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I find the idea of Worship to be a strangely impersonal thing to want in one’s relationship with A God. I’ve always hoped The Divine took as much joy in me as I’ve taken in Them.
Seen in Harlem. Anyone know the story behind this?
January 10, 2026 at 11:54 PM
Seen in Harlem. Anyone know the story behind this?
SW 3/2 (Fuck numbers)
I’ve loved all ten years of my career. That doesn’t mean I have solutions to suffering. It does mean I am making the choice to make my own life worse because some people don’t get a choice at all. Miracles are fantasy. Showing up is the most humans can do.
I’ve loved all ten years of my career. That doesn’t mean I have solutions to suffering. It does mean I am making the choice to make my own life worse because some people don’t get a choice at all. Miracles are fantasy. Showing up is the most humans can do.
January 10, 2026 at 11:53 PM
SW 3/2 (Fuck numbers)
I’ve loved all ten years of my career. That doesn’t mean I have solutions to suffering. It does mean I am making the choice to make my own life worse because some people don’t get a choice at all. Miracles are fantasy. Showing up is the most humans can do.
I’ve loved all ten years of my career. That doesn’t mean I have solutions to suffering. It does mean I am making the choice to make my own life worse because some people don’t get a choice at all. Miracles are fantasy. Showing up is the most humans can do.
SW 2/2
But witnessing human pain sucks. It’s not emotionally rewarding, it is emotionally punishing. And it never ends and will never end for your whole career. Showing up when things are shitty means living in that sort of shit. You don’t fight to win, you fight to show up tomorrow.
But witnessing human pain sucks. It’s not emotionally rewarding, it is emotionally punishing. And it never ends and will never end for your whole career. Showing up when things are shitty means living in that sort of shit. You don’t fight to win, you fight to show up tomorrow.
January 10, 2026 at 11:51 PM
SW 2/2
But witnessing human pain sucks. It’s not emotionally rewarding, it is emotionally punishing. And it never ends and will never end for your whole career. Showing up when things are shitty means living in that sort of shit. You don’t fight to win, you fight to show up tomorrow.
But witnessing human pain sucks. It’s not emotionally rewarding, it is emotionally punishing. And it never ends and will never end for your whole career. Showing up when things are shitty means living in that sort of shit. You don’t fight to win, you fight to show up tomorrow.
SW 1/2
Social Work is both better and way worse than most people think. On the one hand your job isn’t actually to fix people’s problems. You try assist better choices, you provide support and hold space. But you don’t control then and no one expects you to produce miracles.
Social Work is both better and way worse than most people think. On the one hand your job isn’t actually to fix people’s problems. You try assist better choices, you provide support and hold space. But you don’t control then and no one expects you to produce miracles.
January 10, 2026 at 11:48 PM
SW 1/2
Social Work is both better and way worse than most people think. On the one hand your job isn’t actually to fix people’s problems. You try assist better choices, you provide support and hold space. But you don’t control then and no one expects you to produce miracles.
Social Work is both better and way worse than most people think. On the one hand your job isn’t actually to fix people’s problems. You try assist better choices, you provide support and hold space. But you don’t control then and no one expects you to produce miracles.
The first thing I saw when I woke up today
January 10, 2026 at 11:45 PM
The first thing I saw when I woke up today
“You can’t subsist on coffee alone.”
“I’m not trying to, haven’t you ever heard of spite?”
A frequent conversation with my staff.
“I’m not trying to, haven’t you ever heard of spite?”
A frequent conversation with my staff.
January 10, 2026 at 11:14 PM
“You can’t subsist on coffee alone.”
“I’m not trying to, haven’t you ever heard of spite?”
A frequent conversation with my staff.
“I’m not trying to, haven’t you ever heard of spite?”
A frequent conversation with my staff.
Magic 12/12
The story of a human life cannot function as a science. Telling any of our stories even just to ourselves is an art. And magic is the medium where that art takes place and that story gets to live.
The story of a human life cannot function as a science. Telling any of our stories even just to ourselves is an art. And magic is the medium where that art takes place and that story gets to live.
