Delphi
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Shame must switch sides- Giselè Pelicot. I wish we had collectively helped Virginia Giuffre believe that and treated her with the care she deserved. She deserved better. Male sexual violence against women costs lives and does such collective damage.
April 26, 2025 at 6:13 AM
Shame must switch sides- Giselè Pelicot. I wish we had collectively helped Virginia Giuffre believe that and treated her with the care she deserved. She deserved better. Male sexual violence against women costs lives and does such collective damage.
If a learning environment prioritises control and conformity over someone’s personal development it is not, in fact, a learning environment.
April 4, 2025 at 11:04 AM
If a learning environment prioritises control and conformity over someone’s personal development it is not, in fact, a learning environment.
I remember Jamie saying on TV years ago, “By the time we talk about justice for women, they’re already dead”.
It’s true, male violence affects all of us, men included; ask the fathers and sons of murdered women. So if society is not actively taking a stand against it, it’s worth asking why that is.
It’s true, male violence affects all of us, men included; ask the fathers and sons of murdered women. So if society is not actively taking a stand against it, it’s worth asking why that is.
March 9, 2025 at 1:21 PM
I remember Jamie saying on TV years ago, “By the time we talk about justice for women, they’re already dead”.
It’s true, male violence affects all of us, men included; ask the fathers and sons of murdered women. So if society is not actively taking a stand against it, it’s worth asking why that is.
It’s true, male violence affects all of us, men included; ask the fathers and sons of murdered women. So if society is not actively taking a stand against it, it’s worth asking why that is.
The definition of contribution in the modern world implies that if you don’t work, you have no value. This is not the case.
Bringing a pint of milk to a poorly neighbour, helping a grieving friend in a moment of need, or choosing compassion over hate on public transport.
That’s contribution.
Bringing a pint of milk to a poorly neighbour, helping a grieving friend in a moment of need, or choosing compassion over hate on public transport.
That’s contribution.
March 8, 2025 at 12:31 PM
The definition of contribution in the modern world implies that if you don’t work, you have no value. This is not the case.
Bringing a pint of milk to a poorly neighbour, helping a grieving friend in a moment of need, or choosing compassion over hate on public transport.
That’s contribution.
Bringing a pint of milk to a poorly neighbour, helping a grieving friend in a moment of need, or choosing compassion over hate on public transport.
That’s contribution.
Still feels relevant.
February 28, 2025 at 11:06 PM
Still feels relevant.
When you think about it, it’s wild that we “sell” self-care as a strategy to help people get back to work, to be more productive and to do more for others. What if we just agreed that it’s important for our own well-being and we have the right to rest?
January 29, 2025 at 7:18 AM
When you think about it, it’s wild that we “sell” self-care as a strategy to help people get back to work, to be more productive and to do more for others. What if we just agreed that it’s important for our own well-being and we have the right to rest?
Stop making people do icebreakers they don’t want; it’s a power trip.
It’s not our job, as educators, to “push people out of their comfort zone”. Because we don’t know where that begins and ends.
Read my article on Medium here (with a link to a longer article): medium.com/@delphiellis...
It’s not our job, as educators, to “push people out of their comfort zone”. Because we don’t know where that begins and ends.
Read my article on Medium here (with a link to a longer article): medium.com/@delphiellis...
January 29, 2025 at 6:00 AM
Stop making people do icebreakers they don’t want; it’s a power trip.
It’s not our job, as educators, to “push people out of their comfort zone”. Because we don’t know where that begins and ends.
Read my article on Medium here (with a link to a longer article): medium.com/@delphiellis...
It’s not our job, as educators, to “push people out of their comfort zone”. Because we don’t know where that begins and ends.
Read my article on Medium here (with a link to a longer article): medium.com/@delphiellis...
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This feels relevant.
January 24, 2025 at 8:45 PM
This feels relevant.
Coercive and controlling behaviours show up at work, where demands are petty and staff are punished (absence procedures are a classic example) leaving the workforce exhausted and afraid.
But it’s normalised with “It’s for everyone’s benefit” just as perpetrators say “it’s for your own good”.
But it’s normalised with “It’s for everyone’s benefit” just as perpetrators say “it’s for your own good”.
January 24, 2025 at 8:02 PM
Coercive and controlling behaviours show up at work, where demands are petty and staff are punished (absence procedures are a classic example) leaving the workforce exhausted and afraid.
But it’s normalised with “It’s for everyone’s benefit” just as perpetrators say “it’s for your own good”.
But it’s normalised with “It’s for everyone’s benefit” just as perpetrators say “it’s for your own good”.
