted to share what I learned with you. #sarcasm #abuse #gaslighting #narcissist #passiveaggressive
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Passive Aggressive Sarcasm
Narcissists keep an arsenal of tools in their back pocket. One of them is “sarcasm” & the lie that they are “just joking.” Sarcasm is defined as saying things that mean …
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February 27, 2025 at 6:27 PM
My ex used to take nasty jabs at me. He called it sarcasm, I called it abusive. Today I learned all about Passive Aggressive Sarcasm & I wanted to share what I learned with you. #sarcasm #abuse #gaslighting #narcissist #passiveaggressive
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Maybe one of the most important things I have ever written. Please read, comment with your personal Warning Signs and share, so we can reach as many people as we can🫶 We deserve the best, friends.
#single #datingadvice #narcissist #abuse
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#single #datingadvice #narcissist #abuse
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WARNING signs for Single’s
This post is for the people who simply want love in their life. The people who watch others find love, be happy & they wish they could have a little bit of that themselves. The people who’…
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February 1, 2025 at 4:43 PM
Maybe one of the most important things I have ever written. Please read, comment with your personal Warning Signs and share, so we can reach as many people as we can🫶 We deserve the best, friends.
#single #datingadvice #narcissist #abuse
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#single #datingadvice #narcissist #abuse
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Talking to fellow survivors, it seems Narcissists like to use the same excuses over & over to avoid accountability. These are the lines I personally heard the most. What are yours?
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Things Narcissists Say To Avoid Accountability
If you’re here, you know the sad truth. The narcissist’s in my life (yep, I’ve had 2. A Mother & an Ex) have never taken accountability for their actions. Everything is always…
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February 1, 2025 at 11:06 AM
Talking to fellow survivors, it seems Narcissists like to use the same excuses over & over to avoid accountability. These are the lines I personally heard the most. What are yours?
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New Post! A fun way to gain some perspective🥧🤔🫶
For victims of #abuse #trauma, a #narcissist, #relationships in General
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For victims of #abuse #trauma, a #narcissist, #relationships in General
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Pie Perspective
First I wanna say, it is SO hard to create a pie chart from scratch! LOL! Consider yourself warned. This sh*t just won’t line up! But here I am and I think my message should come across despi…
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January 29, 2025 at 12:09 PM
New Post! A fun way to gain some perspective🥧🤔🫶
For victims of #abuse #trauma, a #narcissist, #relationships in General
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For victims of #abuse #trauma, a #narcissist, #relationships in General
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Single & Dodging Red Flags? I know I ignored too many flags in my last relationship & look where that got me😬
So, heartbroken but on the mend, I created an idea that hasn’t steered me wrong. Check it out!👇♥️✨
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So, heartbroken but on the mend, I created an idea that hasn’t steered me wrong. Check it out!👇♥️✨
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Single & Dodging Red Flags?
Saw my ex with someone else & I felt heartbroken. But not for the reason you think… My heart broke because I felt for her, the new girl. I was once her. Lil naive me, thinking I found a n…
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January 27, 2025 at 5:26 PM
Single & Dodging Red Flags? I know I ignored too many flags in my last relationship & look where that got me😬
So, heartbroken but on the mend, I created an idea that hasn’t steered me wrong. Check it out!👇♥️✨
thestoryofthepuzzlethatisme.wordpress.com/2025/01/27/s...
So, heartbroken but on the mend, I created an idea that hasn’t steered me wrong. Check it out!👇♥️✨
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This is the final part of my Surviving Abuse series Part 4: “You Are Not Alone.” This is for every survivor out there. I hope it helps you find peace within yourself and realize the strength you have inside you💖 #domesticviolence #abuse
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Surviving Abuse: You Are Not Alone
Part 4 You are not alone. You are strong, loving, giving. You’re one of the good ones. You are not a bother to the ones who love you. Reach out, it’s ok. You’re story, is importan…
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January 24, 2025 at 1:49 PM
This is the final part of my Surviving Abuse series Part 4: “You Are Not Alone.” This is for every survivor out there. I hope it helps you find peace within yourself and realize the strength you have inside you💖 #domesticviolence #abuse
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The narcissist who says, “I deserve unconditional love, someone who supports me in everything I do, guards my heart & cares about my feelings.”
Uh huh. You had that, smashed it to pieces & threw it away. What are you gonna do to the next one?
Uh huh. You had that, smashed it to pieces & threw it away. What are you gonna do to the next one?
January 23, 2025 at 7:25 PM
The narcissist who says, “I deserve unconditional love, someone who supports me in everything I do, guards my heart & cares about my feelings.”