December 31, 2025 at 10:58 AM
Magic 12/12
The story of a human life cannot function as a science. Telling any of our stories even just to ourselves is an art. And magic is the medium where that art takes place and that story gets to live.
The story of a human life cannot function as a science. Telling any of our stories even just to ourselves is an art. And magic is the medium where that art takes place and that story gets to live.
Magic 11/?
These are places and times that have been magic to me, and given me what I needed to live with them. I wouldn’t expect that magic to function for people outside of those situations but no one’s experience should have to be the same as anyone else’s in order for it to have meaning.
These are places and times that have been magic to me, and given me what I needed to live with them. I wouldn’t expect that magic to function for people outside of those situations but no one’s experience should have to be the same as anyone else’s in order for it to have meaning.
December 31, 2025 at 10:57 AM
Magic 11/?
These are places and times that have been magic to me, and given me what I needed to live with them. I wouldn’t expect that magic to function for people outside of those situations but no one’s experience should have to be the same as anyone else’s in order for it to have meaning.
These are places and times that have been magic to me, and given me what I needed to live with them. I wouldn’t expect that magic to function for people outside of those situations but no one’s experience should have to be the same as anyone else’s in order for it to have meaning.
Magic 10/?
Communicating to students how much the field has hurt me, and how much it is going to hurt them and finding a way to offer them a path forward if that is something they are willing to live with; while being absolutely clear that doing so is their decision.
Communicating to students how much the field has hurt me, and how much it is going to hurt them and finding a way to offer them a path forward if that is something they are willing to live with; while being absolutely clear that doing so is their decision.
December 31, 2025 at 10:53 AM
Magic 10/?
Communicating to students how much the field has hurt me, and how much it is going to hurt them and finding a way to offer them a path forward if that is something they are willing to live with; while being absolutely clear that doing so is their decision.
Communicating to students how much the field has hurt me, and how much it is going to hurt them and finding a way to offer them a path forward if that is something they are willing to live with; while being absolutely clear that doing so is their decision.
Magic 9/?
Beginning to work with someone who struggles with an addiction that you just watched kill someone else you really cared about. Making the choice to be involved even if it doesn’t change the outcome. Becoming practiced in the skill of being broken hearted.
Beginning to work with someone who struggles with an addiction that you just watched kill someone else you really cared about. Making the choice to be involved even if it doesn’t change the outcome. Becoming practiced in the skill of being broken hearted.
December 31, 2025 at 10:47 AM
Magic 9/?
Beginning to work with someone who struggles with an addiction that you just watched kill someone else you really cared about. Making the choice to be involved even if it doesn’t change the outcome. Becoming practiced in the skill of being broken hearted.
Beginning to work with someone who struggles with an addiction that you just watched kill someone else you really cared about. Making the choice to be involved even if it doesn’t change the outcome. Becoming practiced in the skill of being broken hearted.
Magic 8/?
Being helpless, being powerless, having to witness suffering but being unable to change or prevent it. Smashing one’s heart against the wall of mortal limitations, night after night and still deciding each morning to make that a part of one’s life.
Being helpless, being powerless, having to witness suffering but being unable to change or prevent it. Smashing one’s heart against the wall of mortal limitations, night after night and still deciding each morning to make that a part of one’s life.
December 31, 2025 at 10:37 AM
Magic 8/?
Being helpless, being powerless, having to witness suffering but being unable to change or prevent it. Smashing one’s heart against the wall of mortal limitations, night after night and still deciding each morning to make that a part of one’s life.
Being helpless, being powerless, having to witness suffering but being unable to change or prevent it. Smashing one’s heart against the wall of mortal limitations, night after night and still deciding each morning to make that a part of one’s life.
Magic 7/?
Crying with that young man’s mother because he hadn’t killed himself but had descended so far into his psychosis that he couldn’t recognize her; when she told me that she was glad that at least he could see a world that he belonged in even if it wasn’t one his family could be a part of.
Crying with that young man’s mother because he hadn’t killed himself but had descended so far into his psychosis that he couldn’t recognize her; when she told me that she was glad that at least he could see a world that he belonged in even if it wasn’t one his family could be a part of.