It’s not “mental health”.
It’s not alcohol.
It’s not any of the other excuses that gives him a free pass.
Male violence is a moral issue of false supremacy, that includes a toxic belief of entitlement to posses, oppress, subjugate and dominate.
It’s a choice, because he chooses who he harms.
It’s not alcohol.
It’s not any of the other excuses that gives him a free pass.
Male violence is a moral issue of false supremacy, that includes a toxic belief of entitlement to posses, oppress, subjugate and dominate.
It’s a choice, because he chooses who he harms.
January 24, 2025 at 4:58 PM
It’s not “mental health”.
It’s not alcohol.
It’s not any of the other excuses that gives him a free pass.
Male violence is a moral issue of false supremacy, that includes a toxic belief of entitlement to posses, oppress, subjugate and dominate.
It’s a choice, because he chooses who he harms.
It’s not alcohol.
It’s not any of the other excuses that gives him a free pass.
Male violence is a moral issue of false supremacy, that includes a toxic belief of entitlement to posses, oppress, subjugate and dominate.
It’s a choice, because he chooses who he harms.
Inquiry. Report. Review. Repeat.
So when exactly is meaningful change coming?
So when exactly is meaningful change coming?
January 24, 2025 at 4:49 PM
Inquiry. Report. Review. Repeat.
So when exactly is meaningful change coming?
So when exactly is meaningful change coming?
Now that the wind has changed direction in the US, interested to see how many UK organisations will still support awareness days, group equality networks, and stakeholder forums fighting for change (including MVAWG) - or if it was all just tick boxes and PR.
Principles and values will be tested.
Principles and values will be tested.
January 24, 2025 at 12:16 PM
Now that the wind has changed direction in the US, interested to see how many UK organisations will still support awareness days, group equality networks, and stakeholder forums fighting for change (including MVAWG) - or if it was all just tick boxes and PR.
Principles and values will be tested.
Principles and values will be tested.
How much of what comes out of your mouth every day is what you’ve “heard”, and how much is what you’ve taken the time to research, learn and understand?
How many of your beliefs about humans have been influenced by your caregivers, the media or your education, and how many by your own experiences?
How many of your beliefs about humans have been influenced by your caregivers, the media or your education, and how many by your own experiences?
January 17, 2025 at 8:32 AM
How much of what comes out of your mouth every day is what you’ve “heard”, and how much is what you’ve taken the time to research, learn and understand?
How many of your beliefs about humans have been influenced by your caregivers, the media or your education, and how many by your own experiences?
How many of your beliefs about humans have been influenced by your caregivers, the media or your education, and how many by your own experiences?
Saying “It happened for a reason” to someone who has been harmed that doesn’t align with that narrative, is like saying “You needed something awful to happen in order to make you a better person.”
Apart from anything, it mimics the harm doer who told them “You brought this on yourself”.
Just, no.
Apart from anything, it mimics the harm doer who told them “You brought this on yourself”.
Just, no.
January 13, 2025 at 6:24 PM
Saying “It happened for a reason” to someone who has been harmed that doesn’t align with that narrative, is like saying “You needed something awful to happen in order to make you a better person.”
Apart from anything, it mimics the harm doer who told them “You brought this on yourself”.
Just, no.
Apart from anything, it mimics the harm doer who told them “You brought this on yourself”.
Just, no.
Trainers who think their job is to “push people out of their comfort zone” are not prioritising the learning experience, but their own power and control.
They’re also ignoring the fact that people don’t learn if they don’t feel safe. Therefore, comfort is actually key for learning to take place.
They’re also ignoring the fact that people don’t learn if they don’t feel safe. Therefore, comfort is actually key for learning to take place.
January 12, 2025 at 2:06 PM
Trainers who think their job is to “push people out of their comfort zone” are not prioritising the learning experience, but their own power and control.
They’re also ignoring the fact that people don’t learn if they don’t feel safe. Therefore, comfort is actually key for learning to take place.
They’re also ignoring the fact that people don’t learn if they don’t feel safe. Therefore, comfort is actually key for learning to take place.
“What many don’t realise is that it’s “normal” people doing this. It’s not “monsters or weirdos. It’s people that live among us – our colleagues, partners, friends.”
Also Image Based Abuse is a more appropriate term than “Revenge” P0rn. Revenge implies he’s “entitled” to retaliate. He’s not.
Also Image Based Abuse is a more appropriate term than “Revenge” P0rn. Revenge implies he’s “entitled” to retaliate. He’s not.