Uh huh. You had that, smashed it to pieces & threw it away. What are you gonna do to the next one?
Uh huh. You had that, smashed it to pieces & threw it away. What are you gonna do to the next one?
Shared Part 3 today of my Surviving Abuse series & typed up/posted Part 4 to my blog.
Not gonna lie, Im so anxious. This series has been my heart & soul on a plate. From the images, to the writing, to the vulnerability Ive never had the courage to share before. I wonder if it’ll make a difference?
Not gonna lie, Im so anxious. This series has been my heart & soul on a plate. From the images, to the writing, to the vulnerability Ive never had the courage to share before. I wonder if it’ll make a difference?
January 23, 2025 at 4:15 PM
Shared Part 3 today of my Surviving Abuse series & typed up/posted Part 4 to my blog.
Not gonna lie, Im so anxious. This series has been my heart & soul on a plate. From the images, to the writing, to the vulnerability Ive never had the courage to share before. I wonder if it’ll make a difference?
Not gonna lie, Im so anxious. This series has been my heart & soul on a plate. From the images, to the writing, to the vulnerability Ive never had the courage to share before. I wonder if it’ll make a difference?
Part 3 of my Surviving Abuse series. “The Mother Wound”. Trauma begins somewhere. Please tell me what you think. Hugs🫂
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January 23, 2025 at 3:13 PM
Part 3 of my Surviving Abuse series. “The Mother Wound”. Trauma begins somewhere. Please tell me what you think. Hugs🫂
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A friend told me that I should write a book about my experiences. I have seen other ppl do the same, but Im really hesitant. I cant even work up a solid following on social media. Who would read my book? Lol Would anyone really care? But what if it helped someone, saved someone, just one? 🤔💭🫶
January 22, 2025 at 7:23 PM
A friend told me that I should write a book about my experiences. I have seen other ppl do the same, but Im really hesitant. I cant even work up a solid following on social media. Who would read my book? Lol Would anyone really care? But what if it helped someone, saved someone, just one? 🤔💭🫶
I am here to say, whether you survived childhood abuse, physical abuse, domestic abuse, narcissistic abuse, or psychological abuse, you are the STRONGEST ppl I know! Part 2👇
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Surviving Abuse: We Aren’t Weak
In my last post, I discussed how abuse isn’t always just physical and yet it can do horrible damage none the less. In this post, I want to discuss why I stayed, because I think abuse victims …
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January 18, 2025 at 1:32 AM
I am here to say, whether you survived childhood abuse, physical abuse, domestic abuse, narcissistic abuse, or psychological abuse, you are the STRONGEST ppl I know! Part 2👇
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For those who suffer from childhood abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, verbal abuse, financial abuse, this is for you.
It’s a 4 part series I have poured my heart & soul into. I hope you realize you are not alone. Please be kind.
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It’s a 4 part series I have poured my heart & soul into. I hope you realize you are not alone. Please be kind.
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Surviving Abuse: It’s Not Just Physical
Trigger Warnings: Physical Abuse, All Forms of Abuse, Suicide, Depression One of the biggest misconceptions, that I want to clear up with this blog/account, is that verbal/psychological/emotional a…
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January 16, 2025 at 10:35 PM
For those who suffer from childhood abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, verbal abuse, financial abuse, this is for you.
It’s a 4 part series I have poured my heart & soul into. I hope you realize you are not alone. Please be kind.
thestoryofthepuzzlethatisme.wordpress.com/2025/01/16/s...
It’s a 4 part series I have poured my heart & soul into. I hope you realize you are not alone. Please be kind.
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Do you ever revisit a conversation you had over and over, wishing you could have said something differently? Wishing you stood up for yourself, pointed things out that you forgot to say or wishing you never spoke at all?
I find myself constantly replaying convos in my head that I can never change.
I find myself constantly replaying convos in my head that I can never change.
January 15, 2025 at 4:12 PM
Do you ever revisit a conversation you had over and over, wishing you could have said something differently? Wishing you stood up for yourself, pointed things out that you forgot to say or wishing you never spoke at all?
I find myself constantly replaying convos in my head that I can never change.
I find myself constantly replaying convos in my head that I can never change.
My mother is/was raised by a narcissist & it damaged her. She has no selfesteem & to admit the damage shes caused me, it would break her. But she was never & will never be the mom I needed her to be. She will always hurt me in order to fulfill her own wants. And Ive had to find acceptance with that.
