Darragh Hayes
@blueridgemere.bsky.social
40, rural Appalachian, your friendly neighborhood transmasc librarian. Generally found writing, reading, trying to play Irish trad music on the guitar, or bumbling around in a video game when I'm not wrangling 2 kiddos.
Seeing as I have 72 days until top surgery, I am getting important plans in place such as making pro/con lists of which origin character (or potential new class of Tav?) to play a BG3 run with during recovery. Any/all advice VERY welcome. Notes of potential importance:
November 1, 2025 at 10:21 PM
Seeing as I have 72 days until top surgery, I am getting important plans in place such as making pro/con lists of which origin character (or potential new class of Tav?) to play a BG3 run with during recovery. Any/all advice VERY welcome. Notes of potential importance:
Amazing brilliant lovely GF styled me in suspenders for SAFF and I have never felt more more "fuck yes, I love being in my body" than yesterday - glowing up in the glow yarn booth 😁
October 27, 2025 at 3:04 PM
Amazing brilliant lovely GF styled me in suspenders for SAFF and I have never felt more more "fuck yes, I love being in my body" than yesterday - glowing up in the glow yarn booth 😁
A kiddo somewhere between the age of 2 and 3 came in the library earlier and immediately yelled "THERE'S A MAN!" and pointed straight at me at the desk and that made up for the 5000 "ma'am"-s and "young lady"-ies I've gotten recently ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you, kiddo, you're my new favorite patron 😁
October 23, 2025 at 2:31 PM
A kiddo somewhere between the age of 2 and 3 came in the library earlier and immediately yelled "THERE'S A MAN!" and pointed straight at me at the desk and that made up for the 5000 "ma'am"-s and "young lady"-ies I've gotten recently ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you, kiddo, you're my new favorite patron 😁
Had my top surgery consult this morning, am scheduled for January 12, gf went with me and we had a lovely date afternoon downtown afterward, AND a random older gentleman in Asheville called me sir - a good, good day 😁
October 15, 2025 at 11:00 PM
Had my top surgery consult this morning, am scheduled for January 12, gf went with me and we had a lovely date afternoon downtown afterward, AND a random older gentleman in Asheville called me sir - a good, good day 😁
GF is watching Shiny Happy People and as she gives me her live thoughts about it I am unpacking my own road from tradwife to transguy and it's blowing my mind.
October 8, 2025 at 1:12 AM
GF is watching Shiny Happy People and as she gives me her live thoughts about it I am unpacking my own road from tradwife to transguy and it's blowing my mind.
A part of me wishes I knew how/had the energy to refute the Scott Newgent videos my mom wakes me up sending me at 6am, but mostly I just wish she... you know... would just stop trying to "convince me to not be" trans.
October 1, 2025 at 11:15 AM
A part of me wishes I knew how/had the energy to refute the Scott Newgent videos my mom wakes me up sending me at 6am, but mostly I just wish she... you know... would just stop trying to "convince me to not be" trans.
9 months on T and I don't care if I have the beard of a 14 year old, it is MINE (my OWN. MY precious.)
September 30, 2025 at 2:06 PM
9 months on T and I don't care if I have the beard of a 14 year old, it is MINE (my OWN. MY precious.)
I made coffee that is doing its best to keep the horrors at bay - took a picture for my gf and damn I feel like a fine-looking man 😁 Found a similar shot from Sept 2019 - wish I had better words to explain what it feels like to see *yourself* in a pic rather than "oh... yeah, I guess that's me"
September 15, 2025 at 12:36 PM
I made coffee that is doing its best to keep the horrors at bay - took a picture for my gf and damn I feel like a fine-looking man 😁 Found a similar shot from Sept 2019 - wish I had better words to explain what it feels like to see *yourself* in a pic rather than "oh... yeah, I guess that's me"
I got pulled over in my own driveway on Sunday night. A cop had followed me two blocks (two turns, one stoplight) home and pulled in behind me to tell me that he would have pulled me over for a ticket if I hadn't stopped at my house because both my taillights were out. Both my taillights are fine. 🧵
September 11, 2025 at 4:52 PM
I got pulled over in my own driveway on Sunday night. A cop had followed me two blocks (two turns, one stoplight) home and pulled in behind me to tell me that he would have pulled me over for a ticket if I hadn't stopped at my house because both my taillights were out. Both my taillights are fine. 🧵
Looking like a pumpkin farmer and a big-city gal in a Hallmark movie and we are 💯 here for those vibes.
August 27, 2025 at 8:53 PM
Looking like a pumpkin farmer and a big-city gal in a Hallmark movie and we are 💯 here for those vibes.
