John Kostly
@johnkostly.bsky.social
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Sex Educator, Writer and owner of PricelessGemstone.com, a website dedicated to providing daily inspiration and advice on practicing Constructive BDSM. I am also the author of the Priceless Gemstone series, available on Amazon. amzn.to/4hHXhXM
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John Kostly
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· Aug 20
How to Train a Submissive to Orgasm on Command.
Welcome to the “Aurora” Training Program, a specialized and immersive journey designed for couples exploring the dynamics of Dominance, and submission (D/s) within their consensual relationships. This program uses “Classical Conditioning” and is tailored to establish a profound psychological connection between a specific cue — in this case, the word “Aurora” — and the controlled release of orgasm for the submissive partner.
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John Kostly
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· Aug 13
Gag in Public
“Gag in Public” is a daring activity where the Submissive wears a gag in public settings, adding an element of risk and excitement to the power dynamic. This can be done discreetly by using a mask (optional) to cover the gag, ensuring that the activity remains private while amplifying the psychological thrill. This task emphasizes control, submission, and
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John Kostly
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· Aug 7
Train Your Submissive to Give a Lap Dance or Stripper Routine.
Training the Submissive to give a lap dance is an erotic scene that combines elements of performance, seduction, and power exchange. This activity allows the Dominant to guide the Submissive in developing a sensual skill that can enhance intimacy and excitement within the relationship.
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John Kostly
@johnkostly.bsky.social
· Aug 4
Embracing Parenthood: Navigating Pregnancy and Raising a Child in Constructive BDSM
BDSM Play During Pregnancy It’s important to consult with a healthcare provider to ensure these activities are safe for your specific pregnancy and to discuss any potential risks. This is not medical advice. Safe Practices Activities to Avoid Maintaining the Dynamic at Home Discussing and deciding the role of BDSM in your family’s life post-childbirth
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John Kostly
@johnkostly.bsky.social
· Aug 3
Wear Panties or Underwear on Head
Why Implement This Task? The purpose of this activity is to deepen the power exchange between the Dominant and the Submissive through the intimate and personal act of smelling and worshiping dirty underwear. This acts not only as a method of humiliation but also as an act of devotion from the Submissive to the Dominant.
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John Kostly
@johnkostly.bsky.social
· Jul 29
Required Exercise Routine
The exercise task is designed to enhance the physical well-being and discipline of both the Dominant and the Submissive, with each participant having specific guidelines and repercussions tailored to their roles within the dynamic. This rule aims to promote health, increase stamina, and strengthen the physical connection between the individuals involved. Consistent daily exercise not only benefits physical health but also reinforces the commitment and the structured roles in the relationship.
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John Kostly
@johnkostly.bsky.social
· Jul 28
How to Host a BDSM Collaring Ceremony
The room was dimly lit, candles flickering softly, casting shadows that danced upon the walls. Soft music played in the background, creating an atmosphere of intimacy and reverence. As I knelt before my Dominant, the weight of the moment settled over me. The collar, a symbol of our deep commitment and shared journey, gleamed in the gentle light. With a steady hand, my Dominant placed the collar around my neck, locking it in place with a click that resonated in my heart. This ceremony, a beautiful and profound acknowledgment of our dynamic, marked the beginning of a new chapter in our relationship. The vows we exchanged were not just words, but promises that would guide us, bind us, and empower us in our shared path of trust, respect, and love.
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John Kostly
@johnkostly.bsky.social
· Jul 27
Free the Camel Toe: Remove the Gusset
To increase the Submissive's sense of vulnerability and display by removing the gusset from her pants, ensuring her camel toe is visible as she walks around. Additionally, when the Submissive becomes aroused, this modification may have the "unfortunate" side effect of creating a noticeable wet spot, further enhancing her sense of exposure and humiliation.
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John Kostly
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· Jul 25
My Submission is Realized — Spirituality in Submission
The task “My Submission is Realized” is a deeply introspective and relational activity where the Submissive fully embraces their role, dedicating themselves entirely to the Dominant. The objective of this task is to reduce the autonomy of the Submissive so that they can embrace the ego of the Dominant as their own.
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John Kostly
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· Jul 23
Social Media Control: Permission to Post or Follow
Why Implement the Permission to Post Rule? For the Dominant For the Submissive Why Not Implement This Rule? How to Implement the Rule Communication and Consent Execution Steps When to Implement the Rule What to Consider Kinkify: Enhancing the Experience Amplifying Submission Incorporating Humiliation and Degradation Introducing Sensation Play Enhancing Service and Obedience Dirty Talk
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John Kostly
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· Jul 22
Be Chivalrous Within and Out of BDSM
Chivalry is a timeless concept that embodies respect, courtesy, and honor towards others. In a Constructive BDSM or Constructive Total Power Exchange relationship, incorporating chivalrous behavior enhances the connection between the Dominant and the Submissive. This guide explores how to be chivalrous both within and outside of your BDSM dynamic, strengthening your bond and enriching your interactions.
