We already had the exclusivity convo—once, with clarity. No loopholes. No hedging. Could we revisit it? Sure. But tonight we’re making dinner. Healing from chaos, choosing steadiness. Building a stable love in a world that still romanticizes the empty chase.

#QueerMonogamy #WilderWithin

A Mother’s Day reminder:
Mothering isn’t gendered—it’s a rhythm of care. Many of us were failed or shaped by many mothers. Some of us are learning to be our own.

Swaddle your inner Little One in tenderness today. 💐
#SelfParenting #MothersDay #WilderWithin

There’s nothing radical about more partners, less clarity, and repeated harm.

Monogamous (mostly) isn’t a purity test—it’s a devotion practice.

Depth > drama.
Honesty > performance.

Secure, conscious love isn’t boring. It’s brave.

#QueerMonogamy #WilderOpinion #SlowLove

Someday we’ll talk about how coercive polyamory/NM among cis gay/queer/bi men often weaponizes sex to avoid intimacy—and reenacts harm.

Slowed-down, emotionally present love isn’t mononormative—it’s protective.

Cis queer men can, & should, do better.
#WilderOpinion #QueerRelating #RelationalEthics

Sure, flirt a little—compliment the boots, laugh a lil too long at the bartender’s joke.

But if you’re auditioning for your next “just in case,” I’ll take the check.

Queer, mature, & mostly monogamous means consistent presence, not plausible deniability.
#QueerMonogamy #WilderWithin

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Healing isn’t just about surviving. It’s about embracing the wilderness within—the parts of you that thrive beyond rigid institutions, cultural systems, and family expectations that police who you’re allowed to be. #Wilder #LiberatoryHealing #Therapy #CPTSD #Somatic 1/6

✨ Introduction time! I’m PatrickLyra (Patrick + Lie-rah) Wilder, a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in somatic psychotherapy private practice. My work centers trauma integration, LGBTQIA2s+ identity formation, neurodivergence... 1/3

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