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Self-improvement is a great idea, but it needs to be paired with compassion and self-acceptance. Here's why acceptance isn't the OPPOSITE of improvement.

Hey Doc. I'm a 22 year old college student, and I'm in something of a conundrum. See, about a month back I finally mustered up the courage to talk to my semester-long crush in one of my classes. First we bantered a little in class, then we had long talks around campus, then we were out on a lunch date, and the next thing I knew we were having steamy rooftop makeout time. Since then, we've been spending tons of time together: 4 days a week, easy, and for many hours at a time. We get along like a house

One of the recurring topics here at Paging Dr. NerdLove is the subject of creepers and creepy behavior. It's a perennial topic because just about every day gives yet another example of creepy behavior to talk about. Almost every woman out there has story after story about creepers in her life - a never-ending parade of guys who set their skin to trying to crawl clean off their body.   At the same time, one of the biggest fears that socially inexperienced guys have is that they're going to be creepy by accident. And in fairness: creepy is often in the eye of

Self-improvement is a great idea, but it needs to be paired with compassion and self-acceptance. Here's why acceptance isn't the OPPOSITE of improvement.

Self-improvement is a great idea, but it needs to be paired with compassion and self-acceptance. Here's why acceptance isn't the OPPOSITE of improvement.

Hey Doc, Thanks to what I've read on your site, as well as some personal developments in my life, I have better self-esteem and feel secure about myself...most of the time anyway. I am a 20 year old college student and right now, I feel really awful for suspecting that my best friend is sleeping with a girl I once had extreme feelings for.  Here's a bit of context: There's this girl I'm friends with who I had a really big crush on. My obvious displays of affection might have annoyed her but she was actually really nice to me

Breakups and rejection are an inevitable part of dating. It doesn't matter whether you're absurdly hot or not, whether you've never had a date in your life or your social life puts Hugh Hefner's to shame; you're going to get your heart broken at some point or another. You're going to be miserable. You're going to feel like the one shot you had at love has gone and now you're destined to never know anything other than pain. And one of the things that people are going to tell you over and over again is: 'Dude, you need to get over

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Hello Doc! I had a question I was hoping an expert could help me answer. I started dating a girl at the beginning of this year. Things were going great, we were highly compatible, she was an interesting conversationalist, and we were both physically and emotionally compatible. Great times were had by all... for about 4 months. See, about 3 months in I told her that I loved her. I meant it, of course. I sat on my feelings for a bit before expressing them, I wanted to be absolutely sure. She told me she did not feel the same

One of the never-ending struggles for men is the dichotomy of the Nice Guys vs. the Tough Guys. The Nice Guy is sexually null, a pathetic being who can't earn a woman's affection through his own worth and so attempts to weasel his way into her heart (and pants). The Tough Guy though... he's the dude to be, right? Adored by men, beloved by women. He's the alpha, the bad boy, the one who pushes the Nice Guy aside and bangs his girlfriend, his sister and his mom. The idea of the dominant alpha male as the superior mate has long been

He thought her being poly meant that she would always be available when he was single again. How can she stop getting hurt by men who don't get non-monogamy?

He thought her being poly meant that she would always be available when he was single again. How can she stop getting hurt by men who don't get non-monogamy?

Doc, Short and sweet. I just want to know how unhealthy it is that my girlfriend continues to be friends with all these men that openly want to have sex with her. Concerned Normally, this is the sort of question I'd pass over because there's pretty much nothing here and one that usually gets a snarky one-sentence answer. But I decided to feature this one because, frankly, I get this question a lot and honestly, in a lot of cases the details don't matter. Yeah, there're questions of 'have they actually said 'Hey, Concerned's Girlfriend, I want to part you like the Red

Breakups happen. It's a fact baked into every relationship: all relationships come to an end until one doesn't. Sometimes the breakup comes screaming out of the clear blue sky while other times it's like watching an oncoming train and knowing you'll never get out of the way in time. But not every relationship ends with a loud and dramatic climax. Sometimes the end has already come and nobody has noticed. Your relationship is shuffling along like a zombie, putting on the empty performance of being a couple even as your hopes and dreams quietly bleed into dispair. Sometimes there's that vague sense that