And if your reaction to KNOWING you are harming your child to that degree is
- defensiveness / denial
- rage
- that this is “selfish/ungrateful”

in *most* cases: why isn’t it pain? what would happen if it was?
was what was asked of YOU fair? did you ever talk to your family about it?

If despite most of what’s frankly an unusually individualistic culture frowning on it, your kid has had to choose TO ESSENTIALLY NOT HAVE A PARENT bc they’re actively less healthy when you’re in their life, it’s worrisome yes - it’s a big flag to examine *your* past choices and consider therapy.

Weird but true (ok not THAT weird if you know me), I discovered this store via a ‘does anyone know where that shirt is from??’ tangent about a pic of Julien Baker
and have not been disappointed with any of the email i get.

Some others of my faves of theirs: (there are SO many. And some I’m not naming as faves bc it’s not my place to re/claim f*g & related …but they’re incredibly good/strong/funny)

Weird but true (ok not THAT weird if you know me), I discovered this store via a ‘does anyone know where that shirt is from??’ tangent about a pic of Julien Baker
and have not been disappointed with any of the email i get.

Some others of my faves of theirs: (there are SO many. And some I’m not naming as faves bc it’s not my place to re/claim f*g & related …but they’re incredibly good/strong/funny)

What a cool exercise! Turned out looking amazing.

Like, ofc I'm defensive of neurodivergent ppl, esp autistic kids, being used as a boogieman -- but that's not new.

Using the fear of having an autistic kid (or "making your kid autistic" -- that implicit blame in 'don't do X, it'll cause Y'!) as an *excuse* to deny people care is just WORSE.

Yeah, my viewpoint is admittedly biased by my personal experience being agreed with by a house full of people who have chronic pain and can't take most NSAIDs. Everyone will differ.

But yeah, that (lack of a link) was my REAL point, and THAT (taking away relief) is the shittiest upshot.

That’s fair, I didn’t mean to imply that it’s not important that people be able to take it, which it IS.

… actually I’m gonna repost you bc I don’t want that to be a takeaway of me being snarky.

Which, like. As someone with ADHD and (…a shitty neuropsych evaluator I can anti-recommend? it’s a story),
…there are a lot of crossovers there anyway

But also, there are a lot of problems with many of the studies, the main one being that almost none evaluate the mothers for much at all.

Yeaaah. As with most “oh no, it’s going to give my child autism” causes 🙄

(also, the MAIN neurological result that even the ‘these papers are pretty confident for no one being able to reproduce their results/having obvious confounding variables’ studies report are ADHD-like symptoms…)

It is really weird that it's like. Mattresses, cars, and furniture. Aside from back to school stuff. Clothes I guess, but mostly from sites that have sales all the time. I guess the other ones are industries that have fairly pricey and space-consuming inventory and need to offload stuff by Q4.

By 1894, 23 states had made it a state holiday (not all of them in Sept - many, but there was a divide when May Day became a thing), but the US hadn't.

But then Grover Cleveland crushed the Pullman strike with federal troops and had to toss labor a bone. So...

Mattress sales! I mean.