‘…her adoptive mother was an ordained elder at the church.’
‘ a San Diego police officer, a friend of the girl’s adoptive mother, gave the family a wooden paddle that they could use to hit their children.’
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‘ a San Diego police officer, a friend of the girl’s adoptive mother, gave the family a wooden paddle that they could use to hit their children.’
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Two girls, 9 and 11, awarded $31.5m after sister’s California torture death — Guardian US
Arabella McCormack, 11, died after being tortured and starved by adoptive family and police and church failed to intervene
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December 14, 2025 at 2:16 AM
A poem for those who love Jesus, but struggle to see Him beyond culture wars, far-right politics, cult like coercive religion, and copious amounts of church hurt.
I see you. He loves you.
#christian #deconstruction #churchhurt #jesus #poetry #poem #reconstruction #christianity #religioustrauma
I see you. He loves you.
#christian #deconstruction #churchhurt #jesus #poetry #poem #reconstruction #christianity #religioustrauma
December 2, 2025 at 2:06 AM
A poem for those who love Jesus, but struggle to see Him beyond culture wars, far-right politics, cult like coercive religion, and copious amounts of church hurt.
I see you. He loves you.
#christian #deconstruction #churchhurt #jesus #poetry #poem #reconstruction #christianity #religioustrauma
I see you. He loves you.
#christian #deconstruction #churchhurt #jesus #poetry #poem #reconstruction #christianity #religioustrauma
5 ways to radically improve your communication with someone experiencing church hurt:
-Listen far more than you speak.
-Don’t tell them how to feel.
-Ask permission to offer advice before giving it.
-Avoid cheap and easy cliches.
-Resist the reflex to “fix” them.
#churchhurt #churchtrauma
-Listen far more than you speak.
-Don’t tell them how to feel.
-Ask permission to offer advice before giving it.
-Avoid cheap and easy cliches.
-Resist the reflex to “fix” them.
#churchhurt #churchtrauma
November 21, 2025 at 5:57 PM
5 ways to radically improve your communication with someone experiencing church hurt:
-Listen far more than you speak.
-Don’t tell them how to feel.
-Ask permission to offer advice before giving it.
-Avoid cheap and easy cliches.
-Resist the reflex to “fix” them.
#churchhurt #churchtrauma
-Listen far more than you speak.
-Don’t tell them how to feel.
-Ask permission to offer advice before giving it.
-Avoid cheap and easy cliches.
-Resist the reflex to “fix” them.
#churchhurt #churchtrauma
Reminder: If your "church" is a rock concert + a self-help TED talk, it's not an ecclesia. It's a business.
If the "sermon" comforts the comfortable and ignores the suffering, it's not theology. It's a fog machine and a pep talk.
#megachurch #exvangelical #deconstruction #churchhurt #SundayMorning
If the "sermon" comforts the comfortable and ignores the suffering, it's not theology. It's a fog machine and a pep talk.
#megachurch #exvangelical #deconstruction #churchhurt #SundayMorning
November 16, 2025 at 11:27 AM
Reminder: If your "church" is a rock concert + a self-help TED talk, it's not an ecclesia. It's a business.
If the "sermon" comforts the comfortable and ignores the suffering, it's not theology. It's a fog machine and a pep talk.
#megachurch #exvangelical #deconstruction #churchhurt #SundayMorning
If the "sermon" comforts the comfortable and ignores the suffering, it's not theology. It's a fog machine and a pep talk.
#megachurch #exvangelical #deconstruction #churchhurt #SundayMorning
The concept of Original Sin is the most successful, and most evil, marketing tool ever created.
It's a system that convinces you that you're born broken, makes you responsible for your own suffering, and then sells you the only cure.
#sin #dogma #theology #churchhurt #deconstruction #exvangelical
It's a system that convinces you that you're born broken, makes you responsible for your own suffering, and then sells you the only cure.
#sin #dogma #theology #churchhurt #deconstruction #exvangelical
November 9, 2025 at 7:59 PM
The concept of Original Sin is the most successful, and most evil, marketing tool ever created.
It's a system that convinces you that you're born broken, makes you responsible for your own suffering, and then sells you the only cure.
#sin #dogma #theology #churchhurt #deconstruction #exvangelical
It's a system that convinces you that you're born broken, makes you responsible for your own suffering, and then sells you the only cure.
#sin #dogma #theology #churchhurt #deconstruction #exvangelical
The most powerful weapon of control isn't a pulpit; it's the word "sin."
It's the genius move of making you responsible for your own suffering while convincing you that you were born broken.
