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泛依婷 Stefany Valentine

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I write books⤵️ FIRST LOVE LANGUAGE (Out now!) WHEN WE BECOME OURS (Out now!) LOVE MAKES MOCHI (Feb, 2026)

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泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · May 4

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泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Sep 14

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泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Sep 14

Do you live some where with lots of earthquakes? What do you do during one? I never grew up on earthquake drills lol

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泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Sep 14

Omg that's wild!! Im not used to the number of earthquakes here in Taiwan but I am used to the number of times I've laid down and felt like I was on a boat hahaha so if the room is moving, it's probably my ear lol

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泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Sep 14

Having vertigo in Taiwan means wondering if im experiencing an earthquake or if my inner ear is just being a little shit again 🤷‍♀️

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泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Sep 3

I wasn't much of a tea person before I moved to Taiwan. Now I'm obsessed!! Green tea and oolong are my favorite and that caffeine rush?!?!? Yowza!!

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Aug 30

Its my 3rd week in Taiwan. I just woke up from a dream where my long-distance husband got a boyfriend and honestly, I wasn't mad. I was like "im happy you're exploring this side of yourself" lol

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Aug 25

As an adoptee in reunion, I find myself navigating another dynamic--being the caretaker of an aging mother. I feel like the timing of this reunion has forced me to jump into the deep end without wading in. Now I'm caring for the mother who never got a chance to care for me.

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Aug 24

Yeah I get like this when I'm reading. But the inability to read tends to happen after I've spent a few chapters on a book. Not before I even start reading. That's why this has been freaking me out😬

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Aug 24

Thank you! I appreciate it💖💖

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Aug 24

Like am I getting sick? Am I showing early signs of dementia? I'm familiar with the way my brain works but it's gotten worse lately. What the heck is up with that? I'd it a dyslexia thing or a fatigue thing?

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泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Aug 24

Maybe it has nothing to do with the fact that I'm learning another language and more with the fact that my brain is more exhausted because I'm learning in general. But it's been an observation and it's starting to freak me out.

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泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Aug 24

Im dyslexic. Now that I'm in Taiwan learning Mandarin, my brain does that dyslexia buffer thing more often. Like I know I'm looking at words, but I can't read them. So I have to start my brain engine like 3 times before I can start comprehending what I'm seeing.

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泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Aug 23

Right!! I've been sensing a burst in the hype bubble too! That's a good way of putting it!

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Aug 23

The cutest thing just happened. I taught my bio mom that in America, we say "thick" to mean that someone is fat in a complementary way. A couple days later, she still remembers this and says "my legs are thin but yours are...thick". Its just so freaking amazing to have a biological mom💖💖🥰

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Aug 17

Hot take but what if AI actually brings back critical thinking? We see a fake video online, feel ashamed that we fell for it, then learn to adapt. Learn to question the content we consume. Learn to navigate nuance. Wouldn't that be an unexpected twist?!

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泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Aug 13

It's daytime in the US and nighttime in Taiwan. Getting used to the time zone thing is gunna suuuuuck lol

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Aug 5

I feel so defeated as an adoptee every time I see another viral "we adopted an (insert non white race here) baby" video. Yet when ADOPTEES (not adoptERS) speak up about our real experiences, we get told to shut up, we get called ungrateful, and our stories sure as shit don't go viral.

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泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Aug 1

I think it's cuz adoptees are more triggered by any sort of loss. Like, yes. I found my mom, but to gain everything back, I have to lose all that I had. I can't just be happy. I'm always stuck in this In-between. That's what it means to be an adoptee.

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Aug 1

Yes, getting answers about who I am and where I come from is all I've ever wanted. But I'm also grieving the loss of my home, my spouse, my pups, and my family and friends in the US.

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Aug 1

Moving to Taiwan as an adoptee in reunion comes with so many mixed emotions. Like yes, im excited, but i haven't been this exhausted, numb, sad, and unmotivated in a long time.

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Jul 31

Im a bit of a compression sock ho.
Long car rides?
Compression socks✅️
Flights?
Compression socks✅️
Walking my pup?
Compression socks✅️
Do I have a medical condition that requires me to wear compression socks? Nope. But imma do it anyway lol

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Jul 25

Despite genetically not being a likely candidate for a learning disability, I have dyslexia (and dysgraphia). But it wasn't until I realized that adoptees are 3x more likely to develop a learning disability that I really started to unpackage how deeply adoption trauma has impacted me

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Jul 24

Exciting translation news for FIRST LOVE LANGUAGE?!?!?!

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Jul 22

So im working on book 3 and my spouse just made me realize that the moral of the story im trying to tell is that we need to love our neighbors. Guys. I'm writing the Bible.

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine @booksbystefany.bsky.social · Jul 17

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I'm so excited that I made this YouTube video, but for some reason the video quality sucks?! Oh well, it's still packed with lots of info on how to survive a book tour and working on the video quality gives me something to focus on for my next video!

How to SURVIVE your first BOOK TOUR!

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