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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Jun 3

Read more & get practical ways to clear through the noise:

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When Your Brain Feels Fried: Managing Cognitive Overload in Divorce

Feeling cognitive overload during divorce and post-separation abuse? Here’s how to recognize the warning signs and take steady steps to recover.

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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Jun 3

When you’re dealing with divorce and an abusive ex, it’s no wonder your brain feels overloaded. It’s not because you’re failing — it’s because you’re doing too much with too little support.

This post is a reminder that even if you’re stuck in the mental fog, you’re not broken.
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DEALING WITH
DIVORCE & ABUSE?
SMALL, PRACTICAL WAYS TO EASE COGNITIVE OVERLOAD RIGHT NOW

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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Apr 10

This is your regular reminder that JD Vance & Project 2025 want to end No-Fault Divorce.

Take care of it before they take it away - several states already have it in the works

And change back to your maiden name in case they shove through the SAVE Act & try to take away your right to vote as well.

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DomesticShelters.org @domesticshelters.bsky.social · Mar 20

Missing an ex after a breakup is normal, but it’s important to remember the negative experiences. If there’s concern for safety, working with a domestic violence advocate to create a plan—including legal protections—can help ensure a safe and clean break.

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Ask Amanda: Should I Text My Ex?

Texting your ex is probably never a good idea when he showed red flags of abuse.

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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Mar 7

Feeling drained after court? Use these simple art practices to regroup.

Court hearings can leave you emotionally drained & dysregulated. These simple, no-pressure art practices can help you reset, release stress, and reclaim a sense of calm

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Feeling Drained After Court? Use These Simple Art Practices to Regroup

Court hearings can leave you emotionally drained. These simple, no-pressure art practices can help you reset, release stress, and reclaim a sense of calm.

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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Mar 7

Feeling drained after court? Use these simple art practices to regroup.

Court hearings can leave you emotionally drained & dysregulated. These simple, no-pressure art practices can help you reset, release stress, and reclaim a sense of calm

divorcealchemycollective.com/feeling-drai...

Feeling Drained After Court? Use These Simple Art Practices to Regroup

Court hearings can leave you emotionally drained. These simple, no-pressure art practices can help you reset, release stress, and reclaim a sense of calm.

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DomesticShelters.org @domesticshelters.bsky.social · Mar 6

When both parties are issued protective orders, the true victim faces increased risks, including harassment, false accusations and legal consequences. This can also endanger involved children and lead to severe emotional and practical repercussions.

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How Mutual Protection Orders Harm Victims & What To Do

Learn how mutual protection orders can empower abusers and what survivors and victims can do to protect themselves.

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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Mar 6

“I loathe the idea that, if they are abused, an already dismissive justice system will be an even less reliable ally, especially as Trump will appoint more judges over the next four years.”

Great piece by @jessgrose.bsky.social

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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Dec 17

Abuse doesn’t usually start with yelling or obvious aggression.

It more often than not starts quietly:

*You stop texting your best friend because it “upsets” the abuser.

*You start avoiding family because the abuser claims they’re “too dramatic” or “disrespectful.”

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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Nov 12

Art has a long history as a form of resistance.

When words don’t feel safe, are hard to find, or aren’t enough, creativity can be a quiet but powerful response to difficult times - a way to reclaim space and your voice, even when the world feels out of control. #artasresistance

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DomesticShelters.org @domesticshelters.bsky.social · Mar 5

Verbal abuse can be harder to recognize than you may think.

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#DomesticViolence #Abuse #DomesticAbuse

10 Patterns of Verbal Abuse

Verbal abuse often takes on these patterns. Learn the ten most common patterns from author Patricia Evans.

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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Feb 20

And while there, be sure to grab your cheat sheet of the practices to keep handy

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Five Art for Healing Practices After Divorce & Coercive Control

Art can help you heal when words fall short. These five creative practices let you process emotions and reclaim your voice. No artistic skills needed. You just need a willingness to show up for yourse...

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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Feb 20

Art has been a big part of my healing from trauma and abuse.

I think everyone can benefit from an art practice, but I know it can feel intimidating or inaccessible for many.

So I put together 5 art practices for healing that are helpful whether you feel creative or not.

Link below 👇🏼

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Karla Archer @karlaarcher.bsky.social · Feb 26

🗣️This is your weekly reminder that Project 2025 and JD Vance want to end No-Fault Divorce, in addition to taking away your right to vote.

Please get your things in order and leave while you still can.