#sin #theology #churchhurt #deconstruction #exvangelical #dogma #power #beyondthelogos #follow #blogger
It's the genius move of making you responsible for your own suffering while convincing you that you were born broken.
#sin #theology #churchhurt #deconstruction #exvangelical #dogma #power #beyondthelogos #follow #blogger
November 8, 2025 at 8:17 PM
The most powerful weapon of control isn't a pulpit; it's the word "sin."
It's the genius move of making you responsible for your own suffering while convincing you that you were born broken.
#sin #theology #churchhurt #deconstruction #exvangelical #dogma #power #beyondthelogos #follow #blogger
It's the genius move of making you responsible for your own suffering while convincing you that you were born broken.
#sin #theology #churchhurt #deconstruction #exvangelical #dogma #power #beyondthelogos #follow #blogger
The modern church isn't a hospital for the broken; it's a country club for the "blessed."
It's built to comfort the comfortable and is terrified of anyone who is actually suffering.
#churchhurt #deconstruction #exvangelical #theology #failureofthemodernchurch
It's built to comfort the comfortable and is terrified of anyone who is actually suffering.
#churchhurt #deconstruction #exvangelical #theology #failureofthemodernchurch
November 8, 2025 at 1:40 AM
The modern church isn't a hospital for the broken; it's a country club for the "blessed."
It's built to comfort the comfortable and is terrified of anyone who is actually suffering.
#churchhurt #deconstruction #exvangelical #theology #failureofthemodernchurch
It's built to comfort the comfortable and is terrified of anyone who is actually suffering.
#churchhurt #deconstruction #exvangelical #theology #failureofthemodernchurch
The modern church isn't a hospital for the broken; it's a country club for the "blessed."
It's built to comfort the comfortable and is terrified of anyone who is actually suffering.
#churchhurt #deconstruction #exvangelical #theology #failureofthemodernchurch
It's built to comfort the comfortable and is terrified of anyone who is actually suffering.
#churchhurt #deconstruction #exvangelical #theology #failureofthemodernchurch
November 7, 2025 at 10:02 PM
The modern church isn't a hospital for the broken; it's a country club for the "blessed."
It's built to comfort the comfortable and is terrified of anyone who is actually suffering.
#churchhurt #deconstruction #exvangelical #theology #failureofthemodernchurch
It's built to comfort the comfortable and is terrified of anyone who is actually suffering.
#churchhurt #deconstruction #exvangelical #theology #failureofthemodernchurch
The problem of evil isn't a "test of faith." It's a gaping, unanswerable wound.
Any "answer" that begins with "It's all part of God's plan..." is just a pious insult to the person who is actually suffering.
#problemifevil #theodicy #theology #suffering #deconstruction #churchhurt
Any "answer" that begins with "It's all part of God's plan..." is just a pious insult to the person who is actually suffering.
#problemifevil #theodicy #theology #suffering #deconstruction #churchhurt
November 7, 2025 at 7:30 PM
The problem of evil isn't a "test of faith." It's a gaping, unanswerable wound.
Any "answer" that begins with "It's all part of God's plan..." is just a pious insult to the person who is actually suffering.
#problemifevil #theodicy #theology #suffering #deconstruction #churchhurt
Any "answer" that begins with "It's all part of God's plan..." is just a pious insult to the person who is actually suffering.
#problemifevil #theodicy #theology #suffering #deconstruction #churchhurt
People who want a "clean" and "gentle" faith have clearly never actually read the Bible.
The scariest, most brutal horror stories I've ever read are Pet Sematary and the book of Judges.
#theology #horror #bible #deconstruction #churchhurt
The scariest, most brutal horror stories I've ever read are Pet Sematary and the book of Judges.
#theology #horror #bible #deconstruction #churchhurt
November 6, 2025 at 9:38 PM
People who want a "clean" and "gentle" faith have clearly never actually read the Bible.
The scariest, most brutal horror stories I've ever read are Pet Sematary and the book of Judges.
#theology #horror #bible #deconstruction #churchhurt
The scariest, most brutal horror stories I've ever read are Pet Sematary and the book of Judges.
#theology #horror #bible #deconstruction #churchhurt
When did "church" first start to feel more like a business to you?
#deconstruction #exvangelical #churchhurt #megachurch
#deconstruction #exvangelical #churchhurt #megachurch
November 6, 2025 at 4:33 PM
When did "church" first start to feel more like a business to you?
#deconstruction #exvangelical #churchhurt #megachurch
#deconstruction #exvangelical #churchhurt #megachurch
The modern church chose the theological map over the human territory.