December 31, 2025 at 10:34 AM
Magic 7/?
Crying with that young man’s mother because he hadn’t killed himself but had descended so far into his psychosis that he couldn’t recognize her; when she told me that she was glad that at least he could see a world that he belonged in even if it wasn’t one his family could be a part of.
Crying with that young man’s mother because he hadn’t killed himself but had descended so far into his psychosis that he couldn’t recognize her; when she told me that she was glad that at least he could see a world that he belonged in even if it wasn’t one his family could be a part of.
Magic 6/?
A very dark night where I sat on a stoop in the cold lit a candle and begged any entity that might have been listening to somehow prevent a young man from killing himself when nothing I could do would control his actions or mitigate his pain.
A very dark night where I sat on a stoop in the cold lit a candle and begged any entity that might have been listening to somehow prevent a young man from killing himself when nothing I could do would control his actions or mitigate his pain.
December 31, 2025 at 10:30 AM
Magic 6/?
A very dark night where I sat on a stoop in the cold lit a candle and begged any entity that might have been listening to somehow prevent a young man from killing himself when nothing I could do would control his actions or mitigate his pain.
A very dark night where I sat on a stoop in the cold lit a candle and begged any entity that might have been listening to somehow prevent a young man from killing himself when nothing I could do would control his actions or mitigate his pain.
Magic 5/?
The sense of peace in watching the street lights of the City change with no one else around at 3am.
The quiet despair of having a client go missing and having exhausted every mundane way of looking.
Sitting with the pain of others when it isn’t required. When you know it’s a choice.
The sense of peace in watching the street lights of the City change with no one else around at 3am.
The quiet despair of having a client go missing and having exhausted every mundane way of looking.
Sitting with the pain of others when it isn’t required. When you know it’s a choice.
December 31, 2025 at 10:29 AM
Magic 5/?
The sense of peace in watching the street lights of the City change with no one else around at 3am.
The quiet despair of having a client go missing and having exhausted every mundane way of looking.
Sitting with the pain of others when it isn’t required. When you know it’s a choice.
The sense of peace in watching the street lights of the City change with no one else around at 3am.
The quiet despair of having a client go missing and having exhausted every mundane way of looking.
Sitting with the pain of others when it isn’t required. When you know it’s a choice.
Magic 4/?
And I don’t need that answer to be universal or even functional in anyone else’s life for it to be important to me. It’s okay for people to be different and to need different things, so experience of stories and subjectivity should have that context. For me magic is…
And I don’t need that answer to be universal or even functional in anyone else’s life for it to be important to me. It’s okay for people to be different and to need different things, so experience of stories and subjectivity should have that context. For me magic is…
December 31, 2025 at 10:23 AM
Magic 4/?
And I don’t need that answer to be universal or even functional in anyone else’s life for it to be important to me. It’s okay for people to be different and to need different things, so experience of stories and subjectivity should have that context. For me magic is…
And I don’t need that answer to be universal or even functional in anyone else’s life for it to be important to me. It’s okay for people to be different and to need different things, so experience of stories and subjectivity should have that context. For me magic is…
Magic 3/?
And now a decade into being a social worker, I think my definition has become more expansive and also more specific. I would now answer the question of “What is Magic?” With the question of “What is it that you need it to be?” Because I can answer the latter question only for myself.
And now a decade into being a social worker, I think my definition has become more expansive and also more specific. I would now answer the question of “What is Magic?” With the question of “What is it that you need it to be?” Because I can answer the latter question only for myself.
December 31, 2025 at 10:19 AM
Magic 3/?
And now a decade into being a social worker, I think my definition has become more expansive and also more specific. I would now answer the question of “What is Magic?” With the question of “What is it that you need it to be?” Because I can answer the latter question only for myself.
And now a decade into being a social worker, I think my definition has become more expansive and also more specific. I would now answer the question of “What is Magic?” With the question of “What is it that you need it to be?” Because I can answer the latter question only for myself.
Magic 2/?
In my early adulthood I used the definition “Magic is things that cannot actually be measured or replicated in a controlled laboratory setting”, which wasn’t a contradiction to my childhood view of magic as stories, but had a touch of plausible deniability that I needed at the time.
