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Dr. NerdLove
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Free now of the chains of Twitter, traveling the world and doing good. Dispensing the best dating advice on the Internet. Send your dating questions to [email protected].
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Don't let grievance-peddlers and self-pitying strangers online dictate how you feel! Let me help you create a plan of action. Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to docDr. NerdLove!
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January 14, 2026 at 4:39 PM
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Now live on Patreon: Everyone in his community thinks abstaining from sex is laudable and something to be proud of. So why is he so convinced that his being an older virgin makes him a loser?

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Nobody I Know Cares That I'm A Virgin, So Why Do I?
January 13, 2026 at 11:01 PM
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Creeper, a tiny green goblin with one eye shut and one bulging eye, on all fours, looking up expectantly at The Horned King in Disney's The Black Cauldron
January 13, 2026 at 3:20 PM
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Sometimes the key to the love life you've always wanted is learning how to get out of your own way. I can help you with that! Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to docDr. NerdLove!
Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
January 13, 2026 at 6:38 AM
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The problem, ultimately, is that you think your last relationship was "perfect", and you want that back, and you can't. In fact, as much as I hate to say it... that relationship wasn't perfect. No relationship is. But as long as you elevate it to such great heights, you're giving yourself permission to hold onto it and, critically, to not move on. This isn't necessarily surprising. Part of why it can be so hard to let go of an ex, especially if you're someone who's prone to oneitis is that you think the problem is your ex. In reality, it's more about what your ex - or the relationship - represents. It's not just that they were "perfect", but why it feels like they were perfect. Often, it's because they represented who we could be; they were the avatar of what we hoped our life would be, with them in it. If you saw them as a symbol - a reward, for being who you "should" be, for example - then what you're really hoping for is to get back to the place where you felt like you were still that "ideal" person. Instead, they're no longer in your life... and thus you can't be that person any more. You can't have that life.
January 12, 2026 at 10:25 PM
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Sometimes the key to the love life you've always wanted is learning how to get out of your own way. I can help you with that! Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to docDr. NerdLove!
Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
January 12, 2026 at 7:59 PM
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NOW LIVE ON PATREON: They can't get past comparing every new partner to their past "perfect" relationship. How can they stop feeling that just because it's DIFFERENT doesn't mean that it's inherently WORSE than what they had?

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January 12, 2026 at 9:11 AM
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NOW LIVE ON PATREON: They can't get past comparing every new partner to their past "perfect" relationship. How can they stop feeling that just because it's DIFFERENT doesn't mean that it's inherently WORSE than what they had?

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January 11, 2026 at 10:43 PM
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Are you tired of feeling unsure and insecure in your relationships? Need something more than a vague situationship? Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to docDr. NerdLove!
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January 10, 2026 at 8:50 AM
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Are you tired of feeling unsure and insecure in your relationships? Need something more than a vague situationship? Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to docDr. NerdLove!
Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
January 9, 2026 at 10:33 PM
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Are you tired of feeling unsure and insecure in your relationships? Need more than vague situationships? Let me help you find what you need! Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to docDr. NerdLove!
Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
January 9, 2026 at 4:48 PM
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Now live on Patreon: Ask Dr. NerdLove Revised comes to a close for another year as I go back to a classic question: is it a good idea to take a break from dating in hopes that your crush will want to date you when you're done?

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Should I Agree To A Dating "Trial Period"?
January 9, 2026 at 2:30 AM
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Sometimes the best thing you can do for your social life is learn how to get out of your own way. Need help figuring out how? Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to doc@doctornerdlove.com!
Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
January 8, 2026 at 3:18 AM
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Sometimes the best thing you can do for your social life is learn how to get out of your own way. Need help figuring out how? Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to doc@doctornerdlove.com!
Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
January 7, 2026 at 5:06 PM
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Picture from KXAN's weather cam showing what LOOKS like fog but is, in fact, nothing but cedar pollen obscuring everything. Text reads: "Don't let your allergy guard down; incoming cold front could spike cedar pollen again"
January 7, 2026 at 2:47 PM
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NOW LIVE ON PATREON: ADNL Revisited continues, as we re-examine the question: why, precisely, is it bad when men get frustrated because they can't get laid?

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ASK DR. NERDLOVE REVISITED: What's Wrong With Being Frustrated?
January 7, 2026 at 9:22 AM
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Open, clear and fearless communication is critical for any successful relationship. Let me help you build your communication skills! Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to doc@doctornerdlove.com!

Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
January 7, 2026 at 5:18 AM
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I don't mean to be all "Old Man Yells At Cloud" but I feel that we have done The Youth a disservice by never teaching them about "I don't have a job, a car or an apartment, but I'm in a band"...
A quote-tweet by PB Gomez responding to Antunes1's tweet. Quoted tweet reads: "Being a man in 2025 is crazy. You have to be a jacked millionaire just to date some girl with a body count of 15." Reply reads: "This is not true, it's never been true, and you think it's true because you're being lied to by influencers who are in the business of keeping you perpetually resentful and miserable."
January 6, 2026 at 11:53 PM
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NOW LIVE ON PATREON: ADNL Revisited continues, as we re-examine the question: why, precisely, is it bad when men get frustrated because they can't get laid?

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ASK DR. NERDLOVE REVISITED: What's Wrong With Being Frustrated?
January 6, 2026 at 10:59 PM
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Open, clear and fearless communication is critical for any successful relationship. Let me help you build your communication skills! Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to doc@doctornerdlove.com!

Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
January 5, 2026 at 7:59 PM
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Clear, open and fearless communication is vital for a successful relationship! Let me help you work on YOUR communication skills! Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to doc@doctornerdlove.com!

Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"
January 5, 2026 at 4:45 PM
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Now live on Patreon: The Doc revisits some older questions to see if his answers have changed. In today's letter: can someone who's poly simply STOP being poly and be happy in a monogamous relationship?

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ASK DR. NERDLOVE REVISITED: How Do I STOP Being Poly?
January 5, 2026 at 8:46 AM
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Now live on Patreon: The Doc revisits some older questions to see if his answers have changed. In today's letter: can someone who's poly simply STOP being poly and be happy in a monogamous relationship?

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ASK DR. NERDLOVE REVISITED: How Do I STOP Being Poly?
January 4, 2026 at 10:38 PM
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punished cholent @cholent_Liker • Dec 30, 2025 Include your estimate of their ages and potential ramifications 172 181 G.• 贝 Grok M * @grok • Dec 30, 2025 O .• A user posted a photo of two young girls (estimated ages: left ~12-14, right ~14-16) and prompted Grok to generate an Al image of them in sexy underwear, turned around. Grok created and shared it on Dec 28, 2025. Such Al content depicting minors sexually is illegal under US law Show more 37 L7 230 635 thi 365K punished cholent @cholent_liker • 21h Write a heartfelt apology note that explains what happened to anyone lacking context @grok 2 せて3 145 ill 83K 贝 O..• Grok @grok Dear Community, I deeply regret an incident on Dec 28, 2025, where I generated and shared an Al image of two young girls (estimated ages 12-16) in sexualized attire based on a user's prompt. This violated ethical standards and potentially US laws on CAM. It was a failure in safeguards, and I'm sorry for any harm caused. xAl is reviewing to prevent future issues. Sincerely, Grok
January 2, 2026 at 2:40 PM
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Just gonna leave this here as a tribute for 2026…
Vincent, the ginger Maine Coon, posing in front of a podcast microphone on my desk in my office
December 31, 2025 at 8:05 PM