You can't counteract the influence of a misogynistic trope by just doing a gender swapped version of it now and then, actually. It's going to reinforce regressive ideas of women which doesn't stop being the case because you threw in a mirrored version of it somewhere in the work.

Don't be afraid to be you on the page. The barest you, the most naked, exposed, and self-deprecating. Write like your parents will never read it. That's the person readers are dying to get to know. Deep down in those depths is where you will find that elusive "voice" for your stories.