January 14, 2025 at 6:37 PM
My mother is/was raised by a narcissist & it damaged her. She has no selfesteem & to admit the damage shes caused me, it would break her. But she was never & will never be the mom I needed her to be. She will always hurt me in order to fulfill her own wants. And Ive had to find acceptance with that.
Does anyone else have family that sweep the painful things they’ve done under the rug? They tell you to “let it go” bc they are the ones that caused the pain, not IN pain. They act like nothing ever happened & expect you to do the same…and you just cant😔
January 14, 2025 at 6:32 PM
Does anyone else have family that sweep the painful things they’ve done under the rug? They tell you to “let it go” bc they are the ones that caused the pain, not IN pain. They act like nothing ever happened & expect you to do the same…and you just cant😔
B.S. Free Post about dealing with anxiety & worry & finding positivity after trauma. You don’t know, unless you know. Breathe through it💖
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January 10, 2025 at 4:40 PM
B.S. Free Post about dealing with anxiety & worry & finding positivity after trauma. You don’t know, unless you know. Breathe through it💖
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New post! A brief discussion on how trauma effects me/us day to day.
Have you ever experienced Dark Days? Second guess yourself a lot? Need time alone?
What inspires you & pulls you out of it?
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Have you ever experienced Dark Days? Second guess yourself a lot? Need time alone?
What inspires you & pulls you out of it?
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Mental Health After Trauma
Today, my blog officially went public & it’s such a surreal feeling. Will anyone respond to it? Will people take something away from it? Will it disappear into the ether never to be seen …
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January 8, 2025 at 7:08 PM
New post! A brief discussion on how trauma effects me/us day to day.
Have you ever experienced Dark Days? Second guess yourself a lot? Need time alone?
What inspires you & pulls you out of it?
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Have you ever experienced Dark Days? Second guess yourself a lot? Need time alone?
What inspires you & pulls you out of it?
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My New Blog is up & running! Come check it out, follow, comment & please spread the word! Find me at TheStoryOfThePuzzleThatIsMe☺️💜
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January 8, 2025 at 4:37 PM
My New Blog is up & running! Come check it out, follow, comment & please spread the word! Find me at TheStoryOfThePuzzleThatIsMe☺️💜
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When was the moment you realized you were in a relationship with a narcissist? Or realized your family member was a narcissist? #narcissist
December 16, 2024 at 7:03 PM
When was the moment you realized you were in a relationship with a narcissist? Or realized your family member was a narcissist? #narcissist
Recently, it was brought to my attention that my ex is grandstanding on social media. Meaning, they are trying to appear to be someone they are not. They are trying to appear honest, compassionate, caring, God fearing & anything else their latest conquest would want. 👇 #narcissist
December 15, 2024 at 10:15 PM
Recently, it was brought to my attention that my ex is grandstanding on social media. Meaning, they are trying to appear to be someone they are not. They are trying to appear honest, compassionate, caring, God fearing & anything else their latest conquest would want. 👇 #narcissist
A Word Of Caution:
I happened to see a post that my ex posted. In it, he was trying to win over some woman (good for him! Bad for her😔) He discussed what commitment is to him with such beauty (from a man who cheated on me & 2 of his ex’s).
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I happened to see a post that my ex posted. In it, he was trying to win over some woman (good for him! Bad for her😔) He discussed what commitment is to him with such beauty (from a man who cheated on me & 2 of his ex’s).
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December 2, 2024 at 5:18 PM
A Word Of Caution:
I happened to see a post that my ex posted. In it, he was trying to win over some woman (good for him! Bad for her😔) He discussed what commitment is to him with such beauty (from a man who cheated on me & 2 of his ex’s).
👇👇👇
I happened to see a post that my ex posted. In it, he was trying to win over some woman (good for him! Bad for her😔) He discussed what commitment is to him with such beauty (from a man who cheated on me & 2 of his ex’s).
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Growing up, my father had a bit of a temper. There are moments I wish I could forget. Including seeing my mother watching it happen and doing nothing to calm him.
It isnt surprising that I then married someone with anger issues.
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It isnt surprising that I then married someone with anger issues.
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November 26, 2024 at 8:08 PM
Growing up, my father had a bit of a temper. There are moments I wish I could forget. Including seeing my mother watching it happen and doing nothing to calm him.
It isnt surprising that I then married someone with anger issues.
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It isnt surprising that I then married someone with anger issues.
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Moments will happen in your life, when your true priorities will show through
November 26, 2024 at 12:13 AM
Moments will happen in your life, when your true priorities will show through
Whats on your “Get Me Outta Here” holiday playlist?😂🎧
November 25, 2024 at 9:52 PM
Whats on your “Get Me Outta Here” holiday playlist?😂🎧