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IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz

@annavincentz.bsky.social

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Certified IFS Family Therapist: www.annavincentz.dk/english Internal Family Systems (IFS) and New Danish Parenting (NDP) Articles: https://medium.com/@annavincentz Podcast: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/parenting-from-the-inside

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IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Apr 17

In general you can see fear as telling you that something needs attention on the outside (often in the here and now), whereas anxiety shows you what needs attention on the inside, but most often in relation to the outside (past, present or to some degree future).

#IFS #SkyIFS

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IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Apr 13

Deep inside of you there is a story longing to be heard.
When we move towards it, slowly, carefully, respectfully, it will unfold like a flower in bloom; painful, beautiful and vulnerable.
When we listen, truly listen, we begin to heal.

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IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Apr 1

That person you look up to, admire and respect, she's a mirror
Look inside. See what you find. You might just be surprised at what gifts your parts carry.

#SkyIFS #IFS

IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Mar 30

You repeat what is unhealed, not just of your own pain, but the pain of your ancestors and the pain of the world.

IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Mar 29

No, shame is not pleasant, but it's also not something to get rid of - it's something to be with and something that will show you the way to the pain that needs your loving attention.

#SkyIFS #IFS

IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Mar 25

Other people can change
But you cannot change other people

Parts can change
But you cannot change your parts

You can listen
You can witness
You can welcome
You can trust the process

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IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Mar 23

What people don't realise is that what we're all talking about underneath the words, the complaints, the pain, the conflicts, the symptoms, is attachment, relationship, connection; a felt sense of safety and belonging in the world. The rest is just detours.

#SkyIFS #IFS #attachment

IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Mar 20

Only when our parts begin to see, trust and know that there is another way, can they take off their masks and become who they were meant to be. Only then will the fight cease. Inside and out.

#SkyIFS #IFS

IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Mar 18

What if there is actually nothing wrong with you and your reactions make sense based on your experience?

#SkyIFS #IFS

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IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Mar 17

Sometimes it's not reaching out, but reaching in that matters.

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IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Mar 12

It's not either-or. It's self-regulation and co-regulation.

When parts can lean into Self, you can lean out from a different space.

#IFS #SkyIFS

IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Mar 10

Every time you look at me. My heart cracks open.
And I must spend a week or two. Sewing it back up.

#poetry

IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Mar 9

You don't want to be less sensitive, you want to be more regulated.
There's quite a difference.

#SkyIFS #HSP

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IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Mar 8

Seeing our children suffer is one of the hardest things a parent has to do. But children will not always be happy and life is not always easy. What really matters is that we can be with them when they are in pain. That we do not leave.

#consciousparenting
#parentingfromtheinside

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IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Mar 5

That thing you're fighting for out there in the world, see if you can focus it inwards as well.

#IFS #SkyIFS

IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Mar 2

Being Self-led does not mean not having an opinion, being neutral in conflicts, not setting boundaries.

#IFS #SkyIFS

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IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Feb 26

This is more easy to see when it's small roadblocks. The bigger ones are harder to see as having any positive outcomes. At those times, creating even a small space in which to connect inwards; to feel what truly matters, is the first step towards finding you footing and reconnecting with yourself.

IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Feb 23

Bypassing the ego will, for many inner systems, mean to abandon the parts of you that long for healing and connection.
Remember that it's Self and Parts, not just Self. The AND - The connection - is actually what matters most.

#IFS #skyIFS #IFStherapy

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IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Feb 18

Learn to listen. Get curious from your heart and soul. Your parts are so wise, so in need of your connection and so alone.
Create the space for yourself to slow down and to listen inwards. It may just change your life.

#IFStherapy #SkyIFS #IFS

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IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Feb 16

Let hate be an opening towards curiosity and love, not a closing of your humanity.

IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Feb 16

This is where our conscious curiosity comes into play. When we can be curious, really curious about our hate, we meet it with love. This changes everything. And it brings forth the options and the choices of what needs to heal, what needs to come together, what movements need to happen.

IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Feb 16

Hate saves no one. Hate separates and disconnects. Hate destroys inside and outside.
But hate can also be a trailhead; a gateway to what lies underneath, what needs our attention on the inside and what needs our action on the outside.

IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Feb 16

When we begin to feel hate, we must consciously choose curiosity. Inside and out.
It is not easy. It is not going to be fun. But it is necessary.

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IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Feb 13

That part of you that thinks she's not good enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough.
Send her some love today.

#IFS #SkyIFS

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IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz @annavincentz.bsky.social · Feb 11

It's never too late
to say I love you,
to apologize,
to grieve,
to reach out,
to speak for your parts,
to heal the pain of the past,
to connect to your ancestors,
to reconnect with yourSELF

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