This is not hyperbole. You’ve witnessed the last month…

Amanda Marcotte @amandamarcotte.bsky.social · Feb 26

Republican women voted for Trump, believing complicity would save them.

But now MAGA men are pushing conservative women out of leadership, de facto legalizing abuse, and signaling that the era of "chivalry" will be replaced with the era of eating shit.

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"A woman is like a child": MAGA turns its sights on stripping Republican women of power

Conservative women believe complicity will save them, but an emboldened far-right is gunning for their rights

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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Feb 22

I mean, come on — Health? Reproductive right?

A graphic from a Men’s Equality group claiming men are the victims of the following:

Areas of Male Inequality
1. Education
2. Health
3. The Boy Crisis
4. False Allegations
5. Violence against Men
6. Shared Parenting
7. Victims of Crime
8. Partner Abuse
9. Homelessness
10. Workplace Injury
11. Reproductive Rights
12. Media Bias

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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Feb 22

This article is alarming but not surprising given the entire MAGA/Project 2025 is based on their perceived victimization.

Hatred of DEI is as much abt male supremacy as it is about white supremacy.

Raw Story @rawstory.com · Feb 22

This year's conference feels more like an all-male retreat

MAGA’s war on 'male inequality' rages at CPAC

NATIONAL HARBOR, MD — This just might be the year American men finally overcome centuries of political, cultural and marital oppression that have ravaged the gender and kept guys locked out of key pol...

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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Feb 20

And while there, be sure to grab your cheat sheet of the practices to keep handy

divorcealchemycollective.com/five-art-for...

Five Art for Healing Practices After Divorce & Coercive Control

Art can help you heal when words fall short. These five creative practices let you process emotions and reclaim your voice. No artistic skills needed. You just need a willingness to show up for yourse...

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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Feb 20

Art has been a big part of my healing from trauma and abuse.

I think everyone can benefit from an art practice, but I know it can feel intimidating or inaccessible for many.

So I put together 5 art practices for healing that are helpful whether you feel creative or not.

Link below 👇🏼

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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Jan 17

I’ll continue to highlight these connections because advocating against abuse means addressing systems that uphold it.

If that makes some people uncomfortable, or say I’m being divisive so be it - this work isn’t about making anyone comfortable.

It’s about confronting abuse, wherever it lives.

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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Jan 17

Right now, politicians with credible allegations (and even convictions) of sexual abuse and coercive control are being elevated to power. This is a direct threat to women and children, and ignoring it only perpetuates harm.

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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Jan 17

But I also want to be clear: we can’t tackle these issues on a personal level without calling out the systems that enable them. That includes churches, governments, and other institutions.
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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Jan 17

Everything is political. If you’re here, you’re familiar with the abuse and coercive control I highlight in marriages/post-separation & divorce.

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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Feb 7

This admin and its enablers lie when they tell you they are all about protecting children.

Marisa Kabas @marisakabas.bsky.social · Feb 7

New — The National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC) was told this week by DOJ that they'd lose their funding if the org didn't remove any mentions of LGBTQIA+ issues from their public materials, I've learned. Staff were told they need to deadname trans kids in their reports to comply.

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Moira Donegan @moiradonegan.bsky.social · Feb 6

An attack on women’s access to paid work.

Jake Grumbach @jakemgrumbach.bsky.social · Feb 4

nativist populism, except it's the world's richest man, a foreigner, unconstitutionally witholding congressionally appropriated funds for American preschoolers

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The Divorce Alchemy Collective @divorcealchemy.bsky.social · Feb 4

If you are in domestic abuse awareness and advocacy circles and support this admin, I have questions.

Screenshot of a post by @sawyerhackett responding to Trump’s announcement of nominating a man who violently abused his wife’s.

Sawyer Hackett: “Trump just announced Sean Parnell as the chief Pentagon Spokesman.
Parnell's wife testified under oath that he repeatedly choked her. He ultimately lost custody of his children.”

Original announcement by Trump:
“I am pleased to announce that Sean Parnell will be the Assistant to the Secretary of Defense for Public Affairs, and Chief Pentagon Spokesman.
A Great American Patriot, Sean is a fearless Combat Veteran, who led one of the most decorated units in the Afghanistan War. He earned two Bronze Stars and a Purple Heart, while his platoon achieved an incredible record of eliminating over 350 enemy fighters. During my First Term, Sean was also instrumental helping pass the MISSION ACT, the BIGGEST VA Reform in History.
Congratulations to Sean, his wonderful wife, and their five children!”