Have to include my name on a slide this week at our annual report and feeling nervous - first time fully outing myself as trans in a public setting, in the rural South, in a library system that lost one of its member libraries this year when said library pulled out of the system over gay books. 🧵
August 26, 2025 at 3:18 PM
Have to include my name on a slide this week at our annual report and feeling nervous - first time fully outing myself as trans in a public setting, in the rural South, in a library system that lost one of its member libraries this year when said library pulled out of the system over gay books. 🧵
I know the niche market for this particular sticker I just got is also at least 50% of my Bluesky folks 😁
August 13, 2025 at 2:30 PM
I know the niche market for this particular sticker I just got is also at least 50% of my Bluesky folks 😁
Cat dad project was a success 🚪 🐈 🐈
August 5, 2025 at 8:56 PM
Cat dad project was a success 🚪 🐈 🐈
One year apart - pre-T vs. 6 months on T 😁😁😁
July 26, 2025 at 5:53 PM
One year apart - pre-T vs. 6 months on T 😁😁😁
Loving the crap out of my face these days 😁
July 26, 2025 at 1:10 AM
Loving the crap out of my face these days 😁
Reposted by Darragh Hayes
Now on Medium
I remixed the parable of the Prodigal Son, specifically for trans people - trans femme, trans masc, and enby versions.
"For this son of mine is dead and my daughter is alive again; he was lost and she is found.’ So they began to celebrate."
💜🏳️⚧️
medium.com/@shelleybwok...
I remixed the parable of the Prodigal Son, specifically for trans people - trans femme, trans masc, and enby versions.
"For this son of mine is dead and my daughter is alive again; he was lost and she is found.’ So they began to celebrate."
💜🏳️⚧️
medium.com/@shelleybwok...
The rest of the story of the Prodigal Transitioned Child
One of the ways I put my seminary training to use is looking at parables through a different lens. Trans people often have strained…
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July 24, 2025 at 2:29 PM
Now on Medium
I remixed the parable of the Prodigal Son, specifically for trans people - trans femme, trans masc, and enby versions.
"For this son of mine is dead and my daughter is alive again; he was lost and she is found.’ So they began to celebrate."
💜🏳️⚧️
medium.com/@shelleybwok...
I remixed the parable of the Prodigal Son, specifically for trans people - trans femme, trans masc, and enby versions.
"For this son of mine is dead and my daughter is alive again; he was lost and she is found.’ So they began to celebrate."
💜🏳️⚧️
medium.com/@shelleybwok...
Got a "ma'am-excuse-me-sir" today AND did a voice check (which I haven't done in a while) wooHOOO it's a good day
July 18, 2025 at 8:06 PM
Got a "ma'am-excuse-me-sir" today AND did a voice check (which I haven't done in a while) wooHOOO it's a good day
Dealing with new insurance BS - my diagnosis code for my T is not one that they will cover but apparently my doc just has to guess at an acceptable code 😑 Luckily my pharmacist is filling it with a discount card - even though it's not the $5 I paid with Aetna, it's better than $400 OOP.
July 16, 2025 at 7:32 PM
Dealing with new insurance BS - my diagnosis code for my T is not one that they will cover but apparently my doc just has to guess at an acceptable code 😑 Luckily my pharmacist is filling it with a discount card - even though it's not the $5 I paid with Aetna, it's better than $400 OOP.
Something I didn't expect about transitioning was how much I enjoy the process of my facial hair. One of the final egg-crack things for me was doing a photo edit where I could see myself with a beard and it hit deep, but I thought the in-between time would feel weird. But it doesn't 🧵
July 16, 2025 at 1:55 PM
Something I didn't expect about transitioning was how much I enjoy the process of my facial hair. One of the final egg-crack things for me was doing a photo edit where I could see myself with a beard and it hit deep, but I thought the in-between time would feel weird. But it doesn't 🧵
I need literally everyone to stop and appreciate the fact that my girlfriend wrote a parody song for her dog to "Part of Your World" entitled "On People Sheets" (because Coco just wants to try out the human bed sheets, not just her on-the-bed blanket) good god I love this woman ❤️
July 14, 2025 at 3:14 PM
I need literally everyone to stop and appreciate the fact that my girlfriend wrote a parody song for her dog to "Part of Your World" entitled "On People Sheets" (because Coco just wants to try out the human bed sheets, not just her on-the-bed blanket) good god I love this woman ❤️
Y'all... I don't have words for how happy I am that she's a part of my life ❤️
June 24, 2025 at 2:26 AM
Y'all... I don't have words for how happy I am that she's a part of my life ❤️
Climbing Mount Dad 😸
June 17, 2025 at 10:01 PM
Climbing Mount Dad 😸
Without downloading any new pics, describe your gender.
June 16, 2025 at 3:36 AM
Without downloading any new pics, describe your gender.
The only king I serve, waiting for his own purrrrrrade:
June 15, 2025 at 11:02 PM
The only king I serve, waiting for his own purrrrrrade:
Mother's Day was one kind of dysphoric, now Father's Day is another - and both of them bit me in the ass unexpectedly this year. Trying to instead focus on the fact that I realized I felt Some Kinda Way, accepted that, and am dealing with it rather than pretending real men don't have feelings?
June 15, 2025 at 9:42 PM
Mother's Day was one kind of dysphoric, now Father's Day is another - and both of them bit me in the ass unexpectedly this year. Trying to instead focus on the fact that I realized I felt Some Kinda Way, accepted that, and am dealing with it rather than pretending real men don't have feelings?