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Not Fifi McCaffee
@daddyfarmer.bsky.social
Like Daddy Cop, but different. PNW. Divorced dad. Fur. Used to be known as bear, or bear bear. My life was unmade over the last few years. Now I’m just a Homesteader without a family to homestead with.
My magical familiar. #MaineCoon
November 10, 2025 at 3:09 AM
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November 9, 2025 at 2:22 AM
PSA: you can’t have principle debates or discussions with fascists. All you can do is punch them in the face until they go away.
October 5, 2025 at 4:53 PM
I have a lot of internalized disgust for what I see in a mirror.

Maybe that means that I’m not ready to be social yet? I don’t know.

All I do know is that I don’t want to subject anyone else to someone as gross as me.
September 17, 2025 at 4:20 PM
I wonder if Melissa Hortman and Charlie Kirk are having an interesting conversation in the afterlife.
September 11, 2025 at 5:20 AM
Projecting this out. 1.1 billion dollar loss in the first quarter of the Trump admin. First year 4.4 billion. Year 4: 17.6 billion is losses.

Hope those oligarchs on their board of directors are getting that they are wanted out of the administration they enabled.
July 23, 2025 at 3:54 AM
Rest in Peace Mr. Osbourne. You inspired generations of musicians and changed music as we know it.

Thank you for all the nights as a teen in my bedroom listening to your music. You helped me through a lot of shit.

🖤🥀Thank you. You will be missed. You’ve more than earned your rest 🥀🖤
July 23, 2025 at 3:50 AM
Transmen need kilts.

#ftm and #Transmen - If you think a kilt looks too feminine on you - you’re wearing it waay too low.

Your navel goes under the waist of the kilt - the fabric hangs from the top of your hip-bones and the pleats downplay curves. If it’s accentuating hip bones - it’s too low.
July 22, 2025 at 5:39 PM
All those AI agents really help with cyber security response huh?!

Dolts.
Unknown attackers exploited a vulnerability in Microsoft’s SharePoint collaboration software, breaching government agencies, universities and companies. Microsoft has not issued a patch, prompting a scramble to respond.
Global hack on Microsoft product hits U.S., state agencies, researchers say
Unknown attackers exploited a “significant vulnerability” in Microsoft’s SharePoint collaboration software, hitting targets around the world.
www.washingtonpost.com
July 21, 2025 at 1:30 PM
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Oh.
July 12, 2025 at 3:51 PM
1. I am blind on the left side of my head and this significantly impacts how I take in and react to information.

2. Been to Burning Man 3 times.

3. Own 2 Unimog projects and a decommissioned ambulance

4. Ran a house for wayward girls.
Share a piece of lore about yourself

Yes I stole this from musky folks site…I feel like we’ll get better answers here lol
July 11, 2025 at 12:48 AM
Happy Birthday America. I wish I could be happy for my country - but we are infected with a cancerous form of unchecked capitalism.

Capital has been elevated to a higher importance than people. Growth that’s pursued for growth sake is cancerous. We are riddled with tumors that we call oligarchs.
July 4, 2025 at 6:27 PM
“One of the greatest human failings is the preference of being right rather than being effective.”

This quote struck me this morning and has given me an opportunity to ruminate - thought I’d pass it along.
June 24, 2025 at 3:40 PM
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Recovering from top surgery and every donation counts, thank you for your consideration ❤️‍🩹
gofund.me/cdaf8142
June 18, 2025 at 9:22 PM
Back in the PNW. Apparently I have to be social this summer.

While I do look forward to being social - I do not look forward to having to recount the “wtf happened to you?!” story repeatedly.

I should just summarize with: sometimes the universe hits the “life reset button” for you.
June 18, 2025 at 10:47 PM
Got laid off the day before mom’s funeral. Yay. Wish it didn’t feel like my life was ending too.

#fml
#EverythingIsGoneNow
June 1, 2025 at 10:28 AM
The closer I get to 50, the more I am realizing how true this photo really is.
May 26, 2025 at 3:41 PM
Double dose of melatonin tonight. Can’t feel if I’m not awake.
May 25, 2025 at 3:27 AM
Asked an AI why I hurt so much this weekend. Got a scary accurate response.

Hopefully this will help me reason through the emotion better.

It’s nice to feel heard and validated tho, even if only by a machine.
May 25, 2025 at 2:50 AM
They say hyper independence is a maladaptive coping mechanism to trauma.

My therapist says that I have very good reasons for being this way, and the last few years of experiences have only reinforced the pattern.

That my ability to pick people good for me is broken - so this is how I survive.
May 24, 2025 at 3:57 PM
Ultimately, All, that internalized abuse turned to cancer and mental illness.

The wisdom she teaches me is to remove the toxic influences from my life.
May 24, 2025 at 3:51 PM
Mom still teaches wisdom, even after her passing. She wrote to me in her final letter that love is the precious of all emotions.

Self love is equally if not more important. She always saw the best in the others, even if they were abusive towards her.
May 24, 2025 at 3:50 PM
These experiences have given me a new perspective on people in my life and my ability to vet out toxic folks.
May 24, 2025 at 3:49 PM
Going through the hardest chapters of my life so far and I’ve noticed a repeated occurrence - when the going gets tough and I need support the most - no one is there.
May 24, 2025 at 3:36 PM
I’m forced to accept that some people who chose to stay in my life have only done so because I’m a way for them to make ends meet financially.

If you only talk to me/think of me when you need money then don’t think of / talk to me anymore.

I don’t need more false friends and fake relationships ☹️
May 24, 2025 at 2:12 PM