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Manipulation is a way to confuse and trick someone into thinking they are worthless. In this state, you can be used by the manipulator to make them feel better about themselves. Because they only feel better for a moment, the manipulation must be constant.
December 30, 2025 at 3:04 PM
Manipulation is a way to confuse and trick someone into thinking they are worthless. In this state, you can be used by the manipulator to make them feel better about themselves. Because they only feel better for a moment, the manipulation must be constant.
The lessons we are to learn in life cannot all come from our life alone. Learn from those around you whether you like them or not. They are all here to teach you something. Your hero’s journey is not about who acquires the most things, but who has the awareness and inner peace.
December 29, 2025 at 3:08 PM
The lessons we are to learn in life cannot all come from our life alone. Learn from those around you whether you like them or not. They are all here to teach you something. Your hero’s journey is not about who acquires the most things, but who has the awareness and inner peace.
We struggle to give people chances because we don’t want to lose them. It seems the kind thing to do. But, we also don’t want to be alone. Our connection to ourselves gives us the courage to listen to our inner voice and trust it while feeling connection to our compassion state.
December 26, 2025 at 1:43 PM
We struggle to give people chances because we don’t want to lose them. It seems the kind thing to do. But, we also don’t want to be alone. Our connection to ourselves gives us the courage to listen to our inner voice and trust it while feeling connection to our compassion state.
There is no better gift than feeling validated for who you are and not what you do or have. Life can feel easy in this way because you have the inner fortitude to handle anything because so much of your life is effortless.
December 25, 2025 at 1:03 PM
There is no better gift than feeling validated for who you are and not what you do or have. Life can feel easy in this way because you have the inner fortitude to handle anything because so much of your life is effortless.
Binary think makes us worry about the outcome. We have to succeed. When we just put our attention on how we practice the skill of attempting something new. We change our mindset about the situation and no matter what happens, we win something even if it’s just the lesson of the process.
December 24, 2025 at 1:58 PM
Binary think makes us worry about the outcome. We have to succeed. When we just put our attention on how we practice the skill of attempting something new. We change our mindset about the situation and no matter what happens, we win something even if it’s just the lesson of the process.
If the inner child’s sadness is a burden they carry for every year the child grows then by 16 or 26, the burden is that many years heavy. This is why the pain is so profound they just need it to stop. When you are helpless to stop the pain, desperation can make us consider any and everything.
December 23, 2025 at 1:34 PM
If the inner child’s sadness is a burden they carry for every year the child grows then by 16 or 26, the burden is that many years heavy. This is why the pain is so profound they just need it to stop. When you are helpless to stop the pain, desperation can make us consider any and everything.
The child of the father who leaves fantasizes about how their life would be different if their dad was there. The child of the abusive father wonders how their life could be different if they were the kid their father wanted. The hope is to have one fairly descent parent or adult in your life. One.
December 22, 2025 at 1:34 PM
The child of the father who leaves fantasizes about how their life would be different if their dad was there. The child of the abusive father wonders how their life could be different if they were the kid their father wanted. The hope is to have one fairly descent parent or adult in your life. One.
When we have the courage to be ourselves, we can ask and receive what we need so that we stay connected to our humanity rather than our anxiety.
December 19, 2025 at 1:53 PM
When we have the courage to be ourselves, we can ask and receive what we need so that we stay connected to our humanity rather than our anxiety.
Stereotypes and standards of behavior are designed to keep you in your place using your fear of being excluded, left out. If I can help you focus on the fear of exclusion then, you will live in so much shame that I can control u from wherever I am. Your shame becomes a remote control to ur behavior.
December 18, 2025 at 1:43 PM
Stereotypes and standards of behavior are designed to keep you in your place using your fear of being excluded, left out. If I can help you focus on the fear of exclusion then, you will live in so much shame that I can control u from wherever I am. Your shame becomes a remote control to ur behavior.
Shame is the act of blaming ourselves for behavior that we can’t control in a person we need to depend on to care for us. We start this at very young ages and it binds us to people who treat us like our original caretakers. Unless you start to understand this process.
December 17, 2025 at 1:41 PM
Shame is the act of blaming ourselves for behavior that we can’t control in a person we need to depend on to care for us. We start this at very young ages and it binds us to people who treat us like our original caretakers. Unless you start to understand this process.
Manipulation has a pattern and the first place you recognized it is in your body. Then, you start to hear it in your automated response. When you get curious and see the pattern, you understand why your belly hurts or why you feel bad when it happens. The obligated response is the desired effect.
December 16, 2025 at 1:47 PM
Manipulation has a pattern and the first place you recognized it is in your body. Then, you start to hear it in your automated response. When you get curious and see the pattern, you understand why your belly hurts or why you feel bad when it happens. The obligated response is the desired effect.
The way shame works is that I see the entire world as rejecting me because of who I am. So when I see someone who has something I don’t, but wish I had; I attack so I can make you feel as bad as I do. Don’t fall for the one doke!
December 15, 2025 at 1:24 PM
The way shame works is that I see the entire world as rejecting me because of who I am. So when I see someone who has something I don’t, but wish I had; I attack so I can make you feel as bad as I do. Don’t fall for the one doke!