In my early adulthood I used the definition “Magic is things that cannot actually be measured or replicated in a controlled laboratory setting”, which wasn’t a contradiction to my childhood view of magic as stories, but had a touch of plausible deniability that I needed at the time.
December 31, 2025 at 10:15 AM
Magic 2/?
In my early adulthood I used the definition “Magic is things that cannot actually be measured or replicated in a controlled laboratory setting”, which wasn’t a contradiction to my childhood view of magic as stories, but had a touch of plausible deniability that I needed at the time.
In my early adulthood I used the definition “Magic is things that cannot actually be measured or replicated in a controlled laboratory setting”, which wasn’t a contradiction to my childhood view of magic as stories, but had a touch of plausible deniability that I needed at the time.
Magic 1/?
Never in my whole life have I not believed in magic. I never grew out of it and having hit my mid-thirties I don’t think I’m going to. But that’s not to say that my experience of it has been the same throughout my life. As a child it was deeply rooted in stories written, spoken or felt.
Never in my whole life have I not believed in magic. I never grew out of it and having hit my mid-thirties I don’t think I’m going to. But that’s not to say that my experience of it has been the same throughout my life. As a child it was deeply rooted in stories written, spoken or felt.
December 31, 2025 at 10:11 AM
Magic 1/?
Never in my whole life have I not believed in magic. I never grew out of it and having hit my mid-thirties I don’t think I’m going to. But that’s not to say that my experience of it has been the same throughout my life. As a child it was deeply rooted in stories written, spoken or felt.
Never in my whole life have I not believed in magic. I never grew out of it and having hit my mid-thirties I don’t think I’m going to. But that’s not to say that my experience of it has been the same throughout my life. As a child it was deeply rooted in stories written, spoken or felt.
Me: Yeah my cat seems to think I’m her mother it’s the weirdest thing.
Also me, while cradling my cat: You’re my baby! I birthed you from my womb!
Also me, while cradling my cat: You’re my baby! I birthed you from my womb!
December 29, 2025 at 3:32 PM
Me: Yeah my cat seems to think I’m her mother it’s the weirdest thing.
Also me, while cradling my cat: You’re my baby! I birthed you from my womb!
Also me, while cradling my cat: You’re my baby! I birthed you from my womb!
Tough talks 4/4
Working with this sort of issue is hard and painful. No one should have to do it and it’s very normal not to want to make your own experience shittier. But maybe, if you aren’t in a place where you can take more on more pain, then don’t engage with topics about other people’s pain.
Working with this sort of issue is hard and painful. No one should have to do it and it’s very normal not to want to make your own experience shittier. But maybe, if you aren’t in a place where you can take more on more pain, then don’t engage with topics about other people’s pain.
September 5, 2025 at 11:07 AM
Tough talks 4/4
Working with this sort of issue is hard and painful. No one should have to do it and it’s very normal not to want to make your own experience shittier. But maybe, if you aren’t in a place where you can take more on more pain, then don’t engage with topics about other people’s pain.
Working with this sort of issue is hard and painful. No one should have to do it and it’s very normal not to want to make your own experience shittier. But maybe, if you aren’t in a place where you can take more on more pain, then don’t engage with topics about other people’s pain.
Tough talks 3/?
No one thinks this is a good idea because they actually have the experience of doing it and it immediately helping someone get sober. People think this is a good idea because it feels good to tell other people off. Which is actually completely unrelated to addiction.
No one thinks this is a good idea because they actually have the experience of doing it and it immediately helping someone get sober. People think this is a good idea because it feels good to tell other people off. Which is actually completely unrelated to addiction.
September 5, 2025 at 11:03 AM
Tough talks 3/?
No one thinks this is a good idea because they actually have the experience of doing it and it immediately helping someone get sober. People think this is a good idea because it feels good to tell other people off. Which is actually completely unrelated to addiction.
No one thinks this is a good idea because they actually have the experience of doing it and it immediately helping someone get sober. People think this is a good idea because it feels good to tell other people off. Which is actually completely unrelated to addiction.