In the end, it lost both.
#theology #deconstruction #churchhurt #exvangelical #Christianity #religion #blog #logos #church
In the end, it lost both.
#theology #deconstruction #churchhurt #exvangelical #Christianity #religion #blog #logos #church
November 6, 2025 at 4:14 PM
The modern church chose the theological map over the human territory.
In the end, it lost both.
#theology #deconstruction #churchhurt #exvangelical #Christianity #religion #blog #logos #church
In the end, it lost both.
#theology #deconstruction #churchhurt #exvangelical #Christianity #religion #blog #logos #church
The hardest part of losing faith isn't losing God; it's losing the community. The Church failed to provide love during grief and traded compassion for doctrine. That betrayal is the real shame.
Follow for the full academic critique of institutional failure.
#ChurchHurt #Agnostic #Theology #Sunday
Follow for the full academic critique of institutional failure.
#ChurchHurt #Agnostic #Theology #Sunday
November 2, 2025 at 12:25 PM
The hardest part of losing faith isn't losing God; it's losing the community. The Church failed to provide love during grief and traded compassion for doctrine. That betrayal is the real shame.
Follow for the full academic critique of institutional failure.
#ChurchHurt #Agnostic #Theology #Sunday
Follow for the full academic critique of institutional failure.
#ChurchHurt #Agnostic #Theology #Sunday
#RTS #religioustraumasyndrome #ReligiousTrauma #Deconstructing #Exvangelical #FaithDeconstruction #ReligiousHarm #SpiritualAbuse #ChurchHurt #DogmaFree
October 31, 2025 at 12:21 AM
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parental alienation recovery, #narcissisticabusesurvivor, #post-traumaticgrowth, #ChurchHurt #FamilyEnmeshment, #SevereParentalAlienation, #ParentalAlienation #PASCoaching #Blacktraumahealing, #Trauma-InformedCoaching, #Faith-Basedrecovery, #CPTSDEmpowerment
parental alienation recovery, #narcissisticabusesurvivor, #post-traumaticgrowth, #ChurchHurt #FamilyEnmeshment, #SevereParentalAlienation, #ParentalAlienation #PASCoaching #Blacktraumahealing, #Trauma-InformedCoaching, #Faith-Basedrecovery, #CPTSDEmpowerment
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October 27, 2025 at 3:25 PM
Churches can invite people to the shallow end but need to encourage them to deeper waters #church #eyesonjesus #discernment #community #god #atheist #faith #spiritual #churchhurt #churchlife
October 21, 2025 at 10:02 PM
Churches can invite people to the shallow end but need to encourage them to deeper waters #church #eyesonjesus #discernment #community #god #atheist #faith #spiritual #churchhurt #churchlife
Disgraced #MegaChurch pastor #RobertMorris pleaded guilty to #SexualAbuse of a child.
#Evangelicals #ChurchHurt #ChurchAbuse
#Evangelicals #ChurchHurt #ChurchAbuse
The founder of a Texas megachurch who resigned last year after a woman in Oklahoma accused the pastor of sexually abusing her in the 1980s pleaded guilty to five counts of lewd and indecent acts with a child, authorities said.
Texas megachurch founder pleads guilty to child sex abuse charges
Authorities say the founder of a Texas megachurch has pleaded guilty to lewd and indecent acts with a child after he was accused of sexually abusing a young girl in the 1980s in Oklahoma while he was a traveling minister.
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October 2, 2025 at 11:23 PM
Disgraced #MegaChurch pastor #RobertMorris pleaded guilty to #SexualAbuse of a child.
#Evangelicals #ChurchHurt #ChurchAbuse
#Evangelicals #ChurchHurt #ChurchAbuse
It's already been said by many other people, but speaking from experience, the church will use the threat of your mortality to get you to acquiesce. It is abusive. /churchhurt
September 23, 2025 at 4:03 PM
It's already been said by many other people, but speaking from experience, the church will use the threat of your mortality to get you to acquiesce. It is abusive. /churchhurt
CHURCH Hurt! #churchhurt #bible #church #christian See the full video on Tiktok at the link below 👇 www.tiktok.com/t/ZTMRMLvyL/
CHURCH Hurt! #churchhurt #bible #church #christian
TikTok video by Frederick Dare
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September 21, 2025 at 2:07 PM
CHURCH Hurt! #churchhurt #bible #church #christian See the full video on Tiktok at the link below 👇 www.tiktok.com/t/ZTMRMLvyL/
“I see him getting away with it.”