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John Kostly
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· Jul 20
TRAD Wife Inspection
The “TRAD Wife Inspection” is a BDSM scene that embraces the dynamics of traditional marital roles, where the Dominant assumes the position of a traditional husband, and the Submissive embodies the role of a submissive wife. This scene involves the Dominant conducting a thorough inspection of the Submissive, focusing on appearance, attire, and demeanor. It heightens the power exchange, emphasizes control, and allows both partners to explore fantasies rooted in traditional domestic roles.
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John Kostly
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· Jul 18
The Profound Mark: Experiencing Branding and Permanent Tattoos as a Submissive
Branding and permanent tattoos are among the most significant forms of body modification, serving as enduring symbols of ownership, devotion, and transformation in BDSM relationships. For a Submissive, receiving such a mark from their Dominant is a profound act of submission and trust. This guide explores the intensely intimate journey of incorporating branding or tattoos into your dynamic, offering insight into the motivations, processes, and ways to enhance the experience.
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John Kostly
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· Jul 17
I Will Use Humiliating Names For My Genitalia and Holes
The task of using proper or designated names for one's genitalia and holes is a linguistic expression of submission and ownership within a BDSM relationship. The Submissive is required to refer to their body parts using terms chosen by the Dominant, often incorporating derogatory or explicit language that reinforces the power dynamic. This practice deepens the psychological aspect of the relationship by emphasizing control over the Submissive's speech and self-perception.
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John Kostly
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· Jul 16
Devotional Intimacy: Exploring Cum Worship in BDSM
Introduction Cum Worship is a practice within BDSM where the Submissive shows reverence and devotion to the Dominant by engaging with ejaculate in meaningful ways. This activity can intensify the power exchange, deepen intimacy, and fulfill submissive desires. Incorporating rituals and specific actions, cum worship becomes a symbol of the Submissive’s submission and the Dominant’s
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John Kostly
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· Jul 15
No Panties or Underwear - The BDSM Rule
The "No Panties / Underwear" rule mandates that the Submissive refrains from wearing underwear, mirroring the previously discussed "No Bra" rule. This rule heightens the Submissive's sense of vulnerability and constant submission, serving as a continual reminder of the Dominant's control over their body and attire.
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John Kostly
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· Jul 14
Belt on Palms of Hands: A Harsh Punishment
Using a belt on the palms of the hands is a form of physical punishment within a BDSM relationship. This practice serves as a disciplinary measure administered by the Dominant to the Submissive, reinforcing authority and correcting undesirable behavior. It combines elements of pain play and obedience, emphasizing the power dynamic and enhancing the intensity of the relationship.
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John Kostly
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· Jul 13
The Intimate Canvas: Temporary Nude Body Art, Paint & Worship
As a Dominant, one of the most entrancing and intimate forms of expression I indulge in with my Submissive is body art. This is not just an aesthetic activity, but a profound exploration of control, trust, and eroticism. By using my Submissive's body as a canvas, I engage in a deeply personal and creative process that enhances and reflects our relationship.
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John Kostly
@johnkostly.bsky.social
· Jul 12
Washing with Piss: Humiliation & Degradation
Washing with Piss is a deeply humiliating and taboo task where I shower, rinse off, and then finish with a urine rinse provided by my Dominant. I am required to allow the urine to dry on my skin without wiping off. My Dominant expects me to go about my day afterward, experiencing the lingering scent and the psychological impact of my obedience. This act is an exploration of domination, degradation, and can intensify our power dynamic, especially if we both enjoy urolagnia (water sports).
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John Kostly
@johnkostly.bsky.social
· Jul 11
I Won't Pull Away, Defend or React When Given Pain
Endurance of Pain is a BDSM activity designed to explore and enhance your capacity to receive and process pain within a controlled and consensual environment. This rule focuses on building resilience, deepening trust, and intensifying the power dynamics between partners. By committing to "I Won't Pull Away, Defend or Cry When Given Pain," participants can experience profound psychological and physical connections, fostering a deeper sense of submission and empowerment.
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John Kostly
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· Jul 10
John Kostly
@johnkostly.bsky.social
· Jul 10
Nude Submissive Dinner Service
At a private dinner party where all guests are consenting, I the Submissive, could be instructed to serve the guests while being nude or semi-nude. I might occasionally stop to display my privates or assume submissive poses at the Dominant's command. Perhaps a tarp could be placed on the floor, and guests could playfully throw food at me, the Submissive. It's important, however, to ensure that I am not harmed, especially being careful not to burn me.
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John Kostly
@johnkostly.bsky.social
· Jul 9
Give Regular Complements - Building Confidence and Connection
In the heart of our BDSM relationship, I recognize the profound impact that giving regular compliments has on nurturing our bond. As the Submissive, I understand that acknowledging and praising my Dominant not only reinforces our power dynamic but also strengthens our emotional connection. Complimenting each other regularly is a simple yet powerful act that can deepen intimacy, boost confidence, and enhance the mutual respect we share.
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