Tough talks 2/?
And it’s amazing how much stock is constantly put into the idea of having a “tough talk” with people who are living with addiction. It is literally never helpful, but it’s the most common thing that people who don’t actually do this work tell me I should try.
And it’s amazing how much stock is constantly put into the idea of having a “tough talk” with people who are living with addiction. It is literally never helpful, but it’s the most common thing that people who don’t actually do this work tell me I should try.
September 5, 2025 at 11:01 AM
Tough talks 2/?
And it’s amazing how much stock is constantly put into the idea of having a “tough talk” with people who are living with addiction. It is literally never helpful, but it’s the most common thing that people who don’t actually do this work tell me I should try.
And it’s amazing how much stock is constantly put into the idea of having a “tough talk” with people who are living with addiction. It is literally never helpful, but it’s the most common thing that people who don’t actually do this work tell me I should try.
Tough talks 1/?
I think a lot about how the most common ways that we deal with human suffering tend to be mostly about making that idea more comfortable for the people who are not actively suffering. For example, I’ve worked either directly with or in areas involving substance use for a a decade.
I think a lot about how the most common ways that we deal with human suffering tend to be mostly about making that idea more comfortable for the people who are not actively suffering. For example, I’ve worked either directly with or in areas involving substance use for a a decade.
September 5, 2025 at 10:56 AM
Tough talks 1/?
I think a lot about how the most common ways that we deal with human suffering tend to be mostly about making that idea more comfortable for the people who are not actively suffering. For example, I’ve worked either directly with or in areas involving substance use for a a decade.
I think a lot about how the most common ways that we deal with human suffering tend to be mostly about making that idea more comfortable for the people who are not actively suffering. For example, I’ve worked either directly with or in areas involving substance use for a a decade.
So maybe it’s a better strategy for the left to give more focus to the fucked up ways the people on the right treat others in relationships than the response that people have to being treated that way, totally isolated from what they are responding to?
Conservatives have been very successful politically in recent years by targeting groups of people with hate. Which is a historically very effective political strategy, in kind of a lot of situations that did not end well. Trump didn’t win by being nicer, and we won’t beat him by being nicer to him.
This often looks like:
L: Hey, I don’t love having abusive things said about me and my loved ones, could you not do that?”
C: I know that’s hurtful and I will continue to do it anyway.
L: Okay. I don’t want to be around that. And so I’m going to spend less time around you.
C: Intolerance!
L: Hey, I don’t love having abusive things said about me and my loved ones, could you not do that?”
C: I know that’s hurtful and I will continue to do it anyway.
L: Okay. I don’t want to be around that. And so I’m going to spend less time around you.
C: Intolerance!
September 5, 2025 at 9:08 AM
So maybe it’s a better strategy for the left to give more focus to the fucked up ways the people on the right treat others in relationships than the response that people have to being treated that way, totally isolated from what they are responding to?
Conservatives have been very successful politically in recent years by targeting groups of people with hate. Which is a historically very effective political strategy, in kind of a lot of situations that did not end well. Trump didn’t win by being nicer, and we won’t beat him by being nicer to him.
This often looks like:
L: Hey, I don’t love having abusive things said about me and my loved ones, could you not do that?”
C: I know that’s hurtful and I will continue to do it anyway.
L: Okay. I don’t want to be around that. And so I’m going to spend less time around you.
C: Intolerance!
L: Hey, I don’t love having abusive things said about me and my loved ones, could you not do that?”
C: I know that’s hurtful and I will continue to do it anyway.
L: Okay. I don’t want to be around that. And so I’m going to spend less time around you.
C: Intolerance!
I think often people don’t really think about the context of cutting someone out of their life. No one does it for fun. I ended a friendship with a conservative in 2020 after she told me she hoped my mother got shot in the face by a police officer for attending a protest. That’s a common situation.
September 5, 2025 at 8:59 AM
Conservatives have been very successful politically in recent years by targeting groups of people with hate. Which is a historically very effective political strategy, in kind of a lot of situations that did not end well. Trump didn’t win by being nicer, and we won’t beat him by being nicer to him.