‘Would love to see her faked’: the dark world of sexual deepfakes - and the women fighting back
‘Would love to see her faked’: the dark world of sexual deepfakes - and the women fighting back
The government has promised a crackdown on synthetic image abuse - but campaigners warn it doesn’t go far enough
It began with an anonymous email. “I’m genuinely so, so sorry to reach out to you,” it read. Beneath the words were three links to an…
www.theguardian.com
January 12, 2025 at 11:51 AM
“What many don’t realise is that it’s “normal” people doing this. It’s not “monsters or weirdos. It’s people that live among us – our colleagues, partners, friends.”
Also Image Based Abuse is a more appropriate term than “Revenge” P0rn. Revenge implies he’s “entitled” to retaliate. He’s not.
Also Image Based Abuse is a more appropriate term than “Revenge” P0rn. Revenge implies he’s “entitled” to retaliate. He’s not.
There seems to be a large number of people who deliver training in adult learning environments, who have never actually learned how to deliver training in adult learning environments. They teach how they received training or how they were taught at school, without questioning if that’s appropriate.
January 11, 2025 at 11:21 AM
There seems to be a large number of people who deliver training in adult learning environments, who have never actually learned how to deliver training in adult learning environments. They teach how they received training or how they were taught at school, without questioning if that’s appropriate.
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I loath icebreakers. When you're doing them as part of a work training events you usually know everyone anyway.
Ice-breakers do not serve a useful function beyond sucking up time and creating discomfort among learners, same as putting people in to pairs with complete strangers and expecting them to get along.
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Training adults? Let the ice-breaker go
Making people uncomfortable doesn’t help them learn.
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January 10, 2025 at 6:37 PM
I loath icebreakers. When you're doing them as part of a work training events you usually know everyone anyway.
If organisations really want to demonstrate that they care about the welfare of staff, look at the way power and control shows up in the workplace. 1/3 ⬇️
January 10, 2025 at 12:01 PM
If organisations really want to demonstrate that they care about the welfare of staff, look at the way power and control shows up in the workplace. 1/3 ⬇️
Ice-breakers do not serve a useful function beyond sucking up time and creating discomfort among learners, same as putting people in to pairs with complete strangers and expecting them to get along.
medium.com/@delphiellis...
medium.com/@delphiellis...
Training adults? Let the ice-breaker go
Making people uncomfortable doesn’t help them learn.
medium.com
January 10, 2025 at 11:14 AM
Ice-breakers do not serve a useful function beyond sucking up time and creating discomfort among learners, same as putting people in to pairs with complete strangers and expecting them to get along.
medium.com/@delphiellis...
medium.com/@delphiellis...
This feels relevant.
January 9, 2025 at 9:10 PM
This feels relevant.
On the Own My Life course, developed by Natalie Collins, we talk about cultural “unlesses”.
These are the way society normalises violence towards women (for example, in media headlines) if she doesn’t meet a man’s “needs”. Eg, “Violence is wrong… unless she doesn’t cook his tea”.
These are the way society normalises violence towards women (for example, in media headlines) if she doesn’t meet a man’s “needs”. Eg, “Violence is wrong… unless she doesn’t cook his tea”.
January 8, 2025 at 8:31 PM
On the Own My Life course, developed by Natalie Collins, we talk about cultural “unlesses”.
These are the way society normalises violence towards women (for example, in media headlines) if she doesn’t meet a man’s “needs”. Eg, “Violence is wrong… unless she doesn’t cook his tea”.
These are the way society normalises violence towards women (for example, in media headlines) if she doesn’t meet a man’s “needs”. Eg, “Violence is wrong… unless she doesn’t cook his tea”.
As weird as this sounds, misogyny can actually be levied at men and boys as well.
An example is when he is told “you throw like a girl”. It’s misogyny because being “like a girl” implies he is not a “real man” (whatever that means), and he is therefore “less than” and (wrongly) worthy of abuse.
An example is when he is told “you throw like a girl”. It’s misogyny because being “like a girl” implies he is not a “real man” (whatever that means), and he is therefore “less than” and (wrongly) worthy of abuse.
January 8, 2025 at 8:03 PM
As weird as this sounds, misogyny can actually be levied at men and boys as well.
An example is when he is told “you throw like a girl”. It’s misogyny because being “like a girl” implies he is not a “real man” (whatever that means), and he is therefore “less than” and (wrongly) worthy of abuse.
An example is when he is told “you throw like a girl”. It’s misogyny because being “like a girl” implies he is not a “real man” (whatever that means), and he is therefore “less than” and (wrongly) worthy of abuse.