The hierarchy established in many homes is meant to indoctrinate obligation and loyalty so we obey. It removes diversity and individuality so that who we are is what the eldest says we are. We have no choice.
December 12, 2025 at 1:12 PM
The hierarchy established in many homes is meant to indoctrinate obligation and loyalty so we obey. It removes diversity and individuality so that who we are is what the eldest says we are. We have no choice.
Not being emotionally seen by caretakers has created a need to be seen by the masses whether you have something to offer or not. Emotional maturity can be nurtured by parents, but our journey is such that we are meant to discover this for ourselves. We are the ones who need to see our value first.
December 11, 2025 at 1:25 PM
Not being emotionally seen by caretakers has created a need to be seen by the masses whether you have something to offer or not. Emotional maturity can be nurtured by parents, but our journey is such that we are meant to discover this for ourselves. We are the ones who need to see our value first.
When a child or even a parent goes no-contact it is always between inner wounded children. So the lack of communication requires the adult parent to seek help first or in addition to the child. This way the parent doesn’t take the child’s stuff personally and can see clearly the support they need.
December 10, 2025 at 1:34 PM
When a child or even a parent goes no-contact it is always between inner wounded children. So the lack of communication requires the adult parent to seek help first or in addition to the child. This way the parent doesn’t take the child’s stuff personally and can see clearly the support they need.
Our secrets are shame or a feeling of worthlessness. No amount of power will numb the shame you feel when you don’t live authentically. None. So many have tried and failed. Pdiddy, jedgarhoover, Epstein, etc
December 9, 2025 at 1:38 PM
Our secrets are shame or a feeling of worthlessness. No amount of power will numb the shame you feel when you don’t live authentically. None. So many have tried and failed. Pdiddy, jedgarhoover, Epstein, etc
There is a part of us that wants to accomplish big things and a part of us that is afraid that we are worthless. Until we can understand the part that feels worthless. We have to stay put until all of our parts are ready.
December 8, 2025 at 1:32 PM
There is a part of us that wants to accomplish big things and a part of us that is afraid that we are worthless. Until we can understand the part that feels worthless. We have to stay put until all of our parts are ready.
You can’t change your mind’s conditioning without first being curious about why it thinks the way it does. Otherwise, you’re learning a bunch of rules and scaring the mind into obeying.
December 5, 2025 at 1:42 PM
You can’t change your mind’s conditioning without first being curious about why it thinks the way it does. Otherwise, you’re learning a bunch of rules and scaring the mind into obeying.
The conditioning that you must always be prepared creates shame for not being ready in all situations. This is impossible. Instead, we must trust ourselves to know that whatever happens, we will be alright. #mentalhealth #anxiety
December 4, 2025 at 1:46 PM
The conditioning that you must always be prepared creates shame for not being ready in all situations. This is impossible. Instead, we must trust ourselves to know that whatever happens, we will be alright. #mentalhealth #anxiety
The romanticized relationship in songs, movies and fantasy can be the model for so many little kids that their unrealistic expectations place them in harms way. This creates false rules of loyalty, second chances and normalized abuse.
December 3, 2025 at 1:45 PM
The romanticized relationship in songs, movies and fantasy can be the model for so many little kids that their unrealistic expectations place them in harms way. This creates false rules of loyalty, second chances and normalized abuse.
You’re ability to keep your external world organized of healthy people, food and practices has to do with how organized your thoughts are. Understanding your feelings easily explains the effort to put something away or the thoughts that come up when you have to put something away. Be curious.
December 2, 2025 at 2:34 PM
You’re ability to keep your external world organized of healthy people, food and practices has to do with how organized your thoughts are. Understanding your feelings easily explains the effort to put something away or the thoughts that come up when you have to put something away. Be curious.
There are nuances to love languages (LL), but critical to loving ourselves as well as others is understanding that the wound of childhood is not being loved in the way we wanted. That becomes the LL. Often times that was the form of abuse as well. Words of affirmation denied by a critical parent.
December 1, 2025 at 1:34 PM
There are nuances to love languages (LL), but critical to loving ourselves as well as others is understanding that the wound of childhood is not being loved in the way we wanted. That becomes the LL. Often times that was the form of abuse as well. Words of affirmation denied by a critical parent.
We suffer because we believe that external measures matter more than our own measures. External measures have been manipulated and manufactured based on someone else’s standard. External criteria deprive you of getting to know yourself and your unique contribution. #mentalhealth
November 28, 2025 at 1:31 PM
We suffer because we believe that external measures matter more than our own measures. External measures have been manipulated and manufactured based on someone else’s standard. External criteria deprive you of getting to know yourself and your unique contribution. #mentalhealth
It’s just another day. We have an opportunity to be compassionate towards ourselves, which allows us to have compassion for others.
November 27, 2025 at 1:30 PM
It’s just another day. We have an opportunity to be compassionate towards ourselves, which allows us to have compassion for others.
We are connected in our suffering. When we see our suffering, it is validation that what we experienced happened. This allows us to know we matter. Once you can see the importance of this for yourself. It is easier to see how others need the same validation for their suffering.
November 26, 2025 at 1:37 PM
We are connected in our suffering. When we see our suffering, it is validation that what we experienced happened. This allows us to know we matter. Once you can see the importance of this for yourself. It is easier to see how others need the same validation for their suffering.