Too many are hurt by clergy and told to just trust God.
💬 Talk to someone who gets it: recoveringfromreligion.org
🤝 Volunteer: recoveringfromreligion.org/volunteer
#ChurchHurt #RFR #ReligiousTrauma
Too many are hurt by clergy and told to just trust God.
💬 Talk to someone who gets it: recoveringfromreligion.org
🤝 Volunteer: recoveringfromreligion.org/volunteer
#ChurchHurt #RFR #ReligiousTrauma
September 17, 2025 at 6:32 PM
“I see him getting away with it.”
Too many are hurt by clergy and told to just trust God.
💬 Talk to someone who gets it: recoveringfromreligion.org
🤝 Volunteer: recoveringfromreligion.org/volunteer
#ChurchHurt #RFR #ReligiousTrauma
Too many are hurt by clergy and told to just trust God.
💬 Talk to someone who gets it: recoveringfromreligion.org
🤝 Volunteer: recoveringfromreligion.org/volunteer
#ChurchHurt #RFR #ReligiousTrauma
Many people have walked away from church because of harmful or distorted teachings about God, but deconstruction doesn’t have to mean losing faith. That’s what last night’s discussion @taproomtheology.bsky.social was all about. #toxictheology #churchhurt #deconstruction #reconstruction
September 11, 2025 at 3:07 AM
Many people have walked away from church because of harmful or distorted teachings about God, but deconstruction doesn’t have to mean losing faith. That’s what last night’s discussion @taproomtheology.bsky.social was all about. #toxictheology #churchhurt #deconstruction #reconstruction
If “woke” means standing for love, justice, and truth—then I’ll stay woke.
#FaithNotFear
#StayWoke
#JesusWasRadical
#LoveLikeJesus
#FaithOverReligion
#ChurchHurt
#GodIsLove
#FaithNotFear
#StayWoke
#JesusWasRadical
#LoveLikeJesus
#FaithOverReligion
#ChurchHurt
#GodIsLove
September 8, 2025 at 1:52 PM
If “woke” means standing for love, justice, and truth—then I’ll stay woke.
#FaithNotFear
#StayWoke
#JesusWasRadical
#LoveLikeJesus
#FaithOverReligion
#ChurchHurt
#GodIsLove
#FaithNotFear
#StayWoke
#JesusWasRadical
#LoveLikeJesus
#FaithOverReligion
#ChurchHurt
#GodIsLove
Jesus comes to our lives fully engaged with the hurts of this world. #churchhurt #novachurch #inclusivefaith #jesus #toxictheology #restonchurch #reston
September 2, 2025 at 6:00 PM
Jesus comes to our lives fully engaged with the hurts of this world. #churchhurt #novachurch #inclusivefaith #jesus #toxictheology #restonchurch #reston
📣 New Podcast! "Episode 55 - Feeling Like A Victim (Part 3) - What Safe Leadership Looks Like" on @Spreaker #churchhurt #faith #healing #jesus #ministry #pastorsinrecovery #podcast #recovery #safeleadership #spiritualabuse #victimtovictory
Episode 55 - Feeling Like A Victim (Part 3) - What Safe Leadership Looks Like
Episode 55 - Feeling Like A Victim (Part 3) - What Safe Leadership Looks Like
In this episode of Pastors in Recovery, Jon continues the trilogy on victimhood, spiritual abuse, and safe leadership.
- Episode 53 explored the victim mentality—feeling like a victim when it’s not really abuse.
- Episode 54 addressed spiritual abuse—what it looks like and how it harms pastors and church members.
- And now, in Episode 55, Jon shares stories and reflections on safe leadership: how to recognize it, how to become it, and how to rebuild trust among God’s people.
Jon recalls the influence of his youth pastor, Bones, who modeled Christlike safety through presence, consistency, and love. He also shares a recent story from leading a family memorial service, where the Holy Spirit reminded him that safe leadership is not about performance but about pointing people to Jesus. Note: This episode was recorded while traveling, so you may hear some natural airport background noise during the recording. Safe leadership isn’t about perfection—it’s about being trustworthy, humble, and consistent, just like Jesus.
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August 27, 2025 at 9:03 PM
📣 New Podcast! "Episode 55 - Feeling Like A Victim (Part 3) - What Safe Leadership Looks Like" on @Spreaker #churchhurt #faith #healing #jesus #ministry #pastorsinrecovery #podcast #recovery #safeleadership #spiritualabuse #victimtovictory
August 26, 2025 at